Leaving the house for the weekend

kz's_girlygirl · October 2013

Hi all- I haven't left the house for any real amount of time since Jesse was born, but this weekend DH and I are going to visit my parents in our hometown (Dh has drill for the Navy reserve and his drill center is there). It is about 4 hours away and since we are leaving today, we will be gone for 3 nights.

This might sound really strange, but I am scared to leave. I know it's irrational, but I feel uneasy about leaving Jesse's urn and his baby blankets and all I have of him, behind. I am going to bring the little photo book we have, but I wish I could just bring everything.

How have you all handled a trip away from home? Any tips?

jbranden12 · October 2013

Not strange. The first time we left home, we brought Patricia and her memory book with us. ETA this was two months after she died.

diamante1181 · October 2013

I don't think it's strange at all to feel that way. I have a separation anxiety going on myself. We were planning on doing something away from the house, also, but are feeling somewhat paralyzed to do anything, even a movie. So bottom line I have no advice. But I understand how you feel, and hope you and yh can get through the weekend. And you will have your family for support, also.

irons633 · October 2013

It's not strange at all. When we left our first baby EJ after he died last year I balled but I also smelled all of his items before I left. As soon as I returned I went back to them. With my daughter Olivia I have her pictures on my phone so that when I feel I need to see her and talk to her without having a breakdown I do. I do hope you are able to enjoy your weekend and know that getting away is a great help in this process. ((Hugs)) and love

stefuge · October 2013

***LO ticker*** We did an overnight trip a couple weeks ago and I had those same thoughts. What if something happens and I lose all his things? So, I loaded photos on my phone so I knew I had them and brought one of his blankets with us and that helped. I wouldn't question it. If you feel like you need to bring him and his blankets and photos, just do it. Whatever helps.

VyD81 · November 2013

I hope you can spend some quality time with your parents. Maybe bringing Jesse's blanket with you will help you share him with them and talk about him. I haven't gone on an overnight trip yet. DH has been trying to plan a weekend trip to help me feel better but I don't want to leave Raynor's urn and things behind

. DH had a pendant filled with some of Raynor's ashes so I can wear when we travel , but I still feel that something might happen and I will lose his things. I hope you'll have a good trip.

OSUWifey09 · November 2013

I bring Devon's small memory box - which has his ashes, pictures, lock of hair and letters I wrote him - every time I leave for a weekend. I'm too afraid something will happen while I'm away from home. I will spend Christmas and Thanksgiving at my parents' house [2.5 hours away], and his entire memorial box and Molly Bear will come home with me then, too. Even after a year, I get so anxious if I leave him behind. It's not strange at all; I totally get feeling anxious.

kz's_girlygirl · November 2013

Thanks everyone. I ended up brining his photos and blanket- I feel much better about being away with those few things at least!

mingaling2 · November 2013

I am going away this weekend, too, for my annual girls trip. DH insisted I go, but I had a mini breakdown last night about it. I know I will have a good support system there, but this reminded me to take some mementos with me.

Hope you are well.

AJCagle82 · November 2013

The first time DH and I left together for a few days, we brought Parker with us. I couldn't stand not having her with us. It was so helpful to be able to relax knowing that she was safe with me. I didn't bring all of her stuff, but she definitely came with us. Good luck on your trip. I hope you are able to enjoy it.

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