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Births announcement in neighborhood :(

irons633irons633 member
edited November 2013 in Late Term and Child Loss
Today would've been my baby shower and I actually got thru it very well. Friday night was more emotional for me and a bottle of wine dated. My friend who was throwing my shower took me out to dinner and we had a great time. Upon driving home, a house about 4 houses from had a large pink stork in the yard advertising the announcement of the arrival of their daughter. It was like the biggest slap in the face. If I hadn't been on the phone with my mother who is my greatest support system I probably would've broke down in the car. It was like I saw her in the neighborhood walking while I was still pregnant, and now to know she had her baby girl just stings like hell. It's that feeling we all have of why does everyone else who was pregnant with me why do they get to have their baby and I don't have my baby girl or my son. I wish them congratulations because I don't know if that baby is their rainbow but I wanted to have my birth announcement in my yard in January :(
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  • diamante1181diamante1181 member
    I'm so sorry, that must've hurt so badly. I'm glad you had your mom to get you through it, though. I get these same thoughts. A girl I work with who is pg (she is due in Dec) posted a fb pic of her belly and her husband leaning his head on it. It was lovingly captioned "says he wants to sleep next to the baby. He's such a good daddy" All I could think of is how wonderful of a father my husband is/would've been, and how we don't have that chance now of seeing it happen. I could almost hear an audible break in my heart. Ugh, the life.
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  • VyD81VyD81 member
    I'm sorry, it's so hard to be happy for someone else when you're heart is broken. Just when it feels like the wound is healing, it gets cut open again. So unfair :(
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  • jess123456jess123456 member
    Big hugs to you. That must have really hurt. It is just not fair. Just when we feel like we are having a good moment, bam it hits.

    I was trying to explain this to my mom. I saw someone post something on Facebook and she said that it wasn't about me and she didn't mean it to hurt anyone. What my mom doesn't understand is of course I know it isn't about me, what hurts is the reminder and triggers that set me off as if I am not constantly thinking of my babies anyway. It's very hard. I wish I could give you a big hug in person.
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  • kz's_girlygirlkz's_girlygirl member
    I am so sorry!  Seeing things like that are incredibly difficult for me as well, and seeing an announcement on a day that has particular meaning for you is even harder.  My husband keeps telling me that I'm doing "awesome", and now I am saying it to you.  You are doing -awesome!!- 
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    4 Gonal-F, Cetrotide, HcG, Crinone +TI cycles= all BFN
    Lap in 2012 to remove large unresolving cyst discovered endo and double lobed ovary.
     6 Gonal-F, Cetrotide, HcG, Crinone IUI cycles= All BFN,
    1st IVF w/ICSI- June '13 Antagonist: Gonal-F, Menopur, Ganirelix, HcG, Estradiol, Crinone= 7 retrieved, 4 mature, 1 unfertilized, 2 abnormally fertilized, 1 normally fertilized.  2DT of only embryo and our miracle BFP.
    Our beloved baby boy was born sleeping Oct. 13, 2013 due to pROM/IC/Uterine infection.
    2nd IVF w/ICSI- Feb. '14 EPP/lupron/antagonist: Estrace, lupron, HGH, Gonal-F, Menopur, HcG, PIO, lovenox, doxy/dex.=21 retrieved, 16 mature, 15 fertilized!!  5dt of 1 blast/ 6 frozen. BFP!  Beta 1 9dp5dt:83.9  Beta 2: 11dp5dt: 145.2  Beta 3  14dp5dt: 497  Please be our sticky rainbow baby!

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  • stefugestefuge member
    What awful timing! As if you weren't already having an incredibly rough day. I am so sorry! Big ((hugs)).
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  • OSUWifey09OSUWifey09 member
    ***SIGGY***

    I'm so sorry. =( I know seeing things like that is so hard, especially on a day like yesterday. Sending lots and lots of hugs your way.






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  • mingaling2mingaling2 member
    Big hugs to you.  I'm sorry you had to see that - terrible timing.

     
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  • irons633irons633 member
    Thank you ladies! It was very difficult and I know that I should not be jealous but its hard not to be sometimes. Thank you all for your support and wonderful words of encouragement. 
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