WWJ12 do? Christmas party.

singingirl96 · November 2013

I'm a working mom and get to spend only a few hours with my son after work. This year my company Christmas party is 'employee only' and is at 5pm on a Wednesday after a full day of work. Which means I would see my son for a grand total of 30 minutes in the morning. I don't particularly love anyone at work and their parties are usually lame. This time, however, it is at a cool venue, Dave & Busters (which is totally child friendly btw). My boss has insisted that this is a mandatory party, and if I don't go, I'll be viewed as a non-team player... you get the idea. She is totally non-child friendly, bitch on wheels, ****-****... you get the type.

So, do I go to it and leave my son with DH and suck it up.
Do I bring him along and say "I couldn't leave him home alone"
Or be the non-team player and just don't go.

???

breannie · November 2013

I would go by yourself. They are very clear it is employee only, and its not like they want you to go away for a weekend by yourself. I would just deal. Plus you will have so much more fun at Dave and Busters by yourself (and you won't have to share your tickets with LO)

lkamenko · November 2013

Go to it and leave your son with DH and suck it up. Try to enjoy it and have some fun. If it is really lame you can leave earlier.

apollonia10 · November 2013

singingirl96 said:

I'm a working mom and get to spend only a few hours with my son after work. This year my company Christmas party is 'employee only' and is at 5pm on a Wednesday after a full day of work. Which means I would see my son for a grand total of 30 minutes in the morning. I don't particularly love anyone at work and their parties are usually lame. This time, however, it is at a cool venue, Dave & Busters (which is totally child friendly btw). My boss has insisted that this is a mandatory party, and if I don't go, I'll be viewed as a non-team player... you get the idea. She is totally non-child friendly, bitch on wheels, bull-dyke... you get the type.

So, do I go to it and leave my son with DH and suck it up.
Do I bring him along and say "I couldn't leave him home alone"
Or be the non-team player and just don't go.

???

Pandril19 · November 2013

apollonia10 said:

singingirl96 said:

I'm a working mom and get to spend only a few hours with my son after work. This year my company Christmas party is 'employee only' and is at 5pm on a Wednesday after a full day of work. Which means I would see my son for a grand total of 30 minutes in the morning. I don't particularly love anyone at work and their parties are usually lame. This time, however, it is at a cool venue, Dave & Busters (which is totally child friendly btw). My boss has insisted that this is a mandatory party, and if I don't go, I'll be viewed as a non-team player... you get the idea. She is totally non-child friendly, bitch on wheels, bull-dyke... you get the type.

So, do I go to it and leave my son with DH and suck it up.
Do I bring him along and say "I couldn't leave him home alone"
Or be the non-team player and just don't go.

???

I'm with you.

To the OP - Just go. It's one party. If it were a weekly happy hour I'd say otherwise, but it's the company holiday party.

BubbaJug · November 2013

I don't give a crap what you do about your Christmas party, but that kind of language has absolutely not place on this board.

Next time, I'll flag it.

singingirl96 · November 2013

Thanks for the input ladies... I figured I was being a big baby... I'll take your advice and go, maybe leave early.

About the term 'bull dyke'... If you knew my boss... (who's the devil) you'd understand. I'm sorry if you got offended. I retract my statement.

BubbaJug · November 2013

I'll never understand a derogatory slur based on someone's sexual preference.

singingirl96 · November 2013

wheelerc said:

singingirl96 said:

Thanks for the input ladies... I figured I was being a big baby... I'll take your advice and go, maybe leave early.

About the term 'bull dyke'... If you knew my boss... (who's the devil) you'd understand. I'm sorry if you got offended. I retract my statement.
Don't defend it. It's offensive. It's the same as calling someone the f word for gay or the n word for black and saying, "Well sorry, but they are." Be more thoughtful.

gee wizz people. I said "I retract my statement". get over it.

breannie · November 2013

singingirl96 said:

wheelerc said:

singingirl96 said:

Thanks for the input ladies... I figured I was being a big baby... I'll take your advice and go, maybe leave early.

About the term 'bull dyke'... If you knew my boss... (who's the devil) you'd understand. I'm sorry if you got offended. I retract my statement.
Don't defend it. It's offensive. It's the same as calling someone the f word for gay or the n word for black and saying, "Well sorry, but they are." Be more thoughtful.

gee wizz people. I said "I retract my statement". get over it.

That's like saying "no offense but..." or "with all due respect..." and then saying something shitty. It doesn't undo what you said, and saying if we knew we would understand definitely doesn't help.

apollonia10 · November 2013

"I'm sorry if you got offended" isn't an apology. Defending the statement that you just retracted isn't the same as retracting it.

In case you can't tell, that term is unacceptable here and people aren't going to get over it.

sarahandeddiejune212008 · November 2013

I guess I have a differing opinion. I'd have DH and lo meet you after dinner for a little fun. It's at a public place so they can't control who is there.