BF story.... just not mine

CFjo2010 · October 2013

So a couple weeks ago was the Father-Daughter Dance at the girls' school. I'm sorry, it was called the "Sweetheart Dance" and the girls were encouraged to invite "any positive adult male role model", i.e. grandpa, uncle, older brother, cousin, dad, coach, etc. There were a couple moms who asked if they could come with their daughters and we made it clear that this was not a mother's event.

There's a mom who showed up to volunteer and brought her daughter with her. And then danced with her all night and took photos with her in the photo booth instead of helping with the event like she claimed she was going to. Turns out it was Dad's weekend and she wouldn't let the daughter bring her dad. You stay classy, you bitchy BM.

CFjo2010 · October 2013

Oh and the great part? She's been posting the pictures on FB and even captioning them as pics from the Father-Daughter Dance. One of her friends commented, "If it's the Father-Daughter dance, why are YOU in the pictures?". That friend? I'm a fan of ^:)^

sweetwalks · October 2013

Our BM would do that too. Only her friends would say "what a piece of crap BD wouldn't take x" "you're such a good mom" etc.

What classy women there are in the world

dannie2011 · October 2013

jobalchak said:

Oh and the great part? She's been posting the pictures on FB and even captioning them as pics from the Father-Daughter Dance. One of her friends commented, "If it's the Father-Daughter dance, why are YOU in the pictures?". That friend? I'm a fan of ^:)^

She probably deleted that friend after that comment.

simplaw215 · October 2013

Just out of curiosity (and not related to the rest of your post), were any of these mothers single moms? That would really suck if the moms were asking because there wasn't a readily available male to attend.

CFjo2010 · October 2013

We offer a Mother's event in the Spring, and we don't allow the Dad's to go to that event either. I know one of those moms is a single mom, but I also know that the dad is very involved and at the school volunteering frequently. We try to make it so that the events are "fair" and that moms and dads have the same amount of events.

simplaw215 · October 2013

I can understand that. I was moreso thinking of girls whose father is not in the picture at all as opposed to a blended family situation where the dad is still actively involved. I find it bizarre for mothers who have a father involved to try to steal that moment. I would have killed for my dad to be interested in attending an event like that growing up.

CFjo2010 · October 2013

simplaw215 said:

I can understand that. I was moreso thinking of girls whose father is not in the picture at all as opposed to a blended family situation where the dad is still actively involved. I find it bizarre for mothers who have a father involved to try to steal that moment. I would have killed for my dad to be interested in attending an event like that growing up.

Last year DD and K both took DH. This year K went with DH, and DD invited my dad to go. I know there were girls who brought their Uncles or Grandpas, and one girl whose father is deployed brought a dear family friend. It was such a great blend this year and I know it helped some girls feel more "included" knowing that they didn't have to bring their dad.

Last year the dance fell on BM's weekend and she wouldn't let DH pick up K, instead she brought her to the dance and then stayed to "help". Several people said after the fact that K was visibly torn between who she should be spending time with and it was clear she didn't have a good time. This year BM actually stayed away and there are TONS of photos of K just being a kid and having fun. Unfortunately there are some moms (and I'm sure dads too) that are just so bitter that they will do whatever they can to interfere.

Lavender P · November 2013

Her daughter will end up on a stripper pole looking for an adult male's apprvoval and the BM will blame dad....

Nineoceans · November 2013

Sad and crazy

Pamelacake · November 2013

Wow! What a B!tch move.

logansmom3212 · November 2013

Has the comment about why is she in the pictures been deleted yet?

Kids need their Dads and if there is a loving father who wants to be involved, I'll never understand a BM blocking him from activities like this.

It reminds me of every year on Father's Day how our BM puts out a HAppy Father's Day FB post to all of the single mom's including herself... Gag, get over yourself lady.

CurlyQ284 · November 2013

That's nuts.

KTdidit · November 2013

Wow, so she deliberately deceived the school to sneak in anyway. Me thinks she pulls every BS move she can just to get a dig in at the dad. definitely capital K Klassy

twister22 · November 2013

Can they make it so she can't volunteer next year? And let her know that it is specifically because of the antics she pulled this year?

And you said it was the BD's weekend? How can the BM not let BD take their DD if it's his time? Or did you mis-type? I'm confused.

Lavender P · November 2013

tifanico said:
jobalchak said:

We offer a Mother's event in the Spring, and we don't allow the Dad's to go to that event either. I know one of those moms is a single mom, but I also know that the dad is very involved and at the school volunteering frequently. We try to make it so that the events are "fair" and that moms and dads have the same amount of events.

While the BM in this case was completely wrong and sounds crazy, I wonder what would happen to a child if she had no dad or any other male figures available to go to the dance? That doesn't sound fair to me.

While I agree with you in principle, I find it hard to believe that there are kids that don't have a single male figure in their lives, even if it is just a family friend or extended family.

CFjo2010 · November 2013

twister22 said:
Can they make it so she can't volunteer next year? And let her know that it is specifically because of the antics she pulled this year?

And you said it was the BD's weekend? How can the BM not let BD take their DD if it's his time? Or did you mis-type? I'm confused.

Sorry, it was supposed to say "wasn't" dad's weekend.

We can't stop her from volunteering but now a lot of people are upset with her.

The friend's comment is still there, she justifies it by saying the dance landed on HER weekend so SHE should get to take her DD. Whatever helps you sleep at night...

Littlejen22 · November 2013

Next time can you just keep assigning stuff for her to do? Make her man a concession stand or something? Can you limit the volunteers and say you have enough? Out school has no issues saying they need X volunteers.

twister22 · November 2013

jobalchak said:

Can they make it so she can't volunteer next year? And let her know that it is specifically because of the antics she pulled this year?

And you said it was the BD's weekend? How can the BM not let BD take their DD if it's his time? Or did you mis-type? I'm confused.
Sorry, it was supposed to say "wasn't" dad's weekend. We can't stop her from volunteering but now a lot of people are upset with her. The friend's comment is still there, she justifies it by saying the dance landed on HER weekend so SHE should get to take her DD. Whatever helps you sleep at night...

Okay, I was so confused! If I was the BD I would have just showed up at the dance. He had a right to be there. I second PP who stated that if that BM pulls those shenanigans again that she should man something where she HAS to stay put - i.e. taking pictures at photo booth.

CFjo2010 · November 2013

Littlejen22 said:
Next time can you just keep assigning stuff for her to do? Make her man a concession stand or something? Can you limit the volunteers and say you have enough? Out school has no issues saying they need X volunteers.

Man, I WISH we could tell people we didn't need volunteers!! We never seem to have enough people. Ever. It's such a pain. I think next year I'll make sure I'm there delegating tasks to people (meaning just her) to make sure people are doing what they need to be.

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