First night back to work...

Waliany2015 · November 2013

Tonight is my first night back to work. I didn't even make to the parking lot before I completely fell apart. How am I suppose to pretend like am ok when I'm not. It's not even about working in L&D I have no problems seeing babies. My problem is seeing my coworkers. I am not good at faking it. Anyone have any tips on how to keep a smile on your face?

mlt13 · November 2013

I have no tips, just sending you big hugs! Stay strong.

ColeyJ88 · November 2013

I am so sorry...

I went through this exact same thing today. Literally asked myself those same questions. I cried the whole way to work, hid in my office for as long as possible, and when my boss asked me how I was doing I couldn't lie and say "okay" so I fell apart. It did get easier throughout the work day. Yes it was the longest day, but it did get a tiny bit easier to keep my mind off things by getting back to "normal" life. My heart goes out to you, I hope your night gets better.

hadley135 · November 2013

So sorry for your loss. I think it will get a tiny bit better each day.I had my first day back to work 4 days after we found out and I cried the whole hour drive there. Tonight was my 3rd day in a row and I am already a little better. I also didn't cry when someone asked me about it. Little steps at a time. Hugs coming your way.

alm288 · November 2013

I'm sorry for your loss. I felt kind of in a daze my first week back to work. I have no great tips except it helped me to keep myself occupied and busy. It does get easier with time and I think it's important to cry and let your emotions out. Good luck and big hugs!!!!

lynseyadamson · November 2013

After my first loss I was dreading going back to work. It got easier once I'd seen all my co-workers and they'd got over the awkwardness of what to say or ask me how I am. I just said "please don't be nice with me or I'll cry!" In a jokey way, but I kind of meant it because I was worse when people were hugging me and telling me how sorry they were. I'm still off work with my second loss and again, I'm dreading seeing everyone again. I popped in with my sick note yesterday and just totally broke down in my bosses office. Sending you big hugs hunny xx

peggels24 · November 2013

This is my first day back to work (well half day because I was crampy this morning and didn't get out of bed) and I pasted a big ole smile on my face and let everyone get their "sorrys" out of the way. The cramping is getting worse and I want to go back to bed.

MrsG80inTN · November 2013

I have no tips... I was a wimp and went home the first day I was supposed to go back and stayed home for another day. Thinking of you as I know it's not difficult. For me, it mostly just helped to be honest with people... "I'm not really ok, and this is why, I don't want to talk about it, but just understand that I may not be myself."

Waliany2015 · November 2013

Thank you ladies! I hadn't told very many people at work so most people have no idea why I'm not more normal happy chatty self. I held it together most of the night with just a few brief break downs that I was able to hide. I also had to work with the same anesthesiologist that I had for my D&C so that was challenging as well but at least it's over! I have classes for the rest of the week so it will be a nice break.

abbyful · November 2013

((hugs)) Seeing my co-workers was hard too. A couple of them that I'm closer to knew I was pregnant (and then subsequently what happened), most people still don't. Both are hard in different ways.

businesshog · November 2013

Hugs to you! It's definitely tough going back. I've had a similar problem this week. Monday was my first day back. I don't work L&D, so I can't relate on that level, but I work around a lot of 20-30 somethings, most of whom are either pregnant or trying to get pregnant. The past two weeks have been baby-palooza. While I was out for my MC last week, one girl came back to work from maternity leave, one of my direct reports announced that she's 11 weeks pregnant, and my main client announced that his wife is pregnant. I'm really happy for all of them, it's just not easy to take all of it right now. I've only shared my MC with a couple of people at work, so most people just thought I was out with a virus and I'll probably keep it that way. Needless to say, yesterday was pretty much just an all-around crappy day and I was worthless. Today was considerably better.

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