MC question

Sierra524 · November 2013

I hope this post doesn't come off as insensitive. I have seen a lot of MC post lately. It breaks my heart and I am truly sorry for anybody who has had to experience a loss.
After reading some of them, it seems like they almost always have some sort of "warning sign" like spotting or something.
I'm really just curious, is there ever a time when someone won't even know they are experiencing a mc bc there are no signs?
I don't know much about them. I didn't even realize how common they are until coming here, so my question is by no means meant to be insensitive. I'm just wondering.

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Sierra524 · November 2013

meladoriestar said:
Unfortunately, yes, it's very possible to mc with no signs at all.

So you would only know by going to the dr and getting a sono, or...?

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Swiftymomof3 · November 2013

Happened to me in May. Saw the heartbeat at 7 week at my 9 week ultrasound found out the baby had no heartbeat. It can happen. Doesn't happen often I don't think. I was on progesterone so my body didn't recognize the miscRriage and I had to have a d&c. My other two miscarriages were different. First one I stArted bleeding. My second one my levels were low and didn't see a baby on the u/s. I miscarried naturally. It can happen a lot of ways!

Pintobean39 · November 2013

My first mc I was 14 weeks and I was fine but had a tiny bit if brown spotting and it was only once. I really didn't think anything of it but I called my dr and he said come in for an us and there was no hb. It was totally out of the blue. I'd been shopping the day before to buy maternity clothes and I remember telling my friend I felt so much better, I assumed it was because I was in my second trimester.

My second one I had a brown mucus discharge from 5 weeks to 10 1/2. The last week it got a little bit heavier and more often and spots of red blood but never enough to have to wear a panty liner. It was always when I wiped. Then there was no more Hb.

I had a cp and that was quick. I started spotting and within 12 hours full on period.

ekcarrington · November 2013

I've been wondering the same thing, Sierra. I'm glad you asked. I've also been wondering if anyone who has miscarried had previously had an ultrasound that showed on-schedule development/a heartbeat, and then had something bad happen later. I realize that YES this does happen, but how often? I also don't want to seem insensitive or invasive. I thought I would stop worrying about it after my first ultrasound, but as we get further along and more and more people keep getting bad news I wonder how common a miscarriage is after a heartbeat is detected and things seem to be going well. I guess you really never stop worrying until the baby is here - and then it's a whole new set of worries!

ekcarrington · November 2013

Oh, @swiftymomof3, you answered my question, but posted while I was still posting. I'm sorry for your losses.

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Pintobean39 · November 2013

@ekcarrington two out of 3 of my mc i saw the hb first. Once you see a heartbeat the mc rate goes down a lot, my dr told me 5% but it still can happen.

ETA: my babies hb were all normal when I saw it.

ekcarrington · November 2013

Thank you so much for the info everyone!

Sierra524 · November 2013

Wow. I wasn't aware that it could happen so many ways.
I am really trying to stay positive. I wake up every morning super sick, which is awful, but it reminds me the baby is still there. I think I'm just kind of freaking out bc i will be 9 weeks tomorrow and I haven't had an u/s or been able to hear a hb yet (they didn't even try to find one at my first apt). I haven't had any spotting or anything, but I still find myself checking the toliet paper after I wipe and wearing a panty liner just to make sure I could see it if I do start. Nothing yet. And I think the cramping is rly freaking me out. It's not bad. And it's not daily. Just a few small ones here and there. I've chalked them up to the constipation. & the stretching uterus.
I have my first apt w the MW first thing Monday morning and they are planning on doing a sono. Maybe it will make me feel better if it turns out well.
Thank you ladies for the comments. Like I said, I didn't even realize they were so common and I felt like maybe I should educate myself a little.

Oh, another question! Is it common to be 9 weeks and not have any u/s or Doppler done yet? I feel like so many women here have already had them and here I am, without one.

Swiftymomof3 · November 2013

I was so sure everything was fine after seeing the heartbeat. We even told the kids. The heart stopped beating one or two days later and I had no idea. My symptoms were still there (though I think the progesterone was trucking my body).

We did have testing and found out the baby had trisomy 18. Most of the Time If you miscarry it's your body's way of taking care of problems. That may be a mean way to say it but after I read up on trisomy 18 I am so thankful it happned when it did. It would have been so hard to deliver a baby to pass shortly after with so many problems or deliver a still born baby. I can't even imagine my poor kids going through that.

Pintobean39 · November 2013

I hope my stories don't freak ppl out and make them worry they may have a mc too. 80% of all pregnancies don't end in a mc and after a hb is seen 95% of pregnancies go on with no problems. I just have bad luck!

diagonalley · November 2013

Honestly the fact that this can happen is why I'm nervous to tell people I'm pregnant! I've never had a reason to think I would mc, as this is my first pregnancy and I got pregnant almost right away. But I have had issues with ovarian cysts (which really, I don't think is related to any pregnancy problems) and elevated thyroid levels so I am super paranoid. We saw the baby's heartbeat at 7 weeks 2 days and hopefully at our next appointment (in about a week and a half) we will hear the baby's heartbeat, but I am still so nervous something will go wrong! Also, I was adopted at birth and have always longed to have a baby of my own that would be biologically related to me...someone that might look similar, act similar, whatever, because while I love my family unconditionally, I've always felt that part of me as missing which I think makes me more anxious. I know it's completely irrational, but I am having a hard time with being a nervous nelly!

Sierra524 · November 2013

Pintobean39 said:
I hope my stories don't freak ppl out and make them worry they may have a mc too. 80% of all pregnancies don't end in a mc and after a hb is seen 95% of pregnancies go on with no problems. I just have bad luck!

Your stories don't freak me out. I appreciate the honesty of them. I am so sorry for your loses. But thank you for being willing to share your experiences.

dragonfly711 · November 2013

Back in feb I spotted a little went in all was fine had us all good. Went back for my first exam a week later and no heartbeat. I never was expecting a MMC.
Edit: I was 11 1/2 weeks when I had my MMC. Also had the tissue tested and it came back normal.

I just had some spotting the other day that scared the heck out of me. I was shaking so bad at work. Left work early. Next day had US and all is ok. Just had first US last Friday.

It is so scary but every pregnancy is different.

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Gigi8212 · November 2013

I had a MMC in 2011. I had a normal u/s at 8 weeks and saw the heartbeat but when I went in at 11 weeks, the doctor couldn't pick up the hb on his doppler. He gave me a scan and we saw that baby had passed. I had worried about it my entire pregnancy and sadly it happened.

lest12 · November 2013

I think there are so many amazing women here. I feel very lucky to be part of a group that can share this experience, in the good and bad.

Thank you guys for sharing and ((hugs)).

abastian00 · November 2013

So grateful for all the women on here who share their experiences so freely and with such open hearts! What a wonderful community to be a part of

ahastin1 · November 2013

Thank you all for all of your info and support on here. It's amazing. I'm crying as I'm reading through all of these posts simply because this is my greatest fear. I always thought I would be infertile and then when it stuck the first time I almost convinced myself that this just wouldn't stick all the way through. DH just recently let the cat out of the bag far sooner than I wanted and I flipped. And this is exactly why (he felt bad, but still doesn't truly understand my worries). While we just had our first very positive u/s at 9 weeks I'm still nervous. But this has made me feel a lot better. Still nervous but not quite as much. Thank you all!

bissea83 · November 2013

interesting! it's nice to see all you strong lady's here! I'm here after a early sep mc...my doc said 1/3 of pregnancies end in mc. typically in the first trimester . I've had 2 this year so they are watching me close and I'm on progesterone. my doc said that it is normal and most people will have at least one in their lifetime but most people also are so early that they do not always know they were pregnant. on a good note if I make it though tomorrow with no issues I will be the furthest along I've ever gotten and I'm still fully feeling prego. honestly though don't worry there is not much you can do, just keep eating healthy and staying calm - easier said than done I totally get that

To help distract my self I am also still charting my basil temp each morning ( if you have two days of a crazy low drops In a row it's grounds for calling the dr ) . our goal this time is to take it one apt at a time . good luck to you I'm sending positive vibes your way

sjn00 · November 2013

I have been wondering and researching this like crazy too. I had that miscarriage scare at 6 weeks and I am now 9 weeks and dont get an US until after 11 weeks for the birth defects testing. I am freaked out only because I have had like 1% of morning sickness.. My boobs have been slightly sore but not as much as they were before its mainly just nipple sensitivity now. As well as heart palputations which could be easily caused by anxiety. And fatigue, which i have always had. It is so hard not having the pregnancy symptoms and being reassured everything is okay. Especially since you never know if its a MMC.. I know the risks are low, but I just feel like with the way my life has gone so far, I feel like this isn't going to happen for me as much as I want it to. And to see how sadly common it is on here, terrofies me. Idk I ordered a sonoline B praying I can pick up a heart beat at home before my 11 week ultra sound. Supposed to get here by Thursday. I feel like it can't get here soon enough.

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