I must be crazy.

Boo0512 · November 2013

So, I put DD down around 6:50pm and come 9:15pm I hadn't heard a peep out of her.

I was really surprised she hadn't woke up and mother anxiety got the best of me. What if something is wrong? What if she isn't breathing??

Cue me opening her door and accidentally waking her up. I'm a dumbass.

kmcd23 · November 2013

Whenever G sleeps for more than 3 hours at a time, which is rare, I ruin it by checking on him.

Boo0512 · November 2013

Here we are two hours later and she is still awake.

I want to throat punch myself.

Revelle99 · November 2013

Two words: video monitor

Boo0512 · November 2013

@revelle99 we have one but she sleeps like a log when she is really out. There is like zero movement.

AllieAGame · November 2013

Ready for some tough love, Boo? Here it is: you have got to just get over it. It's so hard not to worry, but at this age if there is no visual indication that there is a problem, then there is no problem. If the baby was really not breathing for the minutes/hours you were inspecting the monitor then it would be too late anyway. I say this not to be mean but to make the point that if you really and truly believed the baby was not breathing you would have ran in there at first glance. This is a fear that you (and all of us) have allowed to take hold of our minds and hearts, and unfortunately we have to un-learn it the hard way by not indulging it. It is normal for babies to sleep soundly. It's also normal for babies to wake up if there is a problem. (Yes I know about SIDS, but it's such a remote liklihood and Boo is probably already taking the reasonably necessary precautions. )

Now excuse me while I put on my flame retardant suit. FWIW, I am going through this too and it is hard to let go of the worry, but I can already tell it's making me a better and happier person.

Boo0512 · November 2013

@AllieAGame Im a little confused by your response...my post was supposed to be kind of funny, just to give the board a little chuckle :-/

Maybe that didn't come across. I guess I'm a little more sensitive to my daughter's sleep because she had apnea at birth and would stop breathing in her sleep. She was on a breathing monitor for 2.5 months.

AllieAGame · November 2013

Boo0512 said:

@AllieAGame Im a little confused by your response...my post was supposed to be kind of funny, just to give the board a little chuckle :-/ Maybe that didn't come across. I guess I'm a little more sensitive to my daughter's sleep because she had apnea at birth and would stop breathing in her sleep. She was on a breathing monitor for 2.5 months.

Oh goodness, well that is a horse of a different color. I'm sorry, I did take that wrong. I would be in your same boat if that was our background too.

I got a little overzealous because not-checking obsessively has so dramatically changed my life lately that I was on a soapbox about it. Hug it out? Kiss and make up? Nipple slap of solidarity?

Boo0512 · November 2013

@AllieAGame :::Amazonian nipple slap of epic proportions:::

jayro10 · November 2013

@AllieAGame I needed that tough love, especially after last night. Between 2 and 6 am I slept maybe an hour because I was lying in bed staring at the video monitor. M just started rolling to her tummy in her sleep, which I know is fine and I really am okay with it, but the problem is that she turns her face down right into the mattress. I mean, total face plant. I honestly don't know how she breathes like that but it scares me so much. And everything is scarier at night... So yeah, I just don't sleep. At one point last night DH woke up (probably because of the light from the video monitor) and said, "she's fine. Turn it off and go to sleep." Once I could tell he was asleep again, I turned the monitor back on and just watched her back to make sure it was moving up and down. I was also sneaking in and out of bed to check on her. And of course, today, I am exhausted.

I'm dealing with some pretty nasty postpartum anxiety right now, which is partly why this is consuming me. But I definitely need to heed your advice and also listen to my husband when he says to just let it go and sleep. Hopefully tonight will be better. In te meantime, today we will work on not face planting when tummy napping

MOMama987 · November 2013

jayro10 said:

@AllieAGame I needed that tough love, especially after last night. Between 2 and 6 am I slept maybe an hour because I was lying in bed staring at the video monitor. M just started rolling to her tummy in her sleep, which I know is fine and I really am okay with it, but the problem is that she turns her face down right into the mattress. I mean, total face plant. I honestly don't know how she breathes like that but it scares me so much. And everything is scarier at night... So yeah, I just don't sleep. At one point last night DH woke up (probably because of the light from the video monitor) and said, "she's fine. Turn it off and go to sleep." Once I could tell he was asleep again, I turned the monitor back on and just watched her back to make sure it was moving up and down. I was also sneaking in and out of bed to check on her. And of course, today, I am exhausted. I'm dealing with some pretty nasty postpartum anxiety right now, which is partly why this is consuming me. But I definitely need to heed your advice and also listen to my husband when he says to just let it go and sleep. Hopefully tonight will be better. In te meantime, today we will work on not face planting when tummy napping

My LO does this, too. Total faceplant. I always try to turn his head to the side before I go to bed, but it doesn't really work. He sleeps with his hands under his face, kind of... it looks so uncomfortable. But it works... I guess. haha He does it every night.

jayro10 · November 2013

@AllisonO78 glad my LO isn't the only one, but it's still scary! I also tried to turn her head several times but she instantly moved it right back to face plant position. She had one arm hanging out between the crib slats and the other stretched out to the side. I don't know how she slept like that. Argh. My nerves are fried!

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