How many carseats do you have?

wearebirds · November 2013

We were planning to just get one carseat and get an extra base. Then the carseat just stays with the baby (DH will drop off at MIL and ill pick up).

Is there any reason we should have another one? Should we get a base for MIL too even though she's not supposed to take LO anywhere since its only a few hours?

Help!

DTNZ4Ever · November 2013

Will MIL have the extra base? Or will she just buckle the seat in?

Oops I thought I read that MIL would pick up. Stupid pregnancy brain. I think 2 bases would be fine. My parents watch DS and if they take out DS we just switch cars.

wearebirds · November 2013

@DTNZ4Ever well, she's not supposed to be taking LO anywhere since he will only have her for a couple of hours. I suppose in case of emergencies she should have a base as well...but I don't want to promote her taking her anywhere.

DH will have one base and I will have another...we weren't planning to get Her one but I guess we should think about it.

ceh789 · November 2013

I can't think of a good reason to have another bucket seat - if MIL is going to be providing regular care then I'd either get a base or make sure she's VERY comfortable buckling the seat in w/o a base - even for a few hours there will inevitably be times when she needs to take LO in the car.

huskymomma94 · November 2013

I'm going to assume your MIL will be watching LO? And you aren't going to let her drive him/her in the car?

I would get her a base for her car. What if there is an emergency? What if LO is sick and she has to take him to the doctor?

PerkyErky · November 2013

We only plan to get one seat and two bases. One for each car. My parents might get a base for them as well since they watch DS (and most likely this LO) and I expect they may take both out and about at times. We may just let them use one of our bases at first until we see if it would make more sense for them to have their own.

wearebirds · November 2013

Yeah. We will probably get her a base. I can't think of why we'd need another actual seat...which is why I asked. I've never needed a carseat before. Lol

I have a friend who never gives her MIL a carseat any time they watch her daughter. I asked her the same thing about emergencies and she said "then she can call 911". So then I thought, well crap we need another base. Lol.

matthewmegan · November 2013

It depends. We only have one base and keep it in my car, but I do both the pick up and drop off at daycare. DH has a convertible (has since DD was 4 months old.) Both sets of parents live a flight away and we got them convertible carseats that they have installed at the firestation prior to our arrival. Since your MIL won't be using it often, it might make more sense to get a convertible for her. Many can be used for a baby as small as 5 lbs (we didn't use one until 4 months) but will prevent having to buy another new one when LO outgrows the infant carrier.

PerkyErky · November 2013

Is there a reason you don't want MIL to be driving with your LO or take him out anywhere?

huskymomma94 · November 2013

PerkyErky said:

Is there a reason you don't want MIL to be driving with your LO or take him out anywhere?

This. Will your MIL be watching LO full time? If so, I think its unrealistic to ask her to never go anywhere.

My mom watches my son (and will watch DS#2 as well), and she watches him for free. I would never ask her to sit in her house for hours and hours every day and not go anywhere.

wearebirds · November 2013

PerkyErky said:
Is there a reason you don't want MIL to be driving with your LO or take him out anywhere?

None other than I don't want to get there to pick up my baby and she's got her out somewhere....I can see this happening. She's a good driver, so nothing like that.

huskymomma94 · November 2013

Well that's just silly. I assume she will know what time you are coming to pick her up and can plan accordingly.

babylimas · November 2013

We only had one carseat and 3 bases (me, H, and my mom). It worked out perfectly. I just left the seat at school with her, and then whoever picked up would stick in their base.

wearebirds · November 2013

huskymomma94 said:

PerkyErky said:

Is there a reason you don't want MIL to be driving with your LO or take him out anywhere?

This. Will your MIL be watching LO full time? If so, I think its unrealistic to ask her to never go anywhere.

My mom watches my son (and will watch DS#2 as well), and she watches him for free. I would never ask her to sit in her house for hours and hours every day and not go anywhere.

If it were full time I'd never request she not go anywhere at all. That's torture. She will only have LO for a max of 3 1/2 hours a day and sometimes it'll be at my house sometimes at hers.

laurendom · November 2013

I'd probably buy a base for her. Though she could be properly trained to buckle the seat in without one, I would not want to worry about her having to do that in case of an emergency.

kelley72 · November 2013

Wow- having someone watch LO on a regular/weekly basis that isn't "allowed" to drive them is odd to me. I would most definitely get her a base or reconsider who is watching LO

ProudMommy030614 · November 2013

We plan on having 1 car seat and 1 base. There's no family except mil (no way in hell she's driving with my kids!) and mh drives a work truck!

PerkyErky · November 2013

wearebirds said:

I have a friend who never gives her MIL a carseat any time they watch her daughter. I asked her the same thing about emergencies and she said "then she can call 911". So then I thought, well crap we need another base. Lol.

I obviously know nothing about your friend or her relationship/concerns with her MIL. But she sounds super controlling in that she won't even leave a car seat for the baby when her MIL watches her and says she can call 911. If I was the MIL I would buy my own car seat just to be spiteful in this situation.

Unless there are valid safety concerns with someone's driving I don't see what the big deal is. You trust them enough to care for your child while you're gone so why not enable them to keep baby as safe as possible with a car seat. I don't think you necessarily need to be the one to purchase the base and I definitely don't think you need separate car seats during the early stage.

ceh789 · November 2013

PerkyErky said:
If I was the MIL I would buy my own car seat just to be spiteful in this situation.

If I was the MIL I would decline to provide child care...

wearebirds · November 2013

dotgirl2 said:

wearebirds said:

huskymomma94 said:

PerkyErky said:

Is there a reason you don't want MIL to be driving with your LO or take him out anywhere?

This. Will your MIL be watching LO full time? If so, I think its unrealistic to ask her to never go anywhere.

My mom watches my son (and will watch DS#2 as well), and she watches him for free. I would never ask her to sit in her house for hours and hours every day and not go anywhere.
If it were full time I'd never request she not go anywhere at all. That's torture. She will only have LO for a max of 3 1/2 hours a day and sometimes it'll be at my house sometimes at hers.

Even it's just a few hours, I would think there will be days she'll want to go out somewhere with the baby. Why limit her?

I don't think it's strange at all to not want someone gallivanting around places with my child, not knowing where they've gone. I get that occasionally she will have to take LO somewhere with her (grocery store, occasional outing). But I don't think it should be a regular thing. She only has her for 3 hours. Around here, everything is at least 30 minutes away....and I don't want to be coming home or to pick her up to just have to wait for them to return.

FWIW I will be getting her a base o use for emergency and if they've got to go somewhere (that DH or I will know of ahead of time or call and let one of us know).

ETA: I trust her to do what DH and I ask. She can be difficult sometimes wanting her own way but I know if DH says it has to go one way she'll do it. My original question was just to see if I was overlooking needing another carseat....then it reminded me that we'd probably need a base at least for her. Thanks for the help!

aracelyluna · November 2013

Like PP have said we had 2 bases and 1 seat. I stay home but if my kid is with someone for more than two hours they have a car seat. Not only emergencies but because I don't want to keep them at home if they want to go out.

sambrownmac10 · November 2013

If she's not going to be going out everyday with lo, she can just buckle the car seat using the car seat belt. I don't think there is a need for a third base, if mil would feel better having a base she could pick up a used one herself.

erind0213 · November 2013

We had the carrier to start with 2 bases.

Then we upgraded to the GRACO my ride 65 and when MIL took DD she took my van. (That got annoying).

We didn't love the my ride anymore and switched DD to the GRACO Natilus and donated the myride 65 to MIL so she'd have her own seat.

When this baby comes, I am not sure what we will do. Most likely reuse carrier and possibly ask MIL for the myride back still this one is big enough for the natilus. Then if MIL wants to take them both she will have to invest in an extra car seat.

kaking78 · November 2013

We're planning on two - the infant seat with detachable carrier for DH's car (he'll be the one staying home with our little boy) and a convertible for my car, which the kid won't be in that much. Once he outgrows the infant seat we'll move it to DH's or buy a second for DH's car.

JannyLynn410 · November 2013

I would think about getting her one mostly for emergencies but also the fact that she may need to run somewhere for something and can't because she has the baby. She may be babysitting but shouldn't be completely prohibited from having a life.

JKS21 · November 2013

We have two infant bases - one for my/DH's vehicle. My mom ended up getting her own seat/base just because.. and now has her own standard carseat that he's older.

craftiemommie · November 2013

We are registering for three bases, one for each of our cars and one for my parents'. As far as buckling I'm the car seat in an emergency, I would think that would be when you really want the click in seat - not to have your MIL trying to figure that out in what may be an already stressful emergency situation.

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