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a question for military wives

rt93rt93 member
edited November 2013 in Babies: 3 - 6 Months
My son is 4 months old and my husband and I both want to have a baby soon. He is leaving for army boot soon though. although getting pregnant before he leaves isn't a problem for us the idea of him not being around for this pregnancy is odd and a tad sad.  My question is if you were pregnant with your husband away how did it effect you and how did you make it easier? Any other tips with being a military wife are welcome as well seeing how it is a new concept for me.

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  • MaryB010MaryB010 member
    Hi, I am a military spouse as well, we have a 3yo girl.and now 10m old boy. When i was pregnant with our second child, my husband was gone for 3 months. From my 4th-7th month, he was in another state in a course. It was odd not having him there, but more so very tiring. I had another child to care for while feeling huge.
    I did feel sad at times bc i felt like he was missing out on the best times (baby starting to move, u/s appts, etc.) but I had u/s pics to show him, and I still got to talk to him most nights and update him on everything. I didn't really have a way to make things easier, because I didn't have anyone to keep my daughter for doctor appointments, or just to have a minute or two alone just to rest. I was so exhausted, as im sure you would be with a baby already. Hopefully you have other wives or friends willing to give you at least a slight break.
    Just to clarify, he's going to boot camp? As in just joining? Is there a chance that you all will be moving right after he's done? I ask because it is a HUGE pain moving with little ones/being pregnant. If there is any chance you will PCS, i would wait personally. A: your 4 month old will be older and easier to travel. B: you'll have more energy to do everything. I hope i answered your question. :) Good luck to you and hubby.
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  • rt93rt93 member
    Yes he is just joining but he was told that I wasn't allowed to go with to his training afterwards. So it will be a while before I'll be moving. I know moving while pregnant is tricky. While 6 pregnant with our first we moved from Arizona to Washington, then when he was 3 month I moved back to Arizona. I can imagine how tiring it would be with both variables at once.
    Yes you were of great help. Thank you I really appreciate your input.
     
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  • roashem2008roashem2008 member
    Hi! My husband is in the navy and was gone for almost the whole first trimester of my pregnancy. While it was sad- if he has to miss any of it, I would prefer him to miss the beginning and def miss part of the pregnancy rather than that newborn time! I agree with PP that if you can wait until after he graduates and you guys get orders- that would probably be ideal. It's hard enough to PCS let alone doing it while pregnant or with a brand new baby and another small child. The best thing to do while he is gone is keep yourself busy- and don't count down the days, it makes time go by so much slower! I always count the number of weekends left, makes the time go by faster! Good luck! :-)
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  • cyprissacyprissa member
    My husband is Army and was away at CGSC for a whole year and missed all but the last 2 weeks of my second pregnancy. At times it really, really sucked! With a toddler in the house already, I was incredibly busy and we don't live near any family so while I had help from some good friends, it wasn't nearly enough. I think the big thing to consider is your support system. Good luck!
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