Would you be irritated...

phishgirl29 · November 2013

So I sent my SIL a picture of O from his Halloween picts and she loved it. She then went on to turn that picture into her timeline pict on FB. She did tag DH and I but I'm a little pissed about it. I have very few picture of O on FB and that one wasn't one that I intended on sharing. Regardless, it's out there and 38 people liked it so whatever.

Anyway, I guess my question is: if someone sends you a picture, is it rude to post it as your own? It's one thing if she took the picture, but she didn't. It's not even that flattening. I'm trying to justify if I have a case before I pout to DH.

Thoughts?

llbta85 · November 2013

That would annoy me, even if she did take the pic I think she should clear it with you before posting.

YellowLily2013 · November 2013

It would bother me.. But I don't have FB. So DH already knows what I think about that stuff.

NicoleReed0324 · November 2013

My SIL does this too. Actually so does my MIL. I post maybe once a week and my MIL watches him 4 days a week and posts pictures that she never even sends me every day she is with him. I get very annoyed but try not to make a big deal. They're just excited and think he's cute.

tiffletons518 · November 2013

I would be irritated. I've had the Facebook wars though. We had to repeat ourselves SEVERAL times when I was in the hospital having Max that nobody was to post anything on Facebook, and the only way they would get a picture is if they promised not to post it. H and I got to do that first. This was a conversation that was had after my MIL announced that it was a boy before I had a chance. Facebook is the devil.

phishgirl29 · November 2013

I've only posted 6 picture since he was born and I never did a FB announcement when I was pregnant (just after he was born) so she knows how I feel about sharing. I do Instagram the hell out of him, but that's it. I'm trying not to be mad....really trying!

CindyRelluh · November 2013

If it's a picture I didn't want shared then yes, otherwise no. I make it a point to not send pictures I don't want my family to share, because they love showing off their grand babies, and that's fine. My kids are adorbs.

Now, maybe I'm just more relaxed about these things, because a few of my best girl friends have my kids as their phone backgrounds. My kids are special to them, so it doesn't bother me. I guess I have no good advice lol.

eta i read it wrong, my bad! I understand now. derp.

phishgirl29 · November 2013

Yeah @kdc2007. If it happens again, we'll have to have a sit down.

I'm just all sad now because tomorrow is the day that lost Owen's twin last year and all I want to do is snuggle my baby & not share him.

LiLi23 · November 2013

That would definitely bother me. My mother likes to steal my IG pictures and post them to Facebook. It happens all the time. She takes plenty of pictures of both kids since she watches them all day, but for some reason has to steal mine. So weird.

BunnyLove416 · November 2013

I don't mind my sisters sharing pictures of L. I guess it's strange to share your picture and not one of her own but I don't think it would bother me. All that really matters though is if it bothers you. If so then I would say something.

dmlk413 · November 2013

My mom does this and it annoys the heck out of me. If I wanted it on Facebook, I can post it myself.

bumpuser8448316 · November 2013

Yes it would bother me and I would say something. When I post pictures of my kids it's for m c,ode friends and fmsily to see. I don't have a ton of FB friends and I have everything set to private. If someone else posts pics of my kids I have no control over who is seeing their photos

FunkyPhoenix · November 2013

I had a similar situation with my MIL and yes, it annoyed the shiz out of me! I actually talked to her about it. I spent 3 hot and sweaty hours with my 2 week old helping the photographer with his newborn pics. I shared a couple with DH via text as well as my mom. I was purposely NOT posting the ones from my phone on FB bc I was waiting to get the professional, edited, $200 ones that we worked our asses off to get and what happens? My MIL posts my absolute fav one on FB before I do. Like really??? I was pissed. Apparently Dh sent it to her and she obviously saw that I had not posted it. This is my first baby, maybe my only, and I feel like all his firsts are mine- Including posting his newborn pics on a public forum. Everyone else needs to back the F off. ;-)

TheTamedShrew · November 2013

Yes, I would be irritated.

Ryanswifey619 · November 2013

My mil does this too and it bugs me very much. I get that she's excited but I don't really like some of the strangers I don't know on her friends list looking at pics of dd

BC&LM · November 2013

If someone sends me a picture that I am not in, I ask before reposting it. If I am actually in the picture, I figure it is fair game. But if it's babies, I definitely ask first because I know some people don't want a million pics of their baby all over FB.

So, I guess what I am trying to say is, yes, I would be annoyed. But she might not have realized you didn't want her to do that, so I would give her the benefit of the doubt this time and ask her not to repost any more pics without asking you first. If she does again after you ask her not to, then I would be super pissed if it were me.

Sorry if my response is confusing and long-winded; I am up way too late tonight!!!

JessicaKS · November 2013

My MIL steals my Instagram pics and reposts them as her own. Her IG account has good privacy settings and most of her IG friends are family members that I am also friends with....so I am more annoyed on principle than because of any safety/privacy concerns.

This is the same women that took a photo of their Delta gate and posted it to IG the morning that I was in labor saying "we are headed to ----, JessicaKS is in labor!!!" Yup, she outed me on Instagram!! I was so annoyed.

And I can't imagine the crap you ladies deal with your MILs. I actually really like my MIl for the most part despite this stuff!

kanga1622Wed220857 · November 2013

I do not post my kids online and have told family members to take pictures of my kids off their FB pages. Unless it is a crowd shot with their kid as the center, I think you have a right to limit your child's Internet presence.

kread8 · November 2013

That would definitely annoy me. You could mention it to your H but I don't think there's a lot you can do other than that without causing issues.

Basically every picture I post of DS on FB my FIL shares/reposts to his FB. At first it really, really, REALLY irritated me but now I've kind of accepted it. I tried to fix my settings so he was blocked from sharing my pics but apparently FB doesn't have that function...

I Love my Dave · November 2013

Our family puts so many pictures of our LO. Especially mine, swear more than me. They would be so annoyed if I told them no. I don't mind sometimes but I think it's annoying that everytime you see her you have to take a million pictures and put them all over the internet. Nothing is sacred anymore.

ASmallWonder · November 2013

For ME, if I shared it via FB I wouldn't mind my ILs sharing it via their FB. To be honest, even if I emailed them a picture I wouldn't mind them sharing it on FB. But that's me and we're open with our FB pictures and I know most of the people on their friend list. I can absolutely see why it would bother other people.

HeartLikeMine3 · November 2013

I didn't read all the responses but yes I would be bothered. Especially since you don't post pictures of him often, she should have picked up on that.

deejohn2012 · November 2013

It's annoying because you sent that picture to her privately. If you wanted it on the internet, you could post it yourself and she could have it that way.

I post a picture of DD on Facebook every few days. I'm fine with other people posting pictures they have taken themselves, as long as they don't go crazy with it. I would even be okay with them taking a picture I posted if they were in the picture.

But if I privately text or email pictures, I would be upset if they ended up all over the internet. They were sent privately for a reason.

kh59 · November 2013

FIL announced my pregnancy on Facebook. At 4 weeks. Thanks, dude. (I hadn't wanted to tell anyone at that point, but my husband was so excited to tell his parents that I couldn't say no. Oh well.) Anyway, I've just made a point ever since of specifically telling people when I'm not comfortable with certain things being shared.

kread8 · November 2013

kh59 said:
FIL announced my pregnancy on Facebook. At 4 weeks. Thanks, dude. (I hadn't wanted to tell anyone at that point, but my husband was so excited to tell his parents that I couldn't say no. Oh well.) Anyway, I've just made a point ever since of specifically telling people when I'm not comfortable with certain things being shared.

My FIL did the same thing when we were 9 weeks. I was PISSED!! We had a loss prior to that and we specifically asked him to only tell close friends and family until we were ready to come out to everyone. Guess who won't be finding out we are KU until second tri when it comes to baby #2... Gah, it's making me ragey again just talking about it!

kread8 · November 2013

kh59 said:
FIL announced my pregnancy on Facebook. At 4 weeks. Thanks, dude. (I hadn't wanted to tell anyone at that point, but my husband was so excited to tell his parents that I couldn't say no. Oh well.) Anyway, I've just made a point ever since of specifically telling people when I'm not comfortable with certain things being shared.

My FIL did the same thing when we were 9 weeks. I was PISSED!! We had a loss prior to that and we specifically asked him to only tell close friends and family until we were ready to come out to everyone. Guess who won't be finding out we are KU until second tri when it comes to baby #2... Gah, it's making me ragey again just talking about it!

kh59 · November 2013

kread8 said:

FIL announced my pregnancy on Facebook. At 4 weeks. Thanks, dude. (I hadn't wanted to tell anyone at that point, but my husband was so excited to tell his parents that I couldn't say no. Oh well.) Anyway, I've just made a point ever since of specifically telling people when I'm not comfortable with certain things being shared.
My FIL did the same thing when we were 9 weeks. I was PISSED!! We had a loss prior to that and we specifically asked him to only tell close friends and family until we were ready to come out to everyone. Guess who won't be finding out we are KU until second tri when it comes to baby #2... Gah, it's making me ragey again just talking about it!

Hear hear!

amanda0126 · November 2013

I think I am in the minority here, but that wouldn't bother me. If it was a picture I didn't want everyone seeing, I probably just wouldn't send it to anyone. BUT, I can totally see why someone else would be annoyed by this.

Now...while we are on the subject of this. The thing that DID piss me off was when I found out I was pregnant and had my ultrasound, I sent out our ultrasound pic to FAMILY ONLY via text. I look on FB about 5 hours later and there it was plastered on MIL & SIL facebook. DH seriously had to hold me down from blowing a gasket! He was pissed too and immediately called his fam and discussed how inappropriate this was. Of course, they took it down right away and apologized. I get it, they were really excited. But, dang!

Sorry for a grammatical incorrect post, but that got my BP high just thinking about it again.

Monkeybutt80 · November 2013

For me, it wouldn't bother me. When Colton was born, while we were at the hospital, I had my husband announced the birth via email with first pictures of Colton to my in laws, grand parents and my parents as they weren't at the hospital. Apparently one of those pictures circulated to my husband's uncle who posted it on facebook and tagged me and my husband. Then apparently another family member yelled at him for "announcing" on facebook before we had the chance to announce the birth ourselves, so the uncle called me an apologized profusely. I laughed. It just meant that he was so excited for his great nephew's arrival and who can blame him?!?

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