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Being working mom is hard! Whine...

lkamenkolkamenko member
in July 2012 Moms
and with each consecutive child is harder. I am not saying SAHM is easy - I have stayed home for a while and was completely overwhelmed every day. But I find it is so hard emotionally to not to see my girl for the most of the day  5 days a week. I miss her terribly. I count hours and minutes to the end of the working day every day. Ough, I am so unhappy! Some days I feel I am a failure of a mother and she will not love me as much, since she does not see me much and therefore I am not the main caregiver. No point of this thread, just wanted to cry it out. Thanks for listening.
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  • ThePinkSuperheroThePinkSuperhero member
    @kimmer1412 Stand up to MIL!  That kinda shit is not cool, you need time with your kid!
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  • lh80lh80 member
    I could have written this post, well, except for I only have one. I feel incredibly lucky that I had almost a year off, but in a way that has spoiled me and is making it all the more difficult now. I spend too much time hoping to win the lottery right now!
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  • britbratjfbritbratjf member
    bellaxanthe said:

    @kimmer1412 I think I would take LO to daycare for the morning, then have her pick him up and spend the day with him. Then pick him up on you way home. Then she gets her day. You get him back on the weekends.

    I have a similar situation where it costs the same for 4 days or 5 of daycare. Stupid.

    I would do this too. It would suck to pay for a day you wouldn't be using but at least he would be there in the morning. Doesn't your H miss spending time with him on the weekends? If any grandparent tried to pull that all I would say is tough shit.
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  • Pandril19Pandril19 member

    @Ikamenko - Hugs.   It is hard.

    I generally like working, but some days it's rough.   The latest thorn in my side moment was filling out the monthly "Care&Feeding" sheet for Elissa.    Why do I need to fill out a schedule and example of meals for her?   At this point in her life daycare has spent more days with her than I have.   Can I just write "Whatever you've been doing' on it?

     

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    Oh.  And lately I've been working longer than normal hours, so I pretty much go 48 hours without seeing her during the week.  :-(
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    I went to a work-life balance forum before I got pregnant at work and one of the women said "I'm an amazing mother and an amazing employee.  Just never at the exact same time."  
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  • Kdoy705Kdoy705 member
    Ugh - I'm waiting on an offer for a full-time job, and I expect although I know it is the best thing for our family, I may erupt into tears upon realizing my time with R is short-lived. She goes to daycare 3x per week now while I attend class, and I know those days we get to hang and snuggle are numbered. I'm going to be right there with you ladies very soon....

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    kimmer1412 said:
    I feel you on this. I hate days that I have to make a stop on my way home because I feel like its even longer before I get to see him. And on top of not seeing him most of the week my MIL has staked claim on taking him EVERY saturday or she pitches a giant fit to MH, so I basically get one full day with him a week. I will be so glad when my MIL has to start working her 10hr shifts on saturday...come on 11/23. 
    @kimmer1412 - tell grandma to take a hike. No way in HELL should she get Saturdays with your babe. that is your time. Honestly, stand up to that lady and tell her tough shit. she is second fiddle. 

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  • singingirl96singingirl96 member
    Exact same sentiments here.  I get 1/2 hr in the morning and maybe 2 hours in the evening. And that time is spent getting him ready in the morning, and at night getting his dinner, bath and bedtime.... so it is not playtime.   I miss him terribly 5 days a week. 
    On the weekends we get to spend time together, but it has to be shared with housecleaning, cooking, shopping... etc... I feel horrible.
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  • lkamenkolkamenko member

    Thank you for your responses - it's good to know I am not alone. It is not easy to find a balance we can just do what we can and don't beat ourselfes, I guess.

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  • APendolaAPendola member
    Hugs.  Some days I miss my girl so much too.  On the other hand, some days work is a nice break, lol.  I think stay at home moms have a more exhausting job than I do.  
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  • ashleynakaashleynaka member
    I am lucky enough to be a SAHM (although like OP mentioned, it is overwhelming at times).  I feel for all of you working mommies and give you a lot of credit for it!  I would have an extremely difficult time leaving my LO, but I am also a do what you gotta do kinda girl, so if it came down to it, I would be right there with ya in the working world.
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