"You" Time :)

rdbanks · October 2013

So I was thinking about this the other day and I thought it would be interesting to ask the rest of you:

How much "you" time do you get a day? 5 seconds in the bathroom doesn't count:) Neither does sleeping. Or being at work.

I'm a SAHM and I'm pretty sure my answer, most days, would be about 0 minutes. I realized, once my LO is down for the night (usually between 8-8:30), the remainder of my night includes all the things I didn't get to in the day. It seems rare that I ignore that stuff and sit down with my DH, or catch up on Project Runway:) I usually try and get to bed around 10:00, because I know my LO will be up 1-2 times in the night with a 6:00am wakeup. Even when DH gets home from work and plays with DS, I'm in the kitchen making dinner. And then it's bath/bedtime.

Phew! This isn't a complaining post, more of a "Maybe it's time for a me night out!" post:)

How how about the rest of you?

capstone52501 · October 2013

I am a SAHM as well, like you I have very limited time alone but I have an added bonus. I have an 11 year old daughter and since I homeschool her she is home all the time as a back up system.
I get about 15 minutes in the morning and evening to myself so to speak, which probably does not count since I am out doing chores (feeding horses, chickens and cats). I count it personally because it IS time alone just me and the animals and I love it. All I hear is animals happily munching and that makes my heart sing. It also gets me out in the fresh (and in the winter, bitter cold) air.

Ohh wait next month is my yearly exam and PAP smear, so that will be an hour away from the kids.. does that count *laughing*
Other than this I do not get any me time, and I am not complaining I love being a SAHM.

jwebb0512 · October 2013

I just had this convo with DH the other day. Up until about a week ago, I've held DS while he naps...all 3 of them. So, after he'd go to bed around 8, I was running around like mad trying to pick-up, do laundry, etc. before going to bed by 10. Which left exactly 0 time in the day for me to unwind before starting all over again at 5am. It's been a week since I decided to start nap training and I hate every minute. I just want to scoop him up and snuggle together, but it has been nice to get things done and be able to relax with wine and my favorite shows after he goes to bed. Oh and the fact that he'll be 10 months next week...it was probably time to give it up anyway.

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RN2011 · October 2013

It's funny that I didn't realize I have 0 "me" time until right now! I work full time so my mornings are trying to get all of us out the house, then work, then pick her up, dinner, clean up, bath/bed for DD and get things ready for the next day. After that it's bed time for me. Even with my DH helping me, we still never finish before 9:30pm. I guess "me" time would be the drive home from my mother's house (she watches the baby while I'm at work) when our DD is asleep..lol

tig594 · October 2013

What is this "you" time you speak of and where can I get some!?!?

MomIn2013 · October 2013

I consider it me time while DS is napping, so about 1.5 hours a day total. Even though I use the time to do chores, eat, etc. I still think of it as me time because I don't have anyone hanging off my leg while I'm doing it.

LisaLisa1980 · October 2013

Everytime he naps (total of 4 hrs/day )

And if I want to enjoy a hot shower alone without DS in the room, I just wait for my H to get home

On the weekends, my H takes the baby and lets me sleep in

kleigh926 · October 2013

I get a decent amount of me time, actually. I only work 1 day a week, so I usually have more than enough time to get the housework done during DD's naps when I'm home. She goes to bed at about 7:45 and I go to bed around 10-10:30. I would say I get at least 3 hours of "me time" a day, sometimes more on the weekends (mostly at night after she's in bed).

youenjoymyself · October 2013

tig594 said:

What is this "you" time you speak of and where can I get some!?!?

Yes. I'm curious about this, too.

honeydew01 · October 2013

tig594 said:

What is this "you" time you speak of and where can I get some!?!?

This! hahaha

Anjel_9@hotmail.com · October 2013

I work full time and only get a couple hours with my LO on the weekdays before she goes to bed. Then my time is spent cooking, cleaning, laundry, just whatever needs to be done around the house. My 'me' time is spent in bed reading for 30-60 minutes before I pass out, and maybe a glass of wine. It's a riveting life, I tell ya. On the weekends I feel guilty being away from LO at all since that's our time together, but last Sunday I actually left her with my husband for an hour to get a haircut... the first one I've had in 8 months! Does that count?

Crequito · October 2013

I'm a working mom and I currently get about an hour a day of "me time" that doesn't include dishes, laundry or something else home/family related. I also consider my commute "me time" since I can read on the train.

DH and I have an understanding that if either of us ever needs a break - a day alone, or just a few hours to do something without DD - then we just say so and the other takes over. We've done pretty well at balancing responsibilities at home and noticing each other's needs for a timeout every now and then. You definitely need some time to yourself every now and then that doesn't consist of cleaning or cooking!

kmornelas29 · October 2013

Every night when she goes to bed, I stay up, and get about 3 hours of me time to do whatever I want.

VPGIRL06 · October 2013

90 minutes in the morning-to the gym, at the gym, and back. its enough for me to get some grown up, socializing time (it's a crossfit gym) and to work out that stress

it is, however, 445-615 am

ktcurtis09 · October 2013

I'm also a SAHM to an exclusively BF 9 month old baby girl. I work from home making cakes and pastries from scratch, and hand deliver them all. It is so so hard. So days I feel like beating my head against a wall. Early mornings and late nights, little sleep. So, no me time here!

ToAoShesha · October 2013

jwebb0512 said:
I just had this convo with DH the other day. Up until about a week ago, I've held DS while he naps...all 3 of them. So, after he'd go to bed around 8, I was running around like mad trying to pick-up, do laundry, etc. before going to bed by 10. Which left exactly 0 time in the day for me to unwind before starting all over again at 5am. It's been a week since I decided to start nap training and I hate every minute. I just want to scoop him up and snuggle together, but it has been nice to get things done and be able to relax with wine and my favorite shows after he goes to bed. Oh and the fact that he'll be 10 months next week...it was probably time to give it up anyway. (

This almost exactly.... My LO is 6 months & I still hold her every nap. Anytime I do have is sound chores or running to bed because my LO is still up 4-9 times a night & our day starts around 6

erinmc1 · October 2013

Not a lot. I work part-time while my in-laws watch him, but it's just the two of us in the house, so I can't ever just completely focus on me. I've had a single haircut in the past 8 months, and been shopping by myself (at Home Depot) once. I've had a sitter about 5 times while I went out with friends for a couple hours. After he's in bed for the night, I usually steal an hour or so to watch Netflix or read, even though I regret it in the morning.

MeGaTron2008 · October 2013

Is it just me, or is it difficult to understand threads like these because of abbreviations like LO, DH, DS? :-/ I have no idea what these mean.

It drives me crazy that our house is a mess. But we have 15 week old twins. And some days I just leave the housework & take 30-60 minutes to eat & watch TV. It may be lazy - but it's very much needed to keep sane. When my husband is available we do this together & every other week we spend time together. I think this is very important.

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MeGaTron2008 · October 2013

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BrandiNichol · October 2013

That's hilarious about going to get a haircut. I also haven't had one since about this time last year. Well unless you count a couple months ago when I thought I could trim my own hair:/ I'm also a full time working mom so I feel guilty not spending every extra minute with my 9.5 month old. Normal day is getting baby boy out the door to daycare, getting to work, picking up baby boy, playing for a bit and trying to do a few chores (if he is in a good mood), dinner, bath/bedtime then I get to prepare for the next day to do it all again. I wouldn't change it for the world, except to have more time with him of course.

BrandiNichol · October 2013

I don't get the acronyms either, never did.

daniella2727 · November 2013

I love your post b/c I can totally relate. I work part-time, and have 2 kids. One is 2.5 and one is 8 months and I have very little me time - my me time is when I am at my job working LOL. Although working I am able to sit in silence, eat uninterrupted, and not have to tend to baby needs.

I adore my kids to the moon and back - I love them so much HOWEVER it is ok to "complain" us mothers lose ourselves in our children easily.

I just told my husband last night, I am ready to reclaim a small piece of myself again.

24ladybug · November 2013

I work part time and sometimes leave early just so I can sit in the parking lot alone!

jgoetz1 · November 2013

I work full-time and have an 8 month old and a 2 year old. My "Me time" is an hour right after I get off work and before I pick up my kids. I usually spend it running at the park or running an errand. It is nice to get off work early so I can take advantage of some alone time before I pick up my kids. I am a teacher so am always around kids and lots of noise, so I really crave the quiet time. At first I felt guilty about not picking up my kids right after I got off work, but then I realized how much happier I was if I got some exercise outside and my kids were having fun, playing outside at daycare at that time of day anyway.

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