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anyone with twins?

RuthEmilyRuthEmily member
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I have 5 1/2 month girl twins and they are the light of my life. I was planning on doing attachment parenting before I knew I was having twins and after I found out I saw no reason to change the plan. But now I feel like I'm failing them. Dr.sears has hardly ANY info on how to do this with two and I'm struggling. I want to respond to their cues but I just don't have enough arms. I am a sahm, we cloth diaper and co-sleep if that helps anything. I just want to know how you guys do it, I want them to grow up confident and independent (hopefully never growing out of momma cuddled though urge) but everytime one is nursing and the other is hungry and crying in their bouncer I wonder is there someone else doing this a better way? Please, all tips/hints/advice wanted! Thank you so much!
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  • =Lee=B=Lee=B member

    I'm sure some moms of twins will be along with more support I just wanted to say keep it up.  I've worked as a nanny for a couple families with infant twins.  It is a whole different ballgame when you have 2 infants and one adult.  It sounds like your babies are growing up in a home with an amazing mom and they are getting the best of care.  They will still grow up knowing that they are loved even if you have to let one sit for a few minutes crying out of hunger. 

    It is hard, I can't even imagine how much harder it is to be the mom, I remember so many days of being wowed by how much work twins were (and I got to go home at 5 and get a full nights sleep)! 

    Keep cuddling and co-sleeping and responding to their cues as best as you can and they will thrive!!

     

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  • RuthEmilyRuthEmily member
    =Lee=B said:

    I'm sure some moms of twins will be along with more support I just wanted to say keep it up.  I've worked as a nanny for a couple families with infant twins.  It is a whole different ballgame when you have 2 infants and one adult.  It sounds like your babies are growing up in a home with an amazing mom and they are getting the best of care.  They will still grow up knowing that they are loved even if you have to let one sit for a few minutes crying out of hunger. 

    It is hard, I can't even imagine how much harder it is to be the mom, I remember so many days of being wowed by how much work twins were (and I got to go home at 5 and get a full nights sleep)! 

    Keep cuddling and co-sleeping and responding to their cues as best as you can and they will thrive!!

    I can't tell you how encouraging this was to me. Thank you so much!
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  • Emerald27Emerald27 member
    Have you tried nursing both babies at the same time? It will take some practice, and it would be best to give it a try for the first time when a helpful support person is nearby to assist you (extra arms and all that). ;)

    There are several options for positions for nursing twins at the same time. Use lots of pillows for supporting you, your arms, and your babies. Experiment to find what's most comfortable for all of you:

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    Here are some other resources that you might find helpful:

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  • Emerald27Emerald27 member
    Also, maybe consider contacting your local La Leche League Leader. They are happy to meet with you in person to give you confidence, tell you everything is ok, and help you find comfortable ways in which you can meet both twins' needs at the same time. :)
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  • musicalmama5musicalmama5 member
    edited November 2013
    I don't have twins, but I've seen a mom with twins wearing both babies in Ergos, one on front and one on back! Talk about a badass mommy! And she would nurse the one in the front, then switch them and nurse the other one in the front. Quite amazing, but I'm sure it took a lot of practice at home first!

    One thing I read in Dr. Sears Attachment Parenting Book was just to do your best. That's all your baby will expect from you. And it certainly sounds like you are doing your best! Your babies are lucky to have you and their mama.
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  • rachelle2824rachelle2824 member
    Twin mama here. Hang in there, twins certainly have their challenges and I have those "I'm sure I'm failing them" moments still too. Learning to nurse them both would be very helpful (I nursed mine together for 12 months), use a carrier whenever you can so your arms are free for the other one and take a deep breath and remember one thing: you may not be able to give them 100percent of your AP energy every minute of every day but you gave them something incredibly valuable, a TWIN! And as your twins start to interact you will see the value of that which helps of the tough days.
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  • rachelle2824rachelle2824 member
    My twins are almost 27 months btw, not 1 yr like my sig says for some reason:)
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