Hi there!
I'm sure you guys get this question all the time, but how to you make ends meet financially? I have one year old twin boys and I want to be a SAHM so badly. I currently work part time as a nurse on a busy floor and am often there from 6:30am-8:30 or 9pm. It's only two days a week so I know I can't really complain, but those days are loooooong. I drop the boys off at 6am and they are in bed by the time I get home. I just feel like I'm missing them grow up. Also my life has no rhyme or reason.
My husband and I sat down yesterday and we are just shy of making enough to have all of our needs covered. I'm planning on working contingent to keep my skills up, but won't be bringing in nearly when I do now.
Here's what we do now:
-shop at Costco and Aldi
-pack lunches
-have officially given up fast food (Oh my gosh I can't even admit what we were spending on it)
Here's what we are considering:
-cloth diapering (Would it be worth it? we go through about 12 diapers a day)
What tips do you ladies have for someone who is looking to take the plunge?
I'm really just looking for some encouragement!
Thanks in advance!
Re: How do you guys do it?
As far as cloth diapering, I broke even after about 4 months of CDing and am now diapering DD for free. So while there is an initial investment, there is also a huge savings.
We are about $300/ month short. Which is a lot. But DH just got a new job where he will be making salary plus commission and we didn't include the commission in our budget because we literally have no idea what to expect. he's never done a sales job before.
I'm planning on staying at my job through January and then going per diem so that will help get us through this weird transition time of his new job. We will try to live off his income during those couple months and use mine to pay off some debt. that will give us a little bit better idea of how it would be if I were to stay home
I actually never wanted to be a SAHM until I found that I'm really just not fulfilled at my job anymore. I literally run from room to room an a totally high stress environment for 12.5 hours and then have to stay after to chart. the idea kind of blossomed after that and after many long talks with dh and many prayers, we've decided it's just right for our family.
I really do appreciate all of the advice, however. thank you for the reality check. things will go wrong even though in my little vision, everything is perfect.
I admire all of you ladies!
It doesn't sound like right now is a good time to make the change. First, $300 short Of covering essential bills is a lot. You'll ideally want to have a few hundred extra for stuff like car maintenance, sick visit copays, birthday gifts, etc etc. also sales is incredibly risky especially since he doesn't have the background. Lots of people get fired because they don't sell enough. I'd give his new gig a good six months to make sure he succeeds and then make the change.
ok, thanks for the advice! and of course I don't just want to be a stay at home mom because I don't like my current job. you guys are a tough crowd. have a nice day
You didn't ask us to bullshit you...you asked us how we do it. The ladies took time to answer you nicely, and you got some really good advice. We're not a tough crowd...it's not us you have to convince.
Sorry, I felt attacked I guess and that is my fault. Thanks you for your responses and time. It did kind of seem like I only wanted to be home because I didn't like my job, but that couldn't be further from the truth. the idea of it did sprout from that, but I was being honest when I said I don't want to miss my boys growing up and my mindset has completely turned around and I want to be a home maker.
The decision has already been made. I am going to be a stay at home mom as soon as I can, I was just asking for some encouragement. I admire moms who stay home and want to join the likes of them. Sorry for being a poop and thanks again!
It's before and there are always hours to pick up at work. also I know that the Lord will provide for our needs.
Also my husband is experienced in his field he's just new to the sales aspect of it.
I am a lurker... but had to chime in b/c I am a nurse who works p-t and has twins as well (1.5yr). Also, I used to be in sales, so there's that. I have to say I think you received some pretty sound advice. Commission can be very unpredictable, the money can be great some months or quarters and can be bleak other times. I wouldn't count on it for my monthly budgeting, but more for things like vacations or fun $.
Regarding your nursing career, I would be so careful before leaving your part-time day shift job. It can take a long time on some units to get a day shift position. What if you quit for a few years and then wanted to go back? Would you be ok with working night shift? I work nights, and I like it because I don't have that full day stretch where I don't see the kids at all, but it's not for everyone. Also, those adorable little boys are only going to get more expensive. We'll be looking at preschool soon that'll cost $400/month easily. And yes, organic milk ain't cheap. We spend $70 on just milk per month for our twins.
I work at a very good hospital and we have been furloughing nurses for the past several months and I know other hospitals in my region are as well. Nursing jobs aren't as plentiful as they were a few years ago. Could you make a switch within your hospital? Maybe to a 7-3 position? I know it's hard... you are taking care of other people when you want to take care of YOUR people.
B/G twins born 5/12
thanks for that
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I do it and really enjoy it. I guess it just depends.
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