Have any of you used the baby whisperer's method of pick up/put down for sleep training? I want N to learn to be put down awake and fall asleep - she does it sometimes, but most of the time I have to rock her. And, honestly, I think she wants to be able to fall asleep on her own (if that makes sense - I just feel like I know her and she loves her sleep and she gets frustrated when she can't go to sleep). But I feel like if I'm going to commit to putting her down awake, I need a plan for how to respond when she cries. And I don't want to let her cry it out. I want to respond to her when she cries, but immediately rocking her to sleep seems counterproductive to what I'm trying.
The pick up/put down method seems pretty intuitive. If they cry, you go in and try patting them on the back first to see if that calms them, and then when they are calm, you leave them again to go to sleep. If they keep crying, you pick them up for a few minutes until they calm back down, and then put them down as soon as they're calm. Then if they cry again, you pick them back up, etc etc, until they fall asleep.
I mentioned this to our nanny because she's had more success getting N to fall asleep after being put down awake, and she said that's pretty much what she does - she watches for sleepy cues, then puts her down awake, and will go outside and watch on the monitor to see if she falls asleep. If she starts crying, she goes in and picks her up to soothe her, and then puts her back down when she's calm. So that gives me hope that it obviously is working sometimes.
It seems like it could work well, or could just end up with a baby that never sleeps. Although I get the feeling that any sleep training starts off difficult. I haven't decided what I would do when she wakes up at night... because if she's hungry I want to feed her. But she's not always hungry when she wakes up. I guess I can do the same thing, if she cries when she wakes up at night, go in and calm her and pick her up, and then if she seems hungry, feed her. However, she hasn't had a MOTN feeding in at least 3 weeks - most of the time she just needs soothing (or to hold my hand to fall asleep).
Thoughts? I really do feel like she is old enough to start learning how to fall asleep on her own, but I want to respond to her needs and not let her CIO.