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CarrieB. · November 2013

Is your DH going to stay overnight w you at the hospital? I'm feeling conflicted with this. Of course, it does depend on when I deliver. I'm being induced tomorrow at 6am.

But even though my sister and my mom will be around for DD1 tomorrow, I'd kind of rather have my DH home with her at night. But at the same time, it would be nice for him to stay with me and the new baby at the hospital for the first night.

And I'm just feeling sad overall about leaving DD1 while I'm at the hospital. She's 2 1/2, so she kind of gets it, but I hate leaving her over night.

morganx0 · November 2013

My DH is staying with me. MIL is staying with DD, and she goes to school during the day. She's three but I explained that mommy and daddy are going to be away for a few days for the baby but we'll be home soon. She seemed to understand. I'm having a scheduled c-section so that makes it easier to plan. GL!

barista411 · November 2013

DH will be staying with me in the hospital. I am afraid of confusing DD if DH is coming and going and I don't come home. We decided to play it off as she gets to have an exciting sleep over with Grandma and Grandpa. They have all kinda of plans for her. I think she will be so busy and excited to spend time with her grandparents that she will barely realize we are gone.

Kim22 · November 2013

DH went home when we had the second and plans to go home at night with this one as well. Baby 2 was born at 5 am so by night we were good. Baby 3 is scheduled RCS at 9 am tomorrow so hoping by bedtime he will be home with the big kids. He stayed and we kept baby 1 with us the whole time and we both left exhausted from the hospital. Even though I felt bad, sending the next one to the nursery and coming home rested was so much better for everyone.

McJen715 · November 2013

DD1 (3) will either be spending the night with MIL or my mom. It depends on when I go into labor and have DD2. DD1 has had loads and loads of sleepovers at grandmas and loves them so she's looking forward to it. She keeps talking about how when I go to the hospital to have the baby she gets to go to grandmas house.

I bought her new outfits for when the baby comes so its sort of special that she gets new clothes for her sleepover. I also bought her a Doc McStuffins dress up outfit with accessories for grandmas too. And her big sister gift from the baby is a Doc doll.

karenh773 · November 2013

My husband has stayed with me and the hospital before and that will be the plan unless something comes up at home. 5 of the 6 kids are in various stages of a cold, so if any of that progresses to something more he'll likely go home, but our hope is that it will just be my dad at home again.

I get worrying about the little ones at home, but I also feel like it's important time dad gets to have with baby at the hospital and the more kids I have the more important I feel that hospital time is because so much of the work at home--managing kids, the house, food, carpools, etc falls to him and he actually gets the least amount of time with the new baby than anyone because he's the one left keeping everything together.

gwenneh · November 2013

DH stayed at home to be with DS. No overnights for him, it would have been pointless anyway as DS2 is in the NICU anyway.

drcolleen · November 2013

He went home after we had DD1, we were not close (geographically) to family and had 2 dogs he went to take care of after 26hrs of labor. He stayed the night after DD2, DD1 was 2y9mo and went to my parents house (2 hours away) for the night when we went to the hospital. I presume he will not stay this time but we haven't talked about it, depends when this happens.

mom2curlygirls · November 2013

My first stayed at our house with Grandma and Great Grandma while myself and DH stayed in the hospital 2 or 3 nights. I don't really remember. She was not bothered by it at all. As long as she was the center of attention from the Grandmas she was perfectly happy. They brought her up for a few short visits while we were there. Of course I missed her but I loved that alone time with the new baby and DH. Our first was 3 at the time.

This time, mine other two are quite a bit older so they completely get it. They are 9 and 6. I told them I need them home to care for our two puppies with Nana and Papa. They will come see us but I fully expect DH to be there with me. On the first night/day of recovery I was too sore to get up to change the baby's diapers. I had c-sections both times. She stayed in the room with us the entire time which worked out just fine. We all slept at least little bits. I just needed his support and wanted to see him bond with the new baby just as he did with our first.

mom2curlygirls · November 2013

I wanted to add...the hospital I am delivering at this time around does not have a nursery. They strongly encourage rooming-in and the nurse will come help you if you were to be alone but sending them away at night to sleep is not an option here. Not sure if your hospital is the same way or not. Something to consider

sands42 · November 2013

My husband was overseas for my first delivery- so he will not be leaving my side! I'll be selfish

DD will be with my family and very happy with them. They'll bring her to the hospital to meet the baby.

Kaymee · November 2013

I'm having a RCS and my parents are staying at our house with DS1. He goes to preschool a couple of hours during the day, and then they'll pick him up and come visit at the hospital. He's super excited about it! He will be 4 in three weeks, so I think he understands a bit.

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tiki8286 · November 2013

DH will be coming home to take care of DS, the dog and two cats. The plan is to have my mom watch DS while I give birth and as soon as I am comfortable, I'll send DH to get him. My mom takes care of my 92yr old grandma full time so I know having her and our 2 year old while thinking about me giving birth will be stressful.

Our hospital doesn't have a nursery either - unless it's absolutely necessary. They favor in room bonding

katiegal · November 2013

My husband will be going home. We have a 2 year old and a dog. He stayed with me the first night with DD1 but it was annoying because he has sleep apnea and didn't pack his CPAP. We'll both so better if he goes home.

EandIMommy86 · November 2013

My husband was there the day of delivery and stayed overnight. My daughter was with her aunt and uncle. We had her there the next day and it was just too chaotic as she is 15 months. So no way would she have survived two days in that room. My husband took her home that afternoon and she was home with him the rest of the time until it was time for me to be discharged. Plus we also have dogs so he was able to take care of them instead of boarding them.

[Deleted User] · November 2013

DH went home to be with DD. Tonight is our first night home as a family of four! Yay. I felt better having DD at home with DH. I think it's helped her adjust some because DH could come home and talk with her about the baby but she still had one of us there. She is 2 yrs and 8 mos. When I got tired at the hospital I just sent LO to the nursery between feedings and it worked out fine!

beccaxbooxbear · November 2013

Ds1 Will be going to my parents house and dh will be working while I'm in the hospital so that when I come home with baby he can take a full week off to be with us. Dh will come to the hospital after work

RavenandJosh · November 2013

This hospital that we use is 1.5 hours away from where we live so DH will be staying overnight this time around also. We have already explained to DS that he going to have a sleepover with Nanny and DeeDee (Grandpa, he came up with DeeDee somewhere lol). He will be so excited to be with them that he will hardly miss us at all unfortunately. I also agree with a PP that it can get confusing for DS if DH is coming back and forth and leaving him there constantly. My DS is so use to coming with us everywhere that if DH came in and left so frequently without him, he would really start getting upset about the whole situation. Also for some reason, our hospital does not allow you to keep LO in the room with you overnight atleast for the first night if you do not have somebody stay with you in the room. They say it's for safety reasons. If you do not have somebody stay with you, then LO has to stay in the nursery and you can request that LO is brought to you when feedings are needed and then they will come take them back when you are done.

artistlife · November 2013

DH is staying with me Thursday and then staying home with DS if I have to stay Friday night. My mom will probably stay with me Friday.

lafsalot · November 2013

I am thinking DH will go home, unless I am in labor thru the night. We have 3 dogs and live 2 minutes from the hospital. So at some point they will need out and fed and he will sleep better at home than at the hospital. 2 of the dogs we could have someone else let out but 1 would have issues and can't be picked up by anyone but DH, myself, groomer and vet. She loves her people and only her people. So he will have to take care of her.

TobieRose · November 2013

My DH will definitely be with me overnight ... I don't think I could handle two newborns by myself, especially if I end up needing a c-section! I am a little worried about DS waking up without either of us at home, but we'll just have to play it by ear if it doesn't go well, I guess.

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