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Telling my SD's

mrsgyaraymrsgyaray member
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How have you ladies told your step children? We are waiting until second trimester to tell the kids and the ex. 

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  • joshsmandyjoshsmandy member
    We waited to tell any if the kids about the baby but when we felt it was the right time we took them out to dinner and had a family discussion about it, that way they felt like they were celebrating it and they got to ask questions :)
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  • mrsgyaraymrsgyaray member
    We were thinking of giving them Big Sister shirts. They are six and seven. This is my first so I'm super nervous. I've had a sincerely close relationship with them and am hoping that it won't be terrible. I'm not naive enough to think this will be a totally smooth transition. 

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  • nevertunenevertune member
    I was afraid of bad reactions, so I told my son (6) privately and my husband told his son (9) privately so that if they sulked, they wouldn't be spoiling it for the other boy. Silly us, both were thrilled! They're double thrilled they get to share a room, which I don't understand, since I would have hated sharing a room as a kid. My step-son has two younger half-siblings from his mom, one having just been born, so he's going to be a veteran big brother. My son only has an every-other-weekend-step-brother, so he's kind of excited to have a full-time sibling. We told them after my 8 week ultrasound showed everything measuring great. I told my ex a couple weeks later when I decided to quit my job and thus pulling my son out of day care. Kinda felt obligated to tell him why.
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  • MommyEllenSueMommyEllenSue member
    We were putting then SS6 and SD6 to bed and told them we had a really big suprise for them. We then just told them that they were going to have a baby brother or sister. They were beyond thrilled!
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  • CFjo2010CFjo2010 member
    mrsgyaray said:
    We were thinking of giving them Big Sister shirts. They are six and seven. This is my first so I'm super nervous. I've had a sincerely close relationship with them and am hoping that it won't be terrible. I'm not naive enough to think this will be a totally smooth transition. 
    We did this with the kids.  DS got a "Big Bro" shirt, and DD and K got "Big Sis" shirts.  We had them open their bags at the same time and no one figured it out until K read her shirt (she was the youngest).  We had a fun family night and we ended it with the shirts.  The kids were 12, 8, and 5 at the time and they were all really excited about it.  They couldn't wait to wear their shirts to my parents' house the next day, which is how we told my parents we were expecting a baby.
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  • ream02ream02 member
    We told DD together who was so excited about DS. This time around she's not as excited. Not sure if it's the pre-teens or if she realizes just how much time babies take of mom. 

     

     

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  • KendraL86KendraL86 member
    My SD's were snooping around our bedroom/bathroom and found the positive tests. We were barely pregnant. We obviously had to tell them both then, and at almost 15 and 19, we also discussed the risks since it was so early in the pregnancy. We hadn't intended to tell them until 12 weeks. Both were extremely happy!

    We found out we are having a boy yesterday so I have a fun reveal planned for this weekend. I figure since we couldn't tell them about the pregnancy in a fun way, at least we will be able to tell them it's a boy in a special way.
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  • YummyChefYummyChef member
    I'm not pregnant but I've actually thought about it... I want to wrap a Big Bro t-shirt for my SS, give it to him in a gift box. When he opens it, we talk about it. Then, when he's asked all his questions, host a get together to tell the rest of the family but have SS wear the tshirt when he opens the door for everyone, that way he'll be a walking talking proud big brother billboard... he's got a flair for entertainment so i totally picture him opening the door with a "TADAAAAAA" pointing at his t-shirt. I can't wait!
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  • Lavender PLavender P member
    KendraL86 said:
    My SD's were snooping around our bedroom/bathroom and found the positive tests. We were barely pregnant. We obviously had to tell them both then, and at almost 15 and 19, we also discussed the risks since it was so early in the pregnancy.
    Your SDs are 15 and 19 and were snooping through your bathroom? I hope you talked to them about privacy as well...
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