Please tell me it gets better!

thesecretis42 · November 2013

Hi, all. I'm a first time mom, 36 weeks pregnant with twins and I am absolutely miserable. Everything hurts. I can't breathe, sleep, or get comfortable. I feel like I am on the world's worst PMS trip...irritable, I can't keep up with as many mood swings as I've been having (God bless my poor husband), and I feel extremely anxious. I honestly didn't even feel this crappy my first trimester!

As I'm sure you can tell, I'm having a bit of a breakdown and I just want to know, does it get any better once I deliver? Will I ever stop feeling so uncomfortable? I know recovery is different for everyone and sleep deprivation is inevitable, but I just don't know how much more I can take. I keep trying to remind myself that I only have a few more weeks to go and then I get to meet my little guys, but then I think, "Oh, God...what if I can't enjoy it because I will still feel this horrible!"

I'm sorry to rant

tootsscott · November 2013

Take a deep breath!! Honestly, when I hear of multiple moms past 35 weeks I feel like this is the look on my face:

I have nothing to offer but a friendly hug. It'll end soon.. Who knows, today may even be your day! Good luck with a smooth delivery! Your twins are coming SOON!!

raraavis28 · November 2013

It definitely gets better! While having newborn twins is not a walk in the park, it's a different kind of hard than the end of a twin pregnancy (if that makes you feel any better, ha!) One of the best things when I got home from the hospital was being friends w/ my bed again.....b/c for the last month I would almost be in tears every night knowing I wouldn't be able to get comfortable or sleep. Hang in there, and try to just take a moment at a time....it is so worth it to cook those little babies as long as possible, and you are almost there!

pizzo84 · November 2013

Physically things, pretty much any discomfort I had went away with delivery (I had a csection, and felt that the discomfort from surgery was nothing compared to being pregnant). So things are going to get a lot better fairly soon for you. In terms of your mood, I think all post partum experiences are different.

Mrs.Guz · November 2013

You're almost there!!! I delivered at 37w4d and every time is left the dr after 36 weeks, I cried because I was over it and wanted them out. I was miserable! It won't get better until your sweet babies are here, but that's so soon!! Good luck!

kellibelle0417 · November 2013

marchesa28 said:

It definitely gets better! While having newborn twins is not a walk in the park, it's a different kind of hard than the end of a twin pregnancy (if that makes you feel any better, ha!) One of the best things when I got home from the hospital was being friends w/ my bed again.....b/c for the last month I would almost be in tears every night knowing I wouldn't be able to get comfortable or sleep. Hang in there, and try to just take a moment at a time....it is so worth it to cook those little babies as long as possible, and you are almost there!

Exactly this! My twins are 3 months now and it is a different kind of hard and sleep deprivation! You are so close! I delivered at 37.3. Hang in there! They will be here before you know it!

thesecretis42 · November 2013

Thanks guys! I appreciate the positivity

mirnb · November 2013

Congrats on hanging in so long...I delivered at 38 weeks and was basically a mess from 36 weeks on......it is so taxing on your body and not being able to sleep and all the emotions of the impending birth.....just take a deep breath, give yourself some grace and do whatever you need to do to get through the next little bit....the pregnancy discomforts I felt were gone immediately after the birth and I was able to actually get a decent sleep on the first night thanks to some helpful nurses! Just hang in there, you are so close!

pillowass · November 2013

As soon as my daughter was out (before they even handed her to me) the first thing I said was "Oh my god I'm not pregnant anymore!" The feeling was downright euphoric. This lasted for weeks and got me through the first few weeks of a pretty rough recovery (I had a vaginal birth). You are SO close! It will get better!

LottaLattes · November 2013

I felt better after twin A was born, and was off balance leaving the hospital with all that baby out of me. It definitely gets better physically, and that high lasted me three nights

Hang in there, mama, you're doing a great job, home stretch!!

10-4LilBuddy · November 2013

I delivered my twins at 36 weeks. We had a c section scheduled for 37w2d, but my boy was slowing down on his growth pretty significantly (down to 13th percentile) and I was in so much pain that the MFM and OB moved it up (helped that babies were doing awesome on NSTs and other tests). Immediately after the OB delivered baby girl, I finally was able to take a deep breath and my ribs stopped hurting. Three weeks later and my ribs and other organs seem to be back where they belong - finally! Now I can get comfortable to sleep ... But with newborn twins, sleep is a luxury.

shaunah816 · November 2013

Holy moly, it gets SO much better SO soon!! I couldn't believe how much better I felt immediately after delivery. Recovering from a C section was so walk in the park, and sleep deprivation is awful, but you have your body back and you're the only one in it! It's glorious

I could breathe again instantly. I could fall asleep again and slept like the dead. You're so close!!

SWA80 · November 2013

I actually commented mid c-section that I felt such a relief of pressure. Instant improvement.

bumpuser924057 · November 2013

I felt better the instant the spinal took effect. I literally hadn't slept more than an hour or two a night for weeks by the time I went in for the c-section because the constant PUPPPS itching was keeping me awake. I was drifting in and out of sleep throughout the surgery and apparently I asked like 20 times if they'd taken the babies out yet because I was worried I'd fall asleep and miss it.

Recovery after that was a little tougher because DS was in the NICU and DD wasn't, so I had to haul my tired, itchy, post-c-section self through the hospital corridors as many times a day as I could to try and feed and hold him. Once we got home it was waaay better.

kgs0505 · November 2013

The first night after my c-section, I slept like a rock. It was the best sleep I had gotten in months! I only woke up when the nurses checked me and I made sure I took my pain meds as scheduled. The babies were in NICU, so I didn't have them in room with me.

hgrosch · November 2013

Thank you for listing this!!! I'm 33 wks and it hurts to walk, lay, breathe, sleep, we'll everything pretty much hurts....I keep thinking I'm only sleeping 2 hrs at a time anyways so it MUST be easier when they're out...right?! Right?!

ceechie · November 2013

SWA80 said:
I actually commented mid c-section that I felt such a relief of pressure. Instant improvement.

This is sooo true! I hate to say it, but the only real relief now is delivering those babies. Just take it day by day. And outside babies are us much better, no matter how sleep derived.

megs2011 · November 2013

I didn't get that far (34w4d) but there was a big relief after the babies were out. I had HELLP syndrome so that intense pain was gone and I was so happy to see it go. It was like the worst heartburn coupled with a red hot knife stabbing me in the back. The one thing that took a month or more to go away was my pregnancy induced carpal tunnel.

Hang in there Momma!

CaliCarly77 · November 2013

thesecretis42 said:

Thanks guys! I appreciate the positivity

Hope you are doing better over a week later, if anything, knowing the end is that much closer.

I am just about to hit 30 weeks and just recently have one hiding under my ribs and pushing out. Its pretty awful and 8 more weeks of this will not be fun

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