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Bleeding for over two weeks, waiting to miscarry

cmd821979cmd821979 member
edited November 2013 in Miscarriage/Pregnancy Loss
So I have been thoroughly annoyed, sad, disappointed, mad everything.  Basically I had a 3dt on October 3rd.  On October 10th I got my BFP.  By the 14th for my first beta, I had some serious concerns - lines weren't getting any darker and I just didn't feel pregnant.  Sure enough the nurse called me on the 14th in her overly consoling voice to say while the test was positive my beta was only 14 so I should expect to miscarry, but booked me to come back in in three days.  Over the period of the next few weeks I have gone in for countless betas, 14, 36, 74, 123, 167, 356, 504, 712 every three or four days.  The nurses have made it very clear that this is not a viable pregnancy and the doctor just wants to wait and see, no ultrasound no nothing. The 712 beta came in yesterday when I told the nurse on the phone the pain I had been having she had the on call doctor call me back and told me that the concern is an ectopic pregnancy (which no one at my doctors had mentioned previously but I knew because of all my research) and they can be deadly (yes his words) so I needed to get to an ER.  So after 4 hours in the ER, I was glad to find out that it is not ectopic, the ultrasonographer did see a gestational sac in the uterus but only about 4.5 weeks and I should be over 7 weeks. I talked to my RE office nurse today and she said once again ok well we'll just have you come back in for bloodwork in two days, hopefully the numbers will start to decline.  

I have been bleeding constantly for over 2 weeks, some days heavier than others but the last 4 days or so like a heavy period.  At this point I just want it to be over with!  I am tired of bleeding, tired of feeling like this.  I feel like my dr is treating me like a science experiment and not a person.  I have very bad cramping today so I am hoping this is it and will end on its own today.  But I feel like just keeping me waiting while knowing and telling me its not a viable pregnancy is just cruel.  This is my first IVF and the only RE I have ever seen.... but is this normal?  I have read so many posts of dr's offering D&C's - some even too early.  I feel like the longer he can keep me pregnant it increases his success rates or something...... Has anyone else gone through this waiting game over 3 weeks?
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Re: Bleeding for over two weeks, waiting to miscarry

  • MrsG80inTNMrsG80inTN member
    I don't have any experience with your exact situation but wanted to just offer support.  Thinking of you.  The waiting is difficult.  I will say if it were me I'd look for a second opinion or someone who would listen and talk to me.  My doc did 3 ultrasounds on me prior to my MC inbetween 6 and 7 weeks and sat and talked to me for a good long while so hopefully you can find someone who will really listen to you.

    Me 35 / DH 36
    TTC since 09/2009
    Hashimoto's diagnosis 11/2011 / Endometriosis removal surgery 04/2013
    Other diagnosis: 1 mutation - PAI-1 gene
    BFP#1 9/27/2013  /  EDD 6/4/14  /  MC 10/17/2013
    BFP#2 3/4/14  /  EDD 11/13/14  /  CP
    BFP#3 6/7/14  / EDD 2/16/15  /  CP
    BFP #4 11/7/2014 / EDD 7/17/15  /  CP
    Current  Plan: Waiting to change RE... Appt on 1/16
    RXs: Metformin, Levothyroxin, Baby Aspirin, CoQ10, Vitamin D, Folic Acid, Pre-natal. Progesterone post O.

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  • cmd821979cmd821979 member
    Thanks for your response! I haven't wen spoken with my doctor since prior to my ivf, probably 1-2 months prior. I am going Friday to speak with another doctor at a different clinic where I am hoping they take a more personal approach!
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  • FishyMomFishyMom member
    I am sorry for your loss, I know it is hard to go theu IVF and have it end this way. But I wanted to add my 2 cents too. I too had a pregnancy from IVF, but my doc did several sonos and immediately offered a natural mc or a D&C. I took the route of the d&c. My RE has seen and called me weekly. It sounds like you may need a different RE. I hope this new one is TONS better!
    ******************** BFP Warning *******************
     
    I'm 29 and DH is 32 we have a MFI (low count) 
    IVF #1 starting in August. ER 9/5/13 23 eggs we are fertilizing 15. 9 frozen
    ET 9/10 - transferred 1 perfect 5AA blast
    7dp5dt BFP ~~ Beta on 9/19 - 77.4 Beta #2 on 9/21 - 357
    Low heartbeat on 10/7 86, lower heartbeat on 10/11 76, no heartbeat 10/14/13. D&C 10/15/13
    Tests revealed MTHFR c677t mutation, put on Folgard.
    ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
    FET #1 1/6/14 - 4BB blast - BFN
    FET #2 - 3/3/14 - 5AB Blast -- Beta #1 3/12 - 152 -- Beta #2 3/14 - 358
    ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
    FET #3 06/09/16 - 5AB Blast - Beta #1 6/18- 245 -- Beta #2 06/20 - 600
     PAIF/SAIF/PAL/SAL welcome!

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  • cmd821979cmd821979 member
    So I got a call yesterday afternoon that my HCG levels are finally decreasing, so there is an end in sight. I will definitely not be returning to this RE or office.... Straw that broke the camels back was the nurse who left me a message about my levels actually said 'I finally have good news your HCG has dropped into the 400's so that's excellent!' Really my having a miscarriage is excellent????? Now I know what she meant that is good my body is taking care of this naturally, but you work at a g-d fertility center trying to get women pregnant you moron, if I am going there I want to be pregnant more than anything, so guess what me having a miscarriage is not good news! Just another example of why I need to go elsewhere! Just needed to vent!!!!
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