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Am I asking too much of my daycare?

cocoamommie2cocoamommie2 member
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So I EBF and my almost 3 month old is in daycare 10 hours a day during the week. Recently I have noticed my LO hasn't been having BM's as frequently in the past couple weeks which I was told is normal in breastfed babies. I had previously been monitoring his movements to keep track of food allergy reactions and possible sickness or tummy trouble but he hasn't had a "dirty" diaper with me (overnight and weekends) in about a week and a 1/2. I asked the nursery caregiver if she could save a dirty diaper for me to look at so that I could make sure there is not mucus in it and to make sure its overall normal and she seemed put off by it. She tried to assure me that the movements were normal and seemed reluctant to agree to save a diaper. I explained that I was not questioning whether or not he was having them I simply want to be able to have an informed conversation with his pediatrician about his movements and I can't do that if all I know is what I'm being told by them. Not to mention that I think it's odd that he doesn't have BM's at all at home (even on the weekends) but having them  multiple times during the day there. 

I feel like I should not have to justify needing her to save a dirty diaper so that I can make sure my child is responding well to my diet and isn't otherwise sick or unnecessarily uncomfortable. How else will I know if the stools are normal if he is not having movements when at home but having multiple stools at the daycare. 

Am I asking too much of the daycare??
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  • stringer.tabithastringer.tabitha member
    It may be a licensing issue. I know at the center I work for all dirty diapers have to be disposed of as soon as they are removed from the child. The only exception to this I have ever seen the facility I work for not stick to this has been a doctor ordered diaper used for uti detection.
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  • scruggsascruggsa member
    I don't think you are asking too much. Especially if your LO is not having any over the weekends. I don't see why they can put a dirty diaper in a bag and save it for you. I would want to see my kids poop as well.
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  • ASmallWonderASmallWonder member
    I understand why you asked and you shouldn't HAVE to justify your request but you've got to admit - without context, it's a very odd request.
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  • HFrizzleHFrizzle member
    Is baby having tummy issues or are you just overly paranoid? It seems odd to me to ask for a dirty diaper if baby is fine and having no issues.

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  • mamato3girlsmamato3girls member
    Do you think there is actually an issue or are you just monitoring just in case. Honestly, I think it's kind of strange either way. I can't imagine as a care provider wanting to hold onto a poopyndiaper all day long, especially if she has other kids there. Not to mention we cloth diaper so we have diapers that sit in a pail or wetbag for a few hours. Baby poop changes once it sits there, it will not look the same as it did right after it happened, I'm not sure you could tell much frompoop that has potentially sat for 8 hours. Why not just have her take a picture of it?
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  • psychdoc12psychdoc12 member
    My first thought was to have her take a picture. 
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  • michelle7482michelle7482 member
    I think it's strange .

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  • AppleMuffinsAppleMuffins member
    I think it's odd. I worked in the infant room of a daycare before and I would it have wanted to hold onto a diaper. I would have taken a pic if asked though. I would also secretly be annoyed with the parent for not trusting my judgement when I say the child is pooping and the poop is normal. Daycare providers change more diapers on more kids so they have a pretty good idea of what's normal. We have nothing to gain by lying!
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  • Mom38673Mom38673 member
    Well, I understand what you were asking.  My son (10 wks) has just been diagnosed with a milk protein allergy.  I had more saved diapers and photos of poop than anyone!!  I had everyone putting them in baggies so I could look through them before disposal.  I would definitely ask my daycare to keep one and take a photo if I needed too!  No hesitation.  I do agree there may be some guidelines for health reasons that a daycare would not be able to hold onto a dirty diaper.  I would do my best to have them call me immediately after a BM, so that I may run down and check it.  Would you be able to leave work for a short bit to check one of the diapers if they called?  Just be aware, the diapers do change if left for very long like the previous poster stated.  
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  • laciegregorylaciegregory member
    I think you can ask them to do whatever you want! You are being proactive and have every right to want to know for yourself.  It shouldn't be a big deal to wrap it up and put it in your diaper bag. Especially if what they are telling you and what you are experiencing at home don't add up.  Good for you momma.
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  • Carnation77Carnation77 member
    Ask them to take a picture instead. Probably a licensing issue.
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