Why My Kids Are Not The Center Of My World

DawnLilly · November 2013

https://www.viralnova.com/this-young-mother-is-sick-of-how-kids-are-being-raised-heres-her-controversial-blog-post/

aeh72 · November 2013

Interesting blog. Thanks for sharing. The one line that stood out to me is this:

"These gentlemen will understand that there are about a gazillion people in this world. While they are incredibly special to me and my family, they are not special to the world."

I wholeheartedly agree with this sentiment. I'm not sure I fully buy into her throughts on how modern parents are parenting these days (I don't think I'll get a good sense of this until DS is at least in preschool, maybe not until elementary school), but I do know children whose parents treat them like they are (and should be) the center of everyone's universe, and having seen that happen, it has helped DH and I think about how we want to parent DS and it is not like that. DS will know he is the most important person to DH and I and he can always count on us, but he will also know that he is still just one member of our family.

jenb_99 · November 2013

I love this and I agree wholeheartedly. The world needs more little ladies and gentlemen, not more entitled brats.

fanofanne · November 2013

jenb_99 said:

I love this and I agree wholeheartedly. The world needs more little ladies and gentlemen, not more entitled brats.

i agree. as a teacher, i see the product of permissive parenting everyday (and products of great parenting too!) and i have come across some parents who i am sure wipe still wipe their high school kid's a$$.

dufferoo · November 2013

I get it, but the writer almost comes across as a lazy parent making excuses, IMO. I guess I just don't like how she works all day, then the kids watch their alotted amount of TV, and them she sends them straight off to play. I just don't think it's overly coddling to spend at least a smidgen of time with your kids each day. Maybe we can find a better balance between nurturing our children and teaching them independence?

ashiscute · November 2013

christel811 said:

I agree with @Leftie22, who knows how parents parent their children. You can grow up in the same environment and still have one kid who works hard and does what they are supposed to and another who is a deadbeat. I think it is too early in her parenting "career" for her to pat herself on the back and think she's got it all figured out.

I also, think she is oversimplifying bullying. Being called a bitch does not constitute bullying. When she was growing up there wasn't social media and cell phones. With technology comes a whole new arena to torture, humilate and degrade people.

I agree 100%.

christina_williams · November 2013

christel811 said:

I agree with @Leftie22, who knows how parents parent their children. You can grow up in the same environment and still have one kid who works hard and does what they are supposed to and another who is a deadbeat. I think it is too early in her parenting "career" for her to pat herself on the back and think she's got it all figured out.

I also, think she is oversimplifying bullying. Being called a bitch does not constitute bullying. When she was growing up there wasn't social media and cell phones. With technology comes a whole new arena to torture, humilate and degrade people.

Totally agree! Well said!!! The fact that she was so busy "patting herself on the back" was off-putting to me. It made me want to disagree with her.

crh1221 · November 2013

I loved this article and shared it with a lot of the other teacher's where I work (I'm a preschool teacher). While I agree with most of it, there are a few things I would change to fit my own values as a parent and as a teacher. Independence is one of the most important things that I practice in my classroom.

magentawarped · November 2013

Someone posted this on another thread, and I'll repeat what I said there:

I couldn't get past her thoughts on bullying. Kids don't come home and kill themselves because one day someone called them a name. The kids who attempt or commit suicide deal with a constant tirade, generally from multiple sources, that they feel they can't escape from. If you're told all day every day that you're a worthless piece of crap and everyone wishes you were dead, you start to believe it. I'm pretty sure that if someone was nonstop harassing her special little snowflake, she wouldn't just tell him to suck it up and stop being a pussy. She'd be at the school raising holy hell.

skibunny59 · November 2013

christel811 said:

I also, think she is oversimplifying bullying. Being called a bitch does not constitute bullying. When she was growing up there wasn't social media and cell phones. With technology comes a whole new arena to torture, humilate and degrade people.

All of this especially the bolded. I thought what she said about bullying was extremely ignorant. Bullying is a REAL problem in today's society. It is WAY worse than when we were kids.

skibunny59 · November 2013

jociejones said:

I get it, but the writer almost comes across as a lazy parent making excuses, IMO. I guess I just don't like how she works all day, then the kids watch their alotted amount of TV, and them she sends them straight off to play. I just don't think it's overly coddling to spend at least a smidgen of time with your kids each day. Maybe we can find a better balance between nurturing our children and teaching them independence?

Also, what is wrong with spending time with our kids. Why they do need to be doing things by themselves all the time? I work full time and when I come home, I spend the majority of the time with my daughter and DH. Why? Because I value family time and enjoy spending time with my family. I still get chores done but often times involve my DD in the chores. (She's 19 months and LOVES to help me cook and prepare dinner.) I get independence but I also think that spending time together as a family is important. I feel like in today's society many families don't spend enough time together. Everyone's always off doing their own thing.

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