Memorial Service 2 years later

weddedwife · November 2013

We just had a memorial service for our son on Saturday, which would've been his 2nd birthday. We never had one at the time of his death, and as more and more time passed it just didn't sit right with us. He deserved better.

Despite the time that had passed, many people came and the service went very well. I was able to get up and speak, something I never could have done at the time. I talked about our loss, how he has changed us and our love for him. I talked about our lives before and after his loss, and the perspective 2 years of grief has lent us.

I just wanted to share in case others feel similarly. If you never had a service for your baby and feel badly about it now, it's not too late. No one thought it was weird at all. We felt very loved. We feel good about it now. I feel like a weight has been lifted...just a little bit.

stefuge · November 2013

***LO ticker*** I'm so glad you were able to have a service for your son. What a blessing.

Dixon813 · November 2013

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I'm so glad you had a service. I've been meaning to post, we just had ours (5 months out) and I'm glad we waited. It allowed me to plan it and not just be in shock. Thanks for sharing - Hugs!

Bayberry12 · November 2013

Thank you for sharing this. I never had a service for my daughter, in my shock and confusion I thought I shouldn't have one and just move on. No one told me a service would be healing and normal thing to do.

I regret this so much at times. I am so glad you were able to have the kind of service you wanted and were able to honor your little one in such a loving way.

kz's_girlygirl · November 2013

How wonderful to have everyone come together to love and support your family and you precious baby. We chose not to have a ceremony at all, and I think we might do something for Jesse's 1 year birthday. Thanks for sharing this!