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GuennieGuennie member
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Well I made it through almost my entire pregnancy without being approached by total strangers...until today. Not one but TWO different people randomly commented on my size today. The first asked if I was having a boy and when I said no a girl, she said she would have sworn boy by the way I was carrying and how big I was. The second actually asked me if I was having twins! I said no just one and she looked shocked and said oh wow you're huge! Both of these people sought me out just to ask me these questions, we were not standing next to each other in line or already engaged in conversation. I just find it interesting how people are compelled to say things to a pregnant woman without realizing how rude it is. I wasn't offended and I'm not bothered by looking HUGE, but I am definitely getting paranoid about the possibility of having a big baby, especially since my sister's boys were almost 9 and almost 10 lbs and she had to have a c section with both.

I'm just glad nobody tried to touch me. LOL.
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  • jbellejbelle member
    From having seen your picture lately, you look great!

    I can only attribute the commentary from the peanut gallery to the miraculous and unusual nature of pregnancy. It is surreal how pregnancy alters our typical form! 

    FX for a healthy--if slightly smaller than your sister's--baby!

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  • Beachgal72Beachgal72 member
    How annoying! And two in one day no less. Gotta love how everyone is an expert just by seeing you, a total stranger, once! I'm going to HATE when this happens to me. I already feel like my friends and neighbors gaze just goes directly to my stomach now whenever they see me (even though there is not much to see yet).
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  • QOTRQOTR member
    They must have just been trying to make conversation because you don't look huge at all!   It is weird though how people seem to think that pregnancy is up for open commentary.
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    2nd BFP-2/13/13!  Blighted Ovum discovered @ 8 week US. Natural miscarriage.
    3rd BFP-5/22/13!  By early June, progesterone plummeting.  Another loss.
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  • Geeps2Geeps2 member

    Like other PP said you look FABULOUS so I don't get the you look huge comments.  At least you know what you are having.  We are team green and I really have no clue what this baby is.  If I was going based on how I felt last time I would say this is another girl but I have no clue.  I have to always sit through peoples strong conviction about what they think this new baby's sex is.  Ya got a 50/50 shot there.  Everyone is saying boy but I tell them I heard the same thing when I was pregnant with my daughter and she is ALL GIRL!!!!  People just feel like they can say whatever to a pregnant lady.  At least you weren't offended :)  as for having kids as big as your sisters kids it is a crap shoot.  I was afraid about that my one niece was over 8 lbs, my nephew was almost 10 and my other niece is 7 lbs 8 oz.  Granted my sister is 5'10 and my BIL is 6'7.  My hubs and I are both 5'6 so our daughter was 7.1oz and this one is guesstimated to weight at birth 7.8 oz.  but could be smaller just like its sister who was guesstimated to be the same weight and I weighed 20 lbs more when I was pregnant with her.

    Hang in there!


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  • GuennieGuennie member
    LOL thanks everyone! I really didn't let it make me feel bad, I know I don't look bad it's just that I'm only 5 feet tall so baby really shows on me! I am genuinely nervous that she will be big, that's the only part that bothered me. And I'm just shaking my head at people who can't help themselves from making such silly comments. It amuses me and annoys me at the same time that total strangers want to make such crazy assumptions about my body. The one woman was genuinely shocked I wasn't having twins. Sorry to disappoint you lady. Ha ha.
    Me:41, DH:41 Positive for MTHFR mutations- one copy C677T, one copy A1298C. One daughter born on Thanksgiving in 2013. Six losses.
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  • Mac&KsoMac&Kso member
    A boy, twins? No, I accidentally ate the watermelon seeds.. you know what they say... you'll grow one in your stomach.
    Gotta love people. Hahaha...
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  • SkeemerSkeemer member

    I was interviewing my maternity replacements with my boss when I was pregnant with DS2. One actually lunged towards me & said, "I'm just going to touch your baby." I backed up & said, "No..." & put my hands over my belly. She said, "Why not?" I said, with the most deadpan face ever, "I'm shy."

    How can people not know they are wierd & rude?! Blows my mind.


        




     

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  • LucyRicardo3LucyRicardo3 member
    Skeemer said:

    I was interviewing my maternity replacements with my boss when I was pregnant with DS2. One actually lunged towards me & said, "I'm just going to touch your baby." I backed up & said, "No..." & put my hands over my belly. She said, "Why not?" I said, with the most deadpan face ever, "I'm shy."

    How can people not know they are wierd & rude?! Blows my mind.

    ""SECURITY!!!""" lol

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  • born2b4uncborn2b4unc member
    It is seriously rude! I probably would've said something horrible to them. Like I'm not pregnant, just fat or I have a tumor or something! But I would take that over someone touching me! I love that comment! SOOO not looking forward to people trying to touch my belly or my baby!
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  • SkeemerSkeemer member
    LucyRicardo3 said:
    Skeemer said:

    I was interviewing my maternity replacements with my boss when I was pregnant with DS2. One actually lunged towards me & said, "I'm just going to touch your baby." I backed up & said, "No..." & put my hands over my belly. She said, "Why not?" I said, with the most deadpan face ever, "I'm shy."

    How can people not know they are wierd & rude?! Blows my mind.

    ""SECURITY!!!""" lol
    Would you believe my boss hired her ANYWAY?! I told him not to...and it was hell on earth for him for the entire time I was gone. He fired her 3 weeks before I came back to work.


        




     

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