So with all of the talk about RF and FF in cars today, I was thinking about an issue that I would love to see what you ladies think.
I travel usually 5-7 times a year by plane, and I would say 90% of the babies under two I see are lap babies. I never really thought about whether it was safe or not, since it's so common. I also can't imagine paying for 3 seats anytime DH and I travel with our LO.
However, after joining a FB group all about car seat safety - I've learned that it's really not safe to travel with a lap baby. Here is an article I found that summarizes many of the concerns:
https://www.thecarseatlady.com/airplanes/airplanes.htmlDo you think these concerns are overboard, or do you agree? Do you buy a seat for your LO, or plan on buying one for LO - or feel safe with a lap baby? Why/why not?
Re: S/O car seat safety: air travel?
@MarkandAbbi
Not true, we fly internationally all the time since we are living overseas. DD has always been a lap baby. On Non-American airlines like KLM and Air France, DD has a seat belt that she wears attached to my seatbelt. That is the requirement per those airlines.
In regards to OP's question. In some ways I feel hypocritical, while I am a stickler on car seat safety, I view airline car seat safety in a different regard. Because air travel is so different than car travel, I think it is really hard to put these in the same category. For example, the likelihood of an air incident is significantly less than the likelihood of a car accident.
When DH and I fly, we are very cognizant throughout the duration of the flight in regards to DD's safety. We keep her belted (as well as ourselves) throughout the flight in case of unexpected turbulence, We are always awake during takeoffs and landings and take extra care during that time (Most airline incidents occur during takeoff and landing).
What I have bought for DD is the NTSB approved CARES harness that she will be able to wear now that she is over the age of two. For me, that is a lot easier than bringing the car seat on the airplane. Also with DS arriving soon, I fly solo with the kids a lot and I would not feel comfortable trying to handle two small children on takeoffs and landings. The CARES harness will keep DD securely and safely restrained while I have DS on my lap.
I feel parents frustration at air travel with small children. It can be so difficult. Should a parent buy an extra ticket for LO even though they are allowed to sit on parents' laps? Do you bring the car seat on the plane? (If you end up bringing the car seat on the airplane it has to be an airline approved car seat). Even checking the car seat presents problems too because you have no idea how roughly handled the car seat was during transit. Also, traveling through the airport with a car seat, luggage, diaper bag, and one or more kids logistically sucks. Especially if you have longer flights with multiple connections. Next time we fly back to the States, I will post of pic of how much shit we have to carry on the plane with us...It is crazy!
I would not judge a parent for having a lap baby, I do it. However, if the laws were to change I would have no issue buying a ticket for LO.
ETA: After I read the article, here are my feelings on it. I usually agree with a lot of what the car seat lady says. My issue with the article is the example that she brought up specifically this:
"While working as a flight attendant, Ms. Lohr survived a plane crash caused by an engine explosion that severed all the hydraulic lines on a flight from Denver to Chicago. She recounts what happened to 22-month old Evan, a lap-child who did not survive the impact, in a statement for the NTSB Advocacy Briefing on Child Restraints on Aircraft."
and this:"
If you think that a car seat won't protect your child in a crash, think again! Some crashes are survivable. In 2007, a 3-year old was the only survivor of a horrible plane crash - rescuers found her hanging upside down in her car seat in the rubble of the aircraft with only minor injuries."
I think these are two extreme examples. I am pretty sure I read a detailed article regarding the airline crash where the hydraulics were severed. That plane cartwheeled down the runway on impact and many other people unfortunately died in that accident.
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This!!!!!! You can can't compare the 2 really.
I traveled with DS a lot and always in my lap on the plane! But when I also had the car seat with me for car travel.
If you are taking a car seat for the plane, be prepared to pay between 90-100% of the fare & taxes, because they will be taking up a seat!!
It was so much easier when DS was an infant!! I BF him and landing and take off, and most of the time he fell asleep!!!
All of the above. I will also say, in regards to the 3 year old who survived in the plane crash, that she was flying in a small, 4 seater plane. My brother happens to be a pilot of small planes such as those. Turbulence and accidents are much more common in planes like those due to the nature of size. That 3 year old was also flying with only the pilot and co-pilot, so therefore she had no choice but to be secured in her carseat because there was no other way for her to be restrained properly. My brother, as a pilot himself, secured his own son in a carseat when he flew with him as a young child, but also held him as a lap baby on a commercial airline.
We have only flown with our oldest when she was 4 months & 13 months old. Both times I held her as a lap baby. I would do it again if we fly with a baby under 2 years old.
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We've flown both ways, but I do tend to agree with @ccip82 - I view the risks very differently compared to car accidents.
Before 18 months, a car seat seems completely unnecessary to me. I belted myself into the seat and then put DS1 in the Ergo on the 3-4 trips we took during that time, and it worked perfectly.
But after 18 months, lap infant is a pain. We had him on our lap when we visited my family in Australia around that point, and all three of us were just sick of touching each other at the end of that trip. We used the carseat on a trip to Vancouver from NYC when he was around 20 months and it was actually great because it was a redeye and DS1 slept the WHOLE way.
So long story short, for this LO: lap infant until 18 months, car seat after that.
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This would piss me off SO much! I think everything should have the opportunity to travel. Besides, why waste say $1000 on a seat, when you get the same baggage and carry on allowance PLUS more because you are travelling with an infant????
I would have told them to go to hell right then and there!
Suck it indeed!
I mean, my child's safety is a top priority. But unless you want to plastic wrap your child and keep them locked in a padded room in the basement, you're going to be taking risks with them every time you leave the house. Some risks are major (i.e. car accidents), so you become a car seat safety nazi. But some risks are negligble (i.e. a commercial airline accident), so you make an assessment as a parent that you're willing to take that risk in exchange for the benefit of a long and happy relationship with your extended family.
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Very well stated @vstevens !
If I remember correctly you have a greater chance of being struck by lightning than dying in a plane crash.
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Also, what @vstevens posted is extremely well written and I agree with that too.
PS - I fully understand driving in a car and flying in a plane are on two different levels as far as risk. I also don't have the money to buy 3 seats on every trip we take next year with LO, but the people on the car seat for the littles FB group are VERY convinced it's the only safe way to fly, and quite persuasive
Just to clarify on European airlines there is a separate infant seatbelt that connects to the regular seatbelt so you are not connected to the same one. DD and I have separate restraints.
You can decide to do whatever you feel most comfortable with. In all my flying with and without DD, I have never experienced such severe turbulence that myself or any other passengers with lap babies could not hold onto their babies (Not saying this could not happen!).
When DS is an infant I plan to wear him on the plane in my Ergo too. I did this with DD and she was quite content and secure in there.
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Just to clarify on European airlines there is a separate infant seatbelt that connects to the regular seatbelt so you are not connected to the same one. DD and I have separate restraints.
You can decide to do whatever you feel most comfortable with. In all my flying with and without DD, I have never experienced such severe turbulence that myself or any other passengers with lap babies could not hold onto their babies (Not saying this could not happen!).
When DS is an infant I plan to wear him on the plane in my Ergo too. I did this with DD and she was quite content and
secure in there.
That's pretty cool about the infant seatbelt! They def don't have those on airlines in the US that I have ever seen.
Using the ergo is a good idea, because then it seems like she would be securely attached....
Depends on the carrier and the length of the flight. I think Delta gave me one for a short haul once, but I've been given them by United and American for 3+ hour flights before, and have received one on all international flights originating in the U.S. I've had since DS1 was born. If you use the Ergo, just head's up that they will not let you keep baby in it for take off and landing (which makes NO sense to me, but whatever).
On the extreme turbulence risk - it's there, but it's LOW. I've flown all over the world and racked up thousands of frequent flier miles, and only once on a flight to Hong Kong did I have turbulence I'd describe as "severe". Again, it's just a matter of deciding what risks you're willing to take and what risks you're not - because I classify this risk as low, so I do what I can within reason to mitigate any potential negative effects, without going overboard.
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I'm lurking from Feb 2014 since I'm due at the beginning of the month...but wanted to weigh in since we have flown frequently with our daughter (14 months).
We always buy a seat and bring the carseat on, for a variety of reasons, one of which is safety. Every airline recommends having children under 2 fly in a child safety seat.
I also find that it is much more convenient to have the extra space. DD sleeps really well in her carseat and because we do a lot of 5-6 hour flights (either cross country or to Hawaii once), it is nice to have my hands/lap free for part of that time while she is asleep. An additional reason is that we then have the carseat at our destination and don't have to worry about it being damaged while checked or having to rent a carseat that could not be in the best shape.
Depends on the carrier and the length of the flight. I think Delta gave me one for a short haul once, but I've been given them by United and American for 3+ hour flights before, and have received one on all international flights originating in the U.S. I've had since DS1 was born. If you use the Ergo, just head's up that they will not let you keep baby in it for take off and landing (which makes NO sense to me, but whatever).
On the extreme turbulence risk - it's there, but it's LOW. I've flown all over the world and racked up thousands of frequent flier miles, and only once on a flight to Hong Kong did I have turbulence I'd describe as "severe". Again, it's just a matter of deciding what risks you're willing to take and what risks you're not - because I classify this risk as low, so I do what I can within reason to mitigate any potential negative effects, without going overboard.
Good to know.And what?! They make you take baby out during take off and landing?? I would love to hear the logic behind that!
Yes, for every airline I've flown I had to take DD out of the Ergo during takeoff and landing. I think it basically comes down to certain regulations that the airlines have to follow to a T to cover themselves.
Taking her out of the Ergo never was a huge deal because I always would nurse for takeoffs and landings anyway.
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