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NBR - pacifier weaning

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I also posted this on the toddler forum.  Any advice is much appreciated :-)

Hello,

DD is 2 yrs. and 3 months old. Her best friend and first love is her pacifier. Six months ago, it rarely left her mouth. We started taking it out when she was happy/calm then. Since, we've scaled down to it only being used for sleeping. It stays in her crib at home and in a drawer at DC when she's not napping. It's not always easy as she asks for it when she's board and even cries for it at home, but she does seem to understand it's only for bedtime now that she's older.

I'm expecting DD#2 in late January. I'd really like her to be off the pacifier a month or two before then......(three reasons: the potential of it messing up her teeth, she wakes up at night screaming for it sometimes, and she's 2 - she doesn't NEED it)

I'm thinking of having her wrap up her pacifiers for her little sister in December. (I'll throw them out, but this way, she's part of the weaning process and feels like a big girl etc)

DH is gone for the first ten days of December. (Sometimes we find it's easier for her to do what we want when one of us is gone) I know I'll be in for a few nights of tears when she cannot fall asleep with the pacifier, but I think she can eventually do this.....

How long should this take? (Note: daycare will not give her the pacifier either) A few days? a week? more?

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Re: NBR - pacifier weaning

  • financialdivafinancialdiva member
    Ok, don't judge me, but we finally took DS1's paci away a few weeks after his THIRD bday :-O

    In my defense I was going to take it away over a long weekend in July when he was a little under 2.5 yrs old, but since I was pg, we ended up using the weekend to move him from the crib to a bed since we were going to need the crib. Then we went on vaca in Aug, and then a long weekend getaway in both Sept and Oct, so we didn't want to do it right before vacation. Then he started potty training in Oct.

    Then we were having DS2 in January, so we didn't want to do it then, bc well, his new brother was a big change

    So finally, after his third bday, which was a few weeks after the baby was born, we ran out of excuses, lol.

    He was only using it for nap and bedtime. And the DC stopped using it a few months after he turned two. They didn't have one to give him bc he chewed up the one he had and they kept forgetting to ask me for a new one, so after a few days of doing fine, we decided not to bring another one in when they finally remembered to ask me for one.

    For about two weeks, we were telling him, no more binki after the last one breaks. That binki's were for babies. Every time one broke (we cut them to break them) he would throw it away. One by one he threw them all away until they were gone. He was so proud of himself and was never upset.

    He asked for about three nights. The first night he fussed a little when we told him they were all yucky and he threw them all away. After the first night, he was fine! Never took the babies paci's either. If you can get the baby different paci's from the ones your LO is using, maybe that might help?

    Anyway, sorry so long. GL! Stay strong!

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  • emberlee3emberlee3 member
    My niece was close to your LO's age, and my sister was also expecting #2.  I think it took about 3 nights for my niece to adjust, and she was a major paci addict.  Plan to do it over a weekend, and I think you'll be fine.
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  • dglvrk2dglvrk2 member
    financialdiva, My sister's youngest son was days shy of his third birthday when he gave it up.  She's an awesome mom, to say the least. They battled it forever.  Finally one day, HE said that pacis were for babies and tossed it.  No judging here.  :-) 
    Thanks for the advice and encouragement, ladies!!
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  • MamaAllisonMamaAllison member
    We just did this! My DD loved that thing but I was getting sick of her whining for it. So we just said, you are two now, you are too big for a paci. We also showed her a picture of her cousin with a paci (she idolizes her cousin) and said "Natalie used to have a paci, but now she doesn't because she is a big girl, don't you want to be like Natalie?" After that it was really a non-issue. She asked for it a few times and we just said no. I stressed over it for MONTHS and it ended up being no big deal! Good luck!
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  • symonatbsymonatb member
    We just went through this with DD1 about a month ago. She was 18 months at the time. I really just sprang it up on her one day. We were riding in the car and she started getting sleepy, and asked for her paci. I told her "Nope, you're a big girl. No more pacis!"  She cried the whole way home. My heart ached for her, but she starts Montessori school tomorrow, and I wanted her to have a good month off the paci to get used to being without it. I just kept telling her "You can do it! You're a big girl!" This was a Saturday morning. Literally, by Sunday evening, she stopped crying for her paci!

    And to add to this, DD2 was 9 weeks old at the time, and she takes a paci. DD1 tried to grab DD2 paci and sneak in a suck or two for the first couple of weeks. But now she only pics up the paci to try to put it her baby sister's mouth. Their pedi suggested I do the whole shebang of buying her a toy or getting a box to put all her pacis in for the baby. But with a newborn, I just didn't have the time! 

    I will say I am a pretty matter-of-fact person (my husband says I act like a "dude" sometimes. Read: don't get very emotional about things). But it SUCKED hearing her cry for her paci. However, I am so so so proud of both she and I for getting past the paci so quickly.

    So just remember, no matter how you can your DD decide to get rid of the paci, YOU CAN DO IT! Try to stay positive and consistent- your DD will feed off of whatever emotion you put out there. 
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  • iverske9iverske9 member
    I know this can be hard, but we went cold turkey. It was rough for a few days but after 2-3 days he was fine. We got rid of them completely as in my husband cut them up to the point of no return after our son went to bed and the next morning we did the same with the last one. So we would not cave in the thick of a tantrum. 

    I kind of figure this is only the start of things I will have to tell him no (god know when they are teenagers, lol) and I need to stand my ground and not fall for the tantrums whether they are 2 or 16. 

    Good luck!
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  • Netty_3Netty_3 member
    I accidentally forgot it one night...and it took longer but he fell asleep. When I realized why I just went with it. It took around a week to get rid of it fully...but we also find it around 16 months. Since she's a bit more aware I'veheard to cut the nipple or to take her to a store and gave her trade it in for a big girl toy. The paci would be the currency...as far as she's concerned.
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  • djm31012djm31012 member
    My DS is only 9mos old but i have no desire to wean from the paci any time soon...talk to you when hes 3!
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  • *sparky**sparky* member

    We took DS's binkies away on his 3rd birthday.  Like your LO, he was down to only using them when sleeping.  We talked it up a little beforehand and how he was going to be a big boy and needed to send them to babies that needed them.  After his party, when he was all high on fun and gifts, etc., we put the binkies in an envelope and sent them all to the binky fairy.  He put the envelope in the mailbox.  He was completely on board and all was good....until bedtime.  He screamed a little bit, but we said the binkies were already gone.  He finally fell asleep and we never had another issue. 

    I think your plan is pretty similar so hopefully it will work too.  Just make sure you talk about how she is a big girl now  and doesn't need them anymore.

    Good luck!!

     

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