How long did you wait to share your news?

AudreyEB · December 2008

So, we just found out we're pregnant today!...previous post...

We're just aching to share our news with our closest of family and friends, esp when we see them in person at Christmas...but wondering if we should wait awhile. I guess the big reason to wait is for the big miscarriage risk to pass?

What did you/are you planning to do?

2bearichards · December 2008

Congrats!!

First pregnancy, we told family at about 6 weeks and told friends right after that. We figured, if something did happen, we would want their support.

This pregnancy we told right away.

VandJ-Forever · December 2008

CONGRATS!

We told our parents the same day we found out. Seriously..i couldn't keep my mouth shut. But I figured, God forbid something happened...i'd rather them be aware and there to support us. I didn't tell everyone else until about 10 wks though...

NotJustAnAuntie · December 2008

I told the lady at the Taco Bell drive thru first! LOL

After I told DH, we decided to tell the people we would turn to for support *if* something should happen. Parents and siblings and 2 of our closest friends.

Everyone else found out at about 10 weeks (a little before the 1st tri was over, but it was our anniversary, so it made sense!)

kbrodie06 · December 2008

I shared with a friend at about 6 weeks and with family around 9 weeks. I got little cards from fetalgreetings.com and sent them out. Of course we told my mom in person when she was visiting and then called my dad and his parents. They all spread it super fast from there.

Kristin

Just remember regarding telling. Anyone you tell early, you may have to untell is something goes wrong. (sorry if that sounds bad, i dont mean it to)

Mrs.Ganja · December 2008

I told my mom the very day we found out--I talk to her every day and had managed to keep from her that we were TTC, so I had to blab.

We then told my dad and dh's parents soon after and asked them not to tell. Next time, we will not tell the ILs until we tell everyone else bc of this.

We didn't tell everyone until 10 weeks and after we saw the heartbeat. We've known at least 3 friends who had early M/Cs and we just didn't want to get ahead of ourselves on blabbing. I am now glad we waited. It was fun to send our xmas cards with the U/S pic as the announcement! Though it was very hard not to tell everyone right away!

AudreyEB · December 2008

The Taco Bell lady! That's hilarious.

Anyway, that all makes sense. I can't imagine I wouldn't want to my mom's support if we had a big problem.

yosemite · December 2008

With our first pregnancy we told everyone, right away. That pregnancy unfortunately ended in a missed miscarriage diagnosed at our first ultrasound at 8 weeks. I don't regret having told our parents and close friends. It was a bit uncomfortable having to untell everyone else though (especially when we thought we had broken the bad news to everyone, but people would slip through the cracks, and then congratulate us months later). With the second, we'll be more cautious, and probably cast a smaller net. Again, it's all about who you want for support if the worst happens. Don't mean to scare you, at all! Congratulations and good luck!!

ZoeMay06 · December 2008

We were at my family reunion when I got my BFP, so I told everyone who was there that day. The rest of our immediate families found out by phone later in the day, and closest friends when we got home. I also figured I could count on them for support if we had any complications, and kept saying "it's still super early and anything could happen..."

SecretAgentMom09 · December 2008

We are telling our families for Christmas. I know it's "early", but I know they will support us no matter what happens.

Celyn · December 2008

I totally don't believe in waiting. As someone who's had 2 m/cs, I personally think it's important not to keep them a secret. I need my family for support in both joy and sorrow.

joeysbabe · December 2008

We got out BFP last December and told our parents as one of their christmas gifts. They were sworn to secretcy until our 13 week U/S in early Feb. It worked out.

Mrs.K&C · December 2008

Congrats! Nice to see you again!

I agree with Celyn. I've had one miscarriage, at 12 weeks when it's presumably "ok" to tell. We had told close family and close friends the first time. Same as the second time, although most people suspected I was PG since they knew we had done IVF.

I have no regrets telling who we did, my only advice would be to only tell those you would be ok with un-telling. I didn't tell work with my first pregnancy and waited until I was about 15 weeks to tell with my 2nd.

SweetieP · December 2008

We always told people that we would want support from if something were to happen to the PG.

penguinwifey · December 2008

We didn't wait very long for both pregnancies (a couple of weeks at most) when we told our families. We just waited for an occasion in which we could all be together, like my birthday and our family vacation (which included extended family members). I told my close friends and co-workers soon after that, and then everyone else just heard through the grapevine.

Zeener · December 2008

Congratulations!!!

We told parents the first weekend we found out, about 4.5 wks

We told a couple of close friends at 6 or so weeks

We told extended family and bosses at about 10 wks.

green*eyes · December 2008

Congrats! And welcome back!

We told right away, at around 5 weeks. That's just what felt most comfortable to us.

tri_bride05 · December 2008

Told my mom the day of our 2nd positive blood test so 4 weeks, our dads and brothers at 6 weeks, a few close friends at 8 weeks, everyone else (other friends, relatives, coworkers) at the end of the first tri.

Kellina71 · December 2008

Congratulations! I think I met you at a Rockridge gtg back when I was pg w/ Caden... or maybe a different gtg before I was pg! Glad to see you here!

I told a few best friends and parents for the first pg. Then told most others after the 1st trimester. This pg- I told so many more people early on. Not sure why. I just wasn't as cautious.

H&H 9 months to you!!

Pebble_Cafe · December 2008

Congratulations!?

Celyn:
I totally don't believe in waiting.? As someone who's had 2 m/cs, I personally think it's important not to keep them a secret.? I need my family for support in both joy and sorrow.

This is true of me too. I'm close to my family so not telling feels odd. With the first 3 I told right away. One, unfortunately ended in a m/c. With my 4th pregnancy I think we lasted only two weeks before spilling the beans... I was in shock for 3 months.

I didn't tell work until 10/11 weeks. I started missing a lot of days or coming in late due to ms so I had to tell my boss.?

AFwifey · December 2008

Congratulations!

I told my sister right away. The rest of my family and DH's family we told around 10 weeks. I told my work at 11 weeks since I was always so sick and I didn't want them thinking I was calling in sick for no good reason.

luckyladyinjune · December 2008

We told our parents the day after we found out and most of our friends by around 6 weeks. It was hard to keep in. Also I figured if something happened they would understand and they would support us no matter what. Congrats!!!

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