It would be great to get a guy's perspective on a major issue my husband and I are having.
I'm almost 5 months pregnant, it was a planned pregnancy, and my husband is generally thrilled and excited about the baby. There is something though that's constantly causing fights and it's getting to a point where the stress is really affecting me.
I've always been a very health-conscious person but since I became pregnant it's fair to say I've been taking things to a whole new level. In addition to eating healthy, I'm also trying to minimize toxins in our household. We just moved into an older apartment and I'm concerned about the new low quality carpet that has a strong chemical smell and is producing tons of dust all the time, the water is coming out yellow sometimes and I'm worried about lead paint too. The lease is month to month so we can move anytime and we have agreed more or less to move in a couple months if things don't improve. My husband has no understanding for any of this. He says there are no unhealthy things in apartments at all and that everybody lives like this and that it's all in my head. When I offer to show him a scientific study or medical article, he refuses to read it and writes it all off as internet bull****. It's other things too. He also gets annoyed when I try to make sure we buy the right kind of fish to minimize mercury exposure, for example. To me it feels like he is either naïve and ignorant or doesn't care about the baby's health. He insists that the baby is completely healthy (even though it hasn't even been born yet). I'm the only one that tries to make sure I minimize common risks and not only is he not supportive, he fights with me over these things. To him I'm completely crazy and he says I'm making his life difficult. I never tell him what to eat or do though. He can eat junk food and roll around on the carpet if he wants. I just want to have some understanding from his side and concern for the baby.
Any insight on what is going on here? Thanks!