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Date night

kelly422kelly422 member
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DH and I have yet to go on a day night since LO was born. Our marriage needs some work! I'm having a hard time figuring out logistics of going out one evening (perhaps because I am also a little reluctant to leave LO)!

She takes a bath around 730 and is asleep by 8, some nights earlier. I usually pump about 8:30 and we're in bed by 9:30. Ideas on how to arrange a date? Babysitter give bath and put baby to sleep or we do it and go out after and delay pumping/sleep? Babysitter will likely be a high schooler.

Or tell me to suck it up and stop overthinking it :)
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  • nikel13nikel13 member

    Either option you have will work.  I would think that it would be easier for you to bathe the baby and then go out.  Doing it that way will disrupt the baby's routine very little and only disrupt yours.

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  • megaroo64megaroo64 member
    I agree with PP.  We have also skipped a bath when we have gone for date night. 
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  • tiffletons518tiffletons518 member
    I would say you do it and then go out. The less you can disrupt LO's routine the better. Especially, if this is your first time out. You'll be worried less about if the babysitter made sure to clean the little leg rolls and is burping baby and so on and such forth, and be more likely to enjoy yourself.
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  • tttwalterstttwalters member
    I agree with pp, our first "date" post baby was actually in the afternoon, I feed lo and then we went and had a treat and coffee somewhere and then came back. We have gone out 1 evening now, but I am often too tired to be that into it!

     

     

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  • stephaniejayestephaniejaye member
    Dst ends this weekend so she'll be ready to sleep by 7, right? I say do it soon before she adjusts!
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  • llbta85llbta85 member
    I would give her a bath yourself, then head out.  But I am weird about other people bathing my kids.  We usually bathe DD in the evening but sometimes I skip it and she seems to handle it fine, so you might be able to skip?  Other than that I've got nothing, I am in the same boat.  Have fun!
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  • tsaman1003tsaman1003 member
    Agree with PPs but another suggestion if you have problems leaving lo:

    We have "date night" at home once ds goes to sleep. We grill on the back patio and have a glass of wine with the baby monitor. It's not as formal as going out, but we do it at least once a week and it gives us time to have alone time and talk about our week. That might be an option if you want more one on one time with your dh
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  • jessykay87jessykay87 member
    Honestly, I would just skip the bath. My routines aren't really set in stone, if we have plans, whether they include baby or not, all routines tend to go out the window. She seems to be just as happy to stay up an extra hour and play with Grandma, as she is to go on to bed at her usual time. It doesn't seem to effect her mood that much. We just play it by ear. If she falls asleep in G'ma's arms while we're gone, awesome, if she's still awake when we get done with date night (which is never later than 9pm or so), that's ok too. Relaxing routines and schedules so that we can relax seems to be the best solution for us. 
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  • HeartLikeMine3HeartLikeMine3 member
    I would skip LO's last little nap of the day and put him to bed maybe 30 min early. I wouldn't trust a babysitter to do bath time I would be a nervous wreck and worry the whole time.
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  • TheTamedShrewTheTamedShrew member
    All I can add is that I'm following this. We used to not have a problem because E had such a late bedtime, but now we start her routine between 7-7:30, she's down for good between 8:30-9:00, and she only goes to sleep nursing soooo yeah. Unless we go out at 8:30 or 9:00, we can't go. We tried leaving and trusting my parents to put her down a few nights ago, and she was still awake when we got back at 11:00. Plus, she was so overtired that she started screaming for almost an hour after they left and didn't go to sleep til 1:00. I was livid. Won't be trying that again for awhile.
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  • ColieAnn31ColieAnn31 member
    We are going out for the first time tomorrow night and leaving LO with my SO's parents. I will probably do his bath in the afternoon and feed him right before we go over. He's FF so it's not too big of a deal and he goes to sleep at different times every night (I've quit fighting this one) and I'm confident that his grandma will be able to soothe him and what not.
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  • kelly422kelly422 member
    Thanks for the advice, Ladies!
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