Hello there.... I think I might belong here.

PB102012 · November 2013

Hi all,

I am starting to lean towards being "one and done" but also realize that it might be a bit early for me to come to that conclusion. I have a 10 week old daughter who I love and adore, and also adore the idea of it being only her, my DH, and I. I want to be able to give her everything that I wanted as a child, and be able to provide her with everything she needs. In all honesty though, on top of everything, I don't think that I would want to start over when having a second child. I feel like I have come so far in 10 weeks when it comes to patience. I didn't enjoy my pregnancy (I was sick, a lot), and I am very much looking forward to LO getting a bit older, as I have not really enjoyed the newborn stage. My DH has struggled because he is a "fixer" and hates to hear LO cry without knowing exactly what is wrong so he can make her feel better instantly. We have plenty of friends who have children, so she will have plenty of interaction, I am just thinking that multiple children may not be right for us.

I apologize if that seemed like a rambling session, I am typing my thoughts out as quickly as possible while I still have the bravery to post this.

kristennd · November 2013

We both kind of hated the newborn stage, and really all of infancy. (And totally didn't expect to.) Which makes most people look at you like you have two heads or are a serial killer.

It is also something many people experience and then get over. So you're sensible in saying it's a bit early. Hormones still and all. But also I recommend even hinting at that thought around family and friends yet, because they will give you stressful grief that you don't need right now.

PB102012 · November 2013

Thank you ladies!

kristennd I couldn't agree more about not saying much around friends and family. My husband made the mistake of saying something about it in front of my Grandmother when she was up visiting with my Mom (my Mom knows our wishes but hasn't said anything to my Grandma or anyone else). My Grandma got really upset, and walked out of the room. The problem is my husband is a "sharer" and tells everyone everything, which I have talked to him about, and let him know he needs to develop a filter.

MidwestMeetsMA · November 2013

Hi @christy32685!

My daughter is eight weeks old (so you're an A13 bumpie, too?) and we're also OAD! I hear you on the "is it too early to know?" thing, but then again, when I try to think of reasons to have as second... I come up blank. That's how I know this is the right decision for us.