working mom check in

Bunnyfer · November 2013

A bit late...but let's hear it mammas. I know we had more that went back to work this week.

Week three and its not getting easier. I love spending my days withthe LO. I think I am not getting enough calories and that may be why my pumping sucks. Dh is getting better with LO though, but I know he does things different from me, I just need to let it go and move on

girlmama83 · November 2013

I go back Monday. I'm having severe anxiety over it.

[Deleted User] · November 2013

I went back PT last week. This coming week it's FT and the boys will be with the babysitter, last week MH was with them for two days and me the other three. I'm a little nervous about LO adjusting to her.

LokiLahve · November 2013

LO starts daycare Monday and I start back to work full time Thursday. It's going to be a hard week for sure.
I've come to realize working at least part time is best for my personal happiness. I wish I could just do 3 days a week but unfortunately it wouldn't work at my job.
I also wish I had family or someone I know that would be watching LO. I would feel ok leaving her with someone I know and trust that loves her on a personal level. At this point I'm hoping that over time her caregiver will become this person...but right now she is just a lady I found & interviewed that is watching my baby for financial means. That is honestly the part I hate and that gives me so much anxiety.

V&G101808 · November 2013

Week 2 went much better than week 1. I think the main reason I feel better is because I know LO is being taken care of by family who absolutely love and adore him.

I love spending the evenings snuggling with him and have gotten extra snuggles all weekend long. I don't want to share him on the weekends

My only anxiety is over a) my schedule. My boss was supposed to get back to me about working part time from home (part time in office) and he hasn't. And

I've already been told I will be traveling... April for sure but it seems like I'll have to travel to the west coast sooner rather than later.

MommyKristin88 · November 2013

This was week #3 for me. I feel like I'm back in my groove. I changed my hours, so I get off an hour earlier now. It's been great to have an extra hour with my kids at night!!

LEMSA · November 2013

I was supposed to start a new job oct 28. Then it was nov 4. Now it's nov 11. Damn HR. I really hate this waiting game. I love spending time w LO & DH, but I have one more paycheck from my prev job, then that's it. So this delay ain't working for me. We have savings, but I hate using it because of someone else's error.

And DH has been calling about a job he applied for that will give him more flexible hours. Wish someone would call him back

Ok, that had nothing to do with going back to work. Sorry to thread jack to vent.

Carry on.

alexkylee · November 2013

Aw, @petey1106, I do love that hat. I may have to get it.

I agree the second week back at work was better. DH says it gets harder and harder to drop her off at DC, but that's because he wants to stay at home. LO is liking DC and I like the ladies there, which is a relief. I've got a nice pumping routine at work and I'm able to keep up with her. I work shifts and worked a late shift last night (4 pm to midnight). The good thing was I got to spend almost the entire day with her before dropping her off at 3. The only bad thing is I get less sleep that night and miss her bedtime routine. I work some late shifts again this week so we'll see how they go.

PrettyAccountant · November 2013

I go back on Monday and have been a freakin head case all week. My anxiety is through the roof and I have been crying Everytime I look at my LO. I hate the DH is going to get to be a SAHD and I can't be a SAHM.

kanned0121 · November 2013

I've hated being at work and away from LO. But I will admit it gets easier. It makes me appreciate my time with him more. I could go crazy with how much I love my little human.

We have had some unexpected expenses so my part time hours aren't cutting it.. Luckily it's easy to get extra hours.. But planning them around DH's shifts have meant very little sleep for me..

Secret: my DH is applying for a job where we'd move to the east coast.. As much as moving far away scares me. It means I could be a stay at home mom... I'm torn if I want him to get it or not..

MommyBolty · November 2013

This was my second week back. Monday, Tuesday, and Wednesday were harder than last week. But Thursday and Friday weren't bad. Still thankful for a job that I love. But wouldn't bat an eye if I had the chance to me a SAHM.

HermansWife · November 2013

This week was harder for me, especially Wednesday when he was awake and fussing when I left.

I haven't yet found a way to balance work demands (I have to bring work home) and just wanting to snuggle LO in the evenings. Snuggle time wins and now I'm way behind on my homework and work stuff, which is causing anxiety. Hopefully I can figure it all out soon.

Lovehavinggirls · November 2013

I'm going back tomorrow. It was hard to go back after dd1 but this time seems worse. I don't crave that adult time at all and just want to be with my kids. Hopefully it will get easier as the week goes on. I'm going to work 8-4 the first week and try really hard to leave work right at 4.

The girls will be with either Dh or MIL so I don't have to worry about dropping them off anywhere.

LokiLahve · November 2013

I don't remember who started this thread, but thank you! It has helped me deal with my anxieties about returning to work.

tanabeans · November 2013

I go back Tuesday ad I feel ready emotionally but I am feeling nervous about:

1) you all know this but DD has refuse the bottle. I've been offering it at everyfeeding she will take it in her muh ad chew on it but hasn't latched on more than once. MIL will prob have a rough day Tuesday and I am anxious for my poor girl.

2) I'm worried her sleep routine is pretty similar but still varies and hour each day so getting her fed and me out of the house will be hard.

3) I haven't had To think critically since before pg cu y boss cut me slack and let me nap. When I go back I have a new work assignment and a new supervisor plus I will be competing for a permanent position in may when my student term ends. My performance for part time needs to be awesome so they want to hire me

tanabeans · November 2013

@LEMSA I swear HR has a complete disregard for employee bills. Sorry you are going through this

bl190004 · November 2013

@tanabeans, YGPM.

RK125 · November 2013

@hermanswife I am having the same problem balancing. I was up until midnight Friday night planning because I chose snuggles over paperwork.

I survived my first week back. Monday was hard. I cried before I left, but made it through the day without crying. It's been easier to leave in the morning because she is sleeping. I don't know what'll happen if she's awake and I have to leave. Work keeps me so busy that I don't have time to truly miss her. I mean I miss her, but no time to get upset. We'll see how next week goes. I had a meltdown about balancing school work and home life on Wednesday. Dh hugged me and said we'd figure it out. I know it'll just take some time. I have to thank @mommabmb for checking in on me this week. It really helped!

Camysmom · November 2013

Can't believe that I will be joining this group in just over a week. I never ever thought I would consider staying at home. I love my career and really it's been my whole life until baby. But now I ugly cry every time I think about leaving my baby girl and going to work. Sigh.
@tanabeans I was having the same bottle refusal issue and she finally will take it from my husband. We started offering it to her about an hour after a nursing session so she wasn't hungry but wasn't full either. She would play with it for awhile but finally got the idea. Also, the only bottle she will take is the como tomo bottles that someone on here recommend.

NikkiD522 · November 2013

It's still tough 3 weeks in. The worst is that by the time I get off and pick up LO, it's time to get him ready for bed as soon as get home :-(

@v&g101808 I've been considering requesting to do part time at home and part time at work.. Can I ask how you proposed it to your boss? My boss is pretty understanding and empathetic, but I'm having a hard time coming up with the right "reasons" for me to be home., except for to see LO more., which I'm not sure will be enough unfortunately :-(

magdalina.h · November 2013

Week 2 was easier. Pumping lots more. I'm hating work though, but it has nothing to do with Alexis. Just not happy there.

V&G101808 · November 2013

NikkiD522 said:
It's still tough 3 weeks in. The worst is that by the time I get off and pick up LO, it's time to get him ready for bed as soon as get home :-(

@v&g101808 I've been considering requesting to do part time at home and part time at work.. Can I ask how you proposed it to your boss? My boss is pretty understanding and empathetic, but I'm having a hard time coming up with the right "reasons" for me to be home., except for to see LO more., which I'm not sure will be enough unfortunately :-(

I started a new position when I returned but interviewed while I was pregnant. The director who I interviewed with was very open about his family and his children and how he understood family was most important. I felt comfortable asking him about working from home a portion of the day and I sort of used child care as an excuse. He said as long as I did my work, he didn't care where it was from.

It also helps that I'm on the east coast but my customers are on the west coast. So that's another point I mentioned. Being able to work from home in the evenings allows me to better serve my customers.

No Longer ERL · November 2013

Work is going well. I am super busy...almost to. I am covering for another nurse interviewing for the clinic manager job. Can't wait to find out if I get the position. Pumping is going well. My work life balance is out of wack...hoping to get that figured.

tanabeans · November 2013

@bl190004 replied

@Camysmom thanks

I have tried all sorts of bottles even ones similar to como tomo and the momma bottle but she seems to like the breastflow one. It has a small nipple and big base an it's super squishy like a boob, i ended up taking out the inner nipple since i have a fast flow. We have been practicing every day and its getting better. I think I will try offering it a little after she eats, but she eats every hour! Daddy seems to have the most luck

LJUTCMommy · November 2013

I know I'm late to the party, but I have a sleeping baby on my chest and can't get up to do anything so I'm bumping.

I go back in 2 weeks. Nanny is staring on Tuesday for a week of trial shifts. I'm also finally doing some baby proofing because I realized I will have 0 time when I go back to work.

I am also hoping having an in home nanny will motivate me to pick up my house every night before bed. I'm so lazy at night, but then mad at myself the next day because the first thing I have to do in the morning is clean. It gives me anxiety.

CaliforniaDream87 · November 2013

I'll be returning as of 12/1 and I'm looking forward to it. Of course I will miss my LO but we have an amazing in home nanny that will be with LO and I get to go back to a career I LOVE!

@LJUTCMOMMY- let me know how your first day goes

LJUTCMommy · November 2013

@CaliforniaDream87 I will definitely update next week.

If you don't mind me asking, what do you do? You always seem so satisfied with your career.

CaliforniaDream87 · November 2013

LJUTCMommy said:
@CaliforniaDream87 I will definitely update next week.

If you don't mind me asking, what do you do? You always seem so satisfied with your career.

@LJUTCMOMMY YGPM

NikkiD522 · November 2013

Thanks @v&g101808 ! I think I've got to give some serious thought to it bc only seeing LO from like 6-8 while he's awake sucks :-(

rooftop · November 2013

started back last week and it's been a disaster. LO still won't take a bottle even after weeks of trying and 100s of dollars in different bottles/nipples. She'll drink from a cup if she isn't too upset when they start but it's slow going, messy and frustrates her. Most nights I come home early to LO screaming cause she's hungry or fast asleep because she wore herself out crying. I feel like the worst mom ever but don't know what more I can do. Work has been very understanding with letting me go early but I am expected to show up when scheduled and I can't just not go to work. I don't know what I'm gonna do.

LokiLahve · November 2013

@rooftop I'm so sorry you are having such a difficult time. I can't imagine how upsetting your situation is. I hope things get better for you soon. In the meantime, don't be too hard on yourself. I'm sure You are doing everything you can for LO.

tanabeans · November 2013

@rooftop I'm sorry, this has to be super stressful. Hopefully this week will be better. Ill be thinking of you ad your LO, we may be headed for a week like this as well. XP it gets better

RK125 · November 2013

@rooftop I'm sorry you're having such a hard time. You're doing everything you can which makes you a GREAT mom. Things will work out eventually. Keep your chin up and know you're not alone.

rissa06 · November 2013

I'm supported to go back a week from
Tuesday, but DS is having some issues and we are trying to find the right combination of everything. So, I'm calling HR tomorrow to see if I need to push my return date back how I go about it.

melanieray716 · November 2013

I go back a week from Wednesday. I have so many feelings about it. I get very upset that someone is going be with her besides me. I leave for work at 6 and don't get home until 5. I feel that I am hardly going to see her. I really wish we could afford for me to be a SAHM.

How did you cope with going back to work?

LJUTCMommy · November 2013

CaliforniaDream87 said:

@CaliforniaDream87 I will definitely update next week. If you don't mind me asking, what do you do? You always seem so satisfied with your career.
@LJUTCMOMMY YGPM

Finally got to a laptop...YGPM too.

kristykay123 · November 2013

I've been back for 4 weeks and it's amazing picking her up from daycare. I get the best smiles!

rooftop · November 2013

Thank you for the encouraging words ladies. Here's hoping this week is better.

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