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Double Dipping?

sunflowermama42212sunflowermama42212 member
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So with the holidays coming up my family on my husband's side wants to buy us baby things for christmas and they want us to register early. I don't mind getting baby things for christmas but does this mean it would be rude to have a baby shower since they want to buy us stuff for christmas? We don't really have a lot of big things on the registry, so i'm also thinking if we get baby things for christmas then there might not even be a point to having a baby shower but my H really wants me to have a baby shower since we didn't have a wedding or a honeymoon but I don't want to seem greedy? i guess is the only way I can put it.

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Re: Double Dipping?

  • FutureMrsW9FutureMrsW9 member
    edited November 2013
    No way, I say do both!  This happened to me with our wedding.  I was specifically asked to register so that people could buy us engagement gifts, so I registered for a few big ticket items.  Then closer to the shower/wedding I registered for more things, including smaller items, and there was still plenty left over that wasn't purchased even after my shower.  If it's just one side of the family buying you things for Christmas I think it's totally fine!  I'm assuming you'll have tons more people at your shower anyway, and there's so much baby stuff out there to register for you'll be glad you did!

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    @maitaibeth omg I love those pictures!! i'm lucky DH is a photographer on the side and has done weddings before so he is so excited to have a photo shoot with our baby. That is a good idea though I would have never thought of that!
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  • BeeBee08BeeBee08 member
    Totally not greedy of you!  Christmas and a baby shower are two completely different things.  If they choose to buy you things for baby for Christmas, so be it, but it doesn't mean that you don't deserve a day about you and baby.  A shower is for people to not only shower you with gifts, but also with love, support, excitement, and encouragement.  They are there to celebrate you, so IMO, one should not cancel out the other.  Have fun!

     
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  • katekat8721katekat8721 member
    Not greedy, you're ok! :-)

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  • sunflowermama42212sunflowermama42212 member
    edited November 2013
    @weeklyplanner I think since my H's family was so involved in our ivf journey that they can't wait to buy baby stuff, they asked us to register early to give them ideas so they buy what we like. We were all scared this wouldn't be a reality so now that I'm almost out of first tri they just want to celebrate and also buy us things we need like important stuff first kinda thing. All coming from a loving place but I get what you mean. :) 

     Eta: thanks ladies for making me feel less guilty! I've always bought everything I need myself so all this attention I'm not use to but I guess ill have to get use to it!
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  • MJC1116MJC1116 member
    Mwhigham22 said:
    @weeklyplanner I think since my H's family was so involved in our ivf journey that they can't wait to buy baby stuff, they asked us to register early to give them ideas so they buy what we like. We were all scared this wouldn't be a reality so now that I'm almost out of first tri they just want to celebrate and also buy us things we need like important stuff first kinda thing. All coming from a loving place but I get what you mean. :) Eta: thanks ladies for making me feel less guilty! I've always bought everything I need myself so all this attention I'm not use to but I guess ill have to get use to it!
    I was going to ask if they knew about your ttc situation, because I think if people (specifically family) know about struggling to get pregnant, they are less inclined to be judgmental in any way. Your H's family sounds so incredibly supportive that I doubt they would think you are greedy for having a shower, too. It's not greedy to have a shower. As pp said, a shower isn't just about the gifts :)  I think (like you said) they are probably so thrilled and want to celebrate you, and doing so more than once wouldn't be a bad thing! I say live it up. Enjoy the Christmas season with the ones who love you by celebrating that little blessing. And enjoy your shower. You deserve the attention and the love, and if they happen to bring gifts, too, that would be a wonderful addition!
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