update. confirmed miscarriage.

pregmama24 · November 2013

My OB called me this afternoon I went in this morning to have my levels checked again. Sadly we had to face the facts because they are slowly decreasing. Apparently due to the fact that I should be 10 weeks 3 days and my levels and sac are only measuring 6 weeks, they are concerned that because it has taken 4 weeks to just start spotting (and as of yesterday I have no bleeding at all), that I am going to develop an infection. We go in Friday morning to discuss our options and im dreading it. I know I can not emotionally handle having a natural miscarriage at home, even though that is what I thought i wanted to do, the thought of the process dragging out even longer devastates me. Yes I have concerns about a d&c but it seems so much more peaceful. We are so confused and ready for this to be over. And it kills me to think that when we shared our exciting news with our family, last week, our baby was already gone. For the last 4 weeks I have been planning and preparing for a baby that wasn't even there. Ugh. Sigh. I cant deal with this anymore:'( prayers for everyone going through this horrible situation.

hadley135 · November 2013

So sorry for your loss. I know it doesn't seem like it now, but it gets a little easier every day. This site has also been a great place to get and give support. As far as the d&c, my doctor recommended one for similar reasons. Baby stopped growing 3 weeks prior to my ultrasound and I had no sign of spotting or cramping. D&C was an easy physical recovery for me. It has risks, but a natural miscarriage does as well. Thoughts and hugs to you.

SRJ0312 · November 2013

So sorry to hear about your loss. Everyone is different, but for me the d&c was the best thing. Very little bleeding for me as well as not much pain. I've had friends who have gone the natural route and it took them much loner to pass everything. Also, if you want to start trying again it enables you to start trying sooner (according to my doctor). Thoughts are with you

alm288 · November 2013

I'm very sorry for your loss and everything you are going through. I had a d&c a few weeks ago and it was the best option for me (although I wasn't given a choice). The procedure caused little pain and the recovery was very fast. There are risks to both ways - you need to do what's best for you and your body. *hugs*

businesshog · November 2013

Hugs to you. So sorry you are going through this.

lynseyadamson · November 2013

I'm so sorry for your loss. This is my second loss but this time I was in the same boat as you and not able to let nature take its course as baby had passéd away around 4 weeks prior to US. I had no bleeding whatsoever. I had a d&c both times and I think emotionally and physically it's a much easier option. Thinking of you x

Jessy336 · November 2013

I am so sorry for your loss. Know that you are not alone, the feelings you are expressing are exactly what I've been thinking this week. We found out last Friday that our baby wasn't there anymore (I should have been 10w6d), and it's been a long excruciating week of doctor's appointments and level tests. I opted for a d&c, because I wan't really bleeding yet either. Plus I am a teacher, and the thought of having to teach my classes while possibly bleeding heavily was more scary for me. Plus like you said, emotionally the natural route sounded much more difficult. I had my d&c yesterday, and am at home resting today. I feel like I made the best decision for me, but talk to your H and Dr to make the best choice for you. Thinking of you & sending lots of hugs your way.

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