Miscarriage/Pregnancy Loss

Second opinion/post-miscarriage TMI

Hi everyone. I'm new on here and am hoping for an outlet to post/talk and help others as well. Four weeks ago, I had a missed miscarriage at 16 weeks. We went to an early gender scan and found out our baby had died at just past 12 weeks. I ended up being induced and delivering our daughter 4 days later but had an emergency d and c a few hours after that when my temperature spiked. I'm now four weeks out from that and in addition to the emotional turmoil, I'm still bleeding like I have my period (with clots and cramping) . I've called my doctor and gone in twice and all they did was test my hcg levels (they've dropped to not pregnant levels) but no other checks and they keep telling me that bleeding this long "is not totally uncommon and can happen" but I've never heard of it lasting this long and I think I need to find a new doctor. I'm frustrated, my husband is pissed and I just want to at least feel physically normal again I guess I'm asking if anyone has experienced anything like this or has had to seek out a new doctor for a second opinion.

Re: Second opinion/post-miscarriage TMI

  • I have never been pregnant or miscarried before, but my sister bled for awhile (off and on for 2 weeks) and she was 11 weeks. I think the reason you have been bleeding for so long is because you were far along to have a miscarriage. Then again, I really have no clue, but theoretically, it sounds good haha. However, I would definitely get another doctor since they are not responsive in pleasing you or showing interest in your needs. I HATE THIS FOR YOU and I don't even know you! I am so, so sorry.

    You are most definitely feeling like every sensitive and concerned patient and mom would feel. Have you thought about getting a midwife/doula? I have read that they also specialize in post-pregnancy/ post-partum.
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  • Oh I'm so sorry you are experiencing this. With my first loss the baby passed away at 10 weeks. I had an ERPC and only bled for about 2 weeks afyerwards, quite lightly. I guess every woman and every procedure is different, but I would def double check with another doctor or hospital. Thinking of u xx

    Kieran born 21.1.10

    Angel baby 1 lost 18.6.13

    Angel baby 2 lost 30.10.13


  • I'm so sorry. Follow your gut and find an OB who you LOVE. I bled for 2.5 weeks post D&C after my 12 week mm/c and my physician is doing level drawls until < 5. She wanted me to be seen at 3 weeks post D&C if I was still bleeding. I'm glad your levels are normal that is a good sign. So sorry for your loss. (((Hugs)))
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  • I'm very sorry for your loss. I did not have bleeding for very long after my d&c - but honestly - I think everyone is different. You were also further along than me, so that may make a difference too. If you betas are coming down, that sounds good! If you don't feel like your dr is helpful, then definitely get a second opinion. At least for the peace of mind that everything is okay. I totally understand that you want to feel better. Hope you feel better soon! *hugs* 

    TTC: Since July 2013
    BFP #1: EDD 05/27/2014 (D&C 10/17/2014)
  • im so sorry you are going through this. I.had a d&c today and I was only 7 weeks pregnant so im still kind of waiting to see what the experience will bring. but...I love my doctor. I feel so confident in him and it makes a huge difference. when I found out tueaday there was no heartbeat my doctor wasnt there so I met with a dr I never even met. she was wonderful and answered every question I had. and it just worked out that she would be doing the surgery today. but I still wanted to talk to my actual dr because he is aware of my history and I wanted to be sure he was in board with my decision, and that I was safe in her hands. before I could call him he actually called me to send his condolences and touch base with me. he said to me "if you were my daughter this is what I wld tell you to do" im sure he doesnt even realize it, but hearing him say that was so comforting to me. my point is that you need to.be with a doctor/practice you are 100% confident with. ask your friends and family who they use. I found him through word of mouth. even today the nurses in the hospital were saying how much they like him.
    good luck and dont be afraid to look around for another doctor. you dont have to commit to a different one, just keep your options open.
    thoughts and prayers
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