Measuring small

teacher0708 · November 2013

More a vent then anything. I was at the grocery store this morning and say an old coworker. She commented that I was small for how far along I am. I am only measuring a week behind and my dr is not concerned. The baby is low but healthy. A week is within range and I can feel baby move but comments do not help the pgal brain. I wish January would get here.

sleepymonkey · November 2013

I can understand. I am measuring on track but I have gotten comments from almost everyone that I tell my due date to that I am way too small to be so far along. I have even had people tell me that there must be something wrong with LO and I should get a second opinion. I have problems with anxiety and getting these comments do not help at all. But I just keep telling myself that as long as my OB is happy with everything and he says LO is healthy, I shouldn't worry. I don't know what people are thinking telling pregnant women that things could be wrong with their babies.

teacher0708 · November 2013

I don't know why these comments bother me. I guess I am overthinking things

BABYROSEJEANS17 · November 2013

No, it gets super annoying after a while and then it makes you more neurotic thinking there's something wrong. At my last appointment my OB said I was measuring between 27-28. But of course my family, friends, coworkers and strangers feel the need to tell me that I look small in comparison to how far along I am. Honestly, if my OB isn't concerned than I'm fine with that.

Shannahbee · November 2013

I'm not actually measuring small (like fundal height-wise), but I also get comments almost daily about how small I am. And not in a nice way- in a concerned tone. Ppl need to keep their opinions to themselves. I just keep reminding myself that the doctor knows what he's talking about, and he says everything is great... and try to push the other comments out of my mind.

RedSaffron · November 2013

Don't listen to them- if your doctor says you're fine then listen to them because other ppl have no idea what the heck they are talking about. Either we are too small or carrying twins. Big or small, your main concern is that baby is healthy.

Coco1236 · November 2013

I'm measuring on track but I guess I look small for 30 weeks and I get comments like that all the time. I know how you feel, it bothers me so much! I already worry enough and I don't need the added stress of stranger's stupid comments and concerns.

Bottom line-- nobody should EVER comment on a pregnant woman's size!! It's rude.

thegosiers · November 2013

I've been getting the "really, you're due in January, not March?" comments. I take a deep breath, remember that my doctor is not concerned, and feel thankful that maybe I'll have a smaller baby to push out rather than a 10lb turkey.

tesskerr · November 2013

Depending on what I wear, you can't even tell I'm pregnant, I'm 32 weeks. I have put on about 7kg (15-17lbs I guess? I dunno) so I know she is growing. Last scan she was in the 45th percentile for most things, and actually ahead by a day.

I get told about 10 times a day that I am too small. I get people worried I'm not eating enough, which really pisses me off. Do they honestly think I'm so vain that I would starve myself and they baby? I get told to stock up on prem clothes. I just keep repeating that my midwife said she's perfect. Then I get "oh well I hope you have another appointment soon". Grrr.

My BF commented yesterday that my arms were really skinny, and what was I doing? Like I was doing something to purposely be skinny. I have always had thin arms, I just think now that my boobs, face, and tummy are a bit bigger, they just look a little smaller.

My mum, when pregnant with me, put on 25kg (over 50lbs I think?), she was huge, and I was 6 lbs. my aunt, pregnant with my cousin, at the same time, hardly put on weight, stayed in normal clothes etc etc, and my cousin was nearly 10lbs. I tell people that story, and mention I take after my aunt in a lot of ways, so it must just be genetic. I dunno, people are such dicks though.

km_md · November 2013

Everyone always has to have an opinion and the majority of the time they have zero clue what they are talking about so try not to let it bother you. People seem to have this idea about what they think a pregnant woman should look like at any given stage of pregnancy and the truth is that every woman and every pregnancy is different. There are a lot of factors that go into how big your belly is and most of them don't mean a thing.

As long as your ob isn't concerned I wouldn't worry. My ob made a comment about my fundal height at my appointment (as have several strangers) but said it is probably just the way that I am carrying her and everything is fine.

Sorry about the lack of paragraphs. Mobile is not my friend.

Armyratt · November 2013

I have always measured 3 weeks behind with my other two and am measuring a week behind with this one. My older two at birth weighed 6 and 7 lbs so I would not worry about it, it's just probable due to how your carrying.

teacher0708 · November 2013

My dr said baby was low and that could be why. I am just careful when I talk to other people who are pregnant. Silly people with no filters. Thanks guys, it makes me feel better

HeartOverMind · November 2013

I get told all the time that I look small, but the doctor said that I'm measuring right on track. People always think they know better. It's bizarre. I would say, just ignore them. I'm sure once we have our babies the comments will just keep rolling, so might as well get used to it.

amt0312 · November 2013

AMK1981 said:

I am measuring 2 weeks ahead and I get the "you look small" AND the "you look big" comments. Things like this are all perspective. My theroy is that people feel like the need to say SOMETHING. Often they think saying a pregnant woman looks small will make her feel good. The main thing to remember is that people put very little thought into these types of comments when they say them and therefore aren't basing them on anything valid.

Which is why people, if they feel they have to say anything at all, should just say "You look great!" Simple, easy, and not offensive.

PBP2002 · November 2013

I got these comments ALL the time with DS. I worried that maybe LO would be too small (even though my doctor was never concerned and I measured right on the whole time.) When he was born 10 days early, he was LGA at 8lb 9oz. So, now when I'm getting these comments the second time around, they bother me less. I'm measuring within one week, so I chalk it up to stupid people. It's possible for you to be "small" and not have a small baby.

But like PP said, no one ever says "You look perfect" they always have to say you're either too small or too big.

AnnikaD20 · November 2013

My baby is measuring 1-2 weeks ahead, and I like to joke about my giant godzilla baby with DH. People still tell me that I'm small. One time different people told me I was really big and looking small in the same day.

I've concluded that people have no idea what pregnant women are supposed to look like. If your Dr. (who does know how pregnant women should look) thinks you look good, that's an opinion that actually has some weight.

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