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single pregnant and dating

rmajbusinessrmajbusiness member
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not sure if there is a thread for this already.... but I digress, is anyone out there possibly thinking of dating while pregnant? BD and I love each other but seem to not be able to make it work. we both want to be parents and will do so respectfully. there is someone in my life whom I knew before BD. he knows I'm pregnant and wants to start dating again. kind of hesatant because I feel things are never truly cut and dry with BD but at the same time I feel the need to move on. anyone else?
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  • MinnesotaMomma91MinnesotaMomma91 member
    I started dating bf while pregnant. He was my high school sweet heart and i never moved on.

    I never had true lingering feelings for bd as he was a friend with bennifits. But ive been in love with bf since i was 15
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  • 20thirteen20thirteen member
    My current BF was an old flame too, he contacted me out of the blue in May when I was 8.5 months pregnant and we began dating shortly thereafter. We've always loved each other but there were things keeping us apart back then.  He didn't care that I was pregnant when he finally found me again, and, in fact, he's been the only dad that DD has ever known (even though she's only almost 5mo).  And he wants to be her dad.  The difference with my situation and yours is that my BD couldn't man up.  I only hear from him when his parents are in town and plan to visit me.  No texts or calls asking me how DD is doing, nothing about if there is anything that I need (which I will always tell him no, I want nothing of him), but if your BD wants to help parent then that's a good thing.

    When you say things are not truly cut and dry with BD, do you mean you guys are on and off trying to still make it work?  Because you will lose out on that other guy if that's the case.  You will have a hard time moving on from BD if he plans on sticking around for the baby, especially while pregnant and your hormones are out of whack.  Please keep those things in mind when you consider getting into a new relationship.
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  • anc9283anc9283 member
    It sounds like there is a little too much emotion involved in all of this and that you'll be hurting this new guy in the long run if you try to date him. You shouldn't ever feel the need to move on from one relationship and soften that blow with another. That's not fair. When you feel you need to move on from one relationship then you should absolutely do so, but focus on yourself and ESPECIALLY now since you are pregnant. You also admitted the love is still there for BD so that's not fair to new guy either. You should date when you're emotionally stable, focused on yourself and your baby, and able to fully give your attention and heart to someone else. Otherwise it actually ends up hurting worse in the long run and you're the jerk for hurting someone else at your gain. Believe me, I was the "new guy" in my relationship with my ex and we ended up having a baby together and then he went back to his ex wife. So in his selfishness to be mad at her and "move on" and "show her" he now drug an innocent baby into his bullshit and he's about as miserable as they come because NEITHER relationship will ever be the same.
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  • DianakdeeDianakdee member
    i want to start dating but something tells me to just wait raise the baby a bit and i have to go back to school after hes 1 anyways so focus on that stuff then date again. but everyone is different. if your comfortable why not 

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  • KoribrattKoribratt member
    My bf .. Well ex now , will not be around until the baby is born . We are younger & were together for almost four years. We had a very messy break up last week. He couldn't leave his ex alone and he even put his hands on me.. I wanted to do this as a family more than anything but I guess that's what happens when you're young.. I have a good family behind me and I have faith that I will be able to do this. Feel free to message me if any of you ladies are in a similar situation or just want to talk :)
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  • KoribrattKoribratt member
    The rest didn't post sorry..... I have been thinking about dating , nothing serious just something to get out of the house and enjoy myself for a little but. I feel like not many people will be interested when they find out I am pregnant tho..
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  • 20thirteen20thirteen member
    Dating while pregnant is an iffy thing. Some guys will think you're nuts, some guys will be a little *TOO* into it, and very few will be interested in being there.  Some of us got lucky with our BF's, but not everyone is, so don't get your hopes up high.  Take everything one day at a time and always put your LO first.  Things will fall into place.
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  • MinnesotaMomma91MinnesotaMomma91 member
    Roxalot said:

    Dating while pregnant is an iffy thing. Some guys will think you're nuts, some guys will be a little *TOO* into it, and very few will be interested in being there.  Some of us got lucky with our BF's, but not everyone is, so don't get your hopes up high.  Take everything one day at a time and always put your LO first.  Things will fall into place.

    I met a guy who was TOO into it when i was seven/eight months. It was super creepy! Bf was always neautral about it until i was in labor. He refused to liok bellow my waist till after i was out of the stierups.
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