Hi ladies,
Just curious how anyone responds to those questions "when are you going to have a baby".
II am finding it increasingly harder each time to put a smile on my face with nice responses. I obviously do not want to tell anyone that we are having fertility issues, and i wish I could politely tell someone to mind their business....
Do I just suck it up and deal with it?
Re: How do you respond?
Of course inside I want to tell them to shut the F up and tell them I've gone through 6 IUI's, a loss, surgery etc. and to not ask people when they are having a baby ever again.
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Pinterest: LO ... somedayThank you so much for these responses! It's so nice to know I am not completely alone in the way I feel.
megwill126 I always wonder what people would say if I did tell them to Shut the F up! LOL
I've noticed my patience is thin and people are starting to sense it, but I just wish I had a snarky response!
Thanks again ladies!
Me 33, DH 37 -- TTC since Jan'12 -- Low AMH (0.78) & endo, SA w/ low motility
IUI's 1-3 = BFN, IVF converted to IUI 4/13 = BFN
IVF 1.2: 8R 6M 4F -- 2 blastocysts frozen, FET 8/15 = BFP!!
Beta #s = 445;1,098; 9,545 -- EDD 5/2 -- Team Pink!
ME - 31, DH - 40
Married 06/25/2011, TTC since 03/2012
BFP #1 on 11/13/12 -- EDD 7/24/13 -- M/C (CP) on 11/21/12
BFP #2 on 7/21/13 -- EDD 3/29/14 -- M/C (CP) on 7/31/13
09/4/13 - 4/16/14 -- IUI #1 - 6 = BFNs
7/13/14 -- IVF #1 w/ ICSI
ER on 7/26/14 -- 20 R, 15 M, 11 F
ET on 7/31/14 -- 1 transferred (4bb); 8 frosties!!!
BFP #3 on 8/8/14 -- EDD 04/18/15
BETA #1: 473, BETA #2: 1009, BETA #3: 1975
** It's a BOY!!! **
Most of my family knows we have been trying for a while, so they don't ask. But we will be asked by random strangers, and I leave that up to DH to respond.. he's pretty witty and will come up with a somewhat funny but leave us along comment.
DH's mom makes comments almost everytime we see her. Like last night, they took us out for our anniversary. They made a comment about being married for two years, and DH responds with "Well we've been together for 9." DH's mom says, "So why didn't you get married 9 years ago. You could've had 10 kids by now. I'm tired of my sister sending me so many pictures of her grandbabies. I want some!"
I don't know how to reply. DH has kind of told her our troubles, plus with what just happened, you'd think she wouldn't say stuff like that...
TTC since March 2012
DX: MFI (4% motility)
Cycle 13: Natural cycle w/ HSG test = BFP
Identical twins!
Lost my angel boys at 10.5 weeks
Cycle 14-16: Natural Cycles = BFN
Cycle 17: Follistim + Trigger + IUI = BFN
Cycle 18: Natural Cycle = BFN
Cycle 19: Follistim + Trigger +IUI#2
Polyp found: SIS 11/11 - hysteroscopy 11/14
Cycle 20: Follistim + IUI#2 = BFFN
Cycle 21: Follistim (adj. dosage) + IUI#3 TI = BFN
IUI cancelled due to weather
Cycle 22: Follistim + IUI#3.1 = BFN
Cycle 23: treatment break, IVF consult
Cycle 24 - 26: natural cycle w/ acupuncture + Chinese herbs = BFN
Cycle 27: Follistim + IUI#4 = BFFN
Natural Cycles until IVF
Cycle 30: IVF#1 - Starting with Menopur + Follistim + Ganirelix
17 retrieved, 12 fertilized, 5dt w/ 2 blasts, 5 frosties
Betas: #1-156(9dp5dt), #2-1200(13dp5) #3-6112(17dp5)
Ultrasound #1 10/6: 1 bean!
TEAM BLUE!
My Chart
~~ALL WELCOME~~
I have a nosy co worker who has asked way to many times- like every month like clockwork. She asks every child bearing woman in the office. I know I am not the one struggling so I finally told her that her question was hurtful that I had just lost a baby over the summer. That her asking her coworkers all the time was offensive. She was mortified and apologized. I didn't want to tell her but I couldn't take it anymore. I haven't heard ask anyone else since I told her.
Me:36 DH:38 TTC#1 since 4/2012
Me DX: Hashimotos,Hypothyroid, DOR, MTHFR, DH: normal
IUI #1-#4 BFNs and a few cancelled cycles in the mix.
- poor responder
***Suprise BFP on 6/13/13. Natural MC @6wks 3days
IVF#1 and 2- Cancelled due to no response on max stimms
FET 5/20- BFP
1st Beta- 641
2nd beta- 2166
Sono- TWINS!!!!
Two Boys! Born January 2015 @36 weeks. Healthy and no NICU! So blessed!
12/31 Beta #1: 404 Beta #2: 1,027
However, I sort of had an awakening over the weekend. We were at a family member's wedding and I glanced over to see that my husband's cousin was crying. They were doing the "anniversary dance" where by the end of the song the couple that has been married the longest is the only one still dancing. She is recently separated and just started the legal divorce process. It was an eye opener for me. Everyone has their issue. I realized that she is insanely envious of my marriage. She can get pregnant at 40 like it's nothing, but she doesn't have what I have.
It has brought me a lot of peace. I don't know how long this feeling of peacefulness will last, but I am enjoying it this week.
TTC since 08/2012
DX: DOR
N14 Nov. Siggy: CELEBRATION!
**Follow your heart, but take your brain with you**
TTC Since July 2011 34 years old Unexplained IF
3 failed IUI's, 6/2013 - IUI #4 150mg clomid, BFP, 7 weeks heartbeat, M/C at 9 weeks
IUI#5 (Oct) & 6 (Nov) 150mg clomid -BFN
Last IUI on 12/7 and that's the end of the road...onto adoption if that is what is meant to be for us.
HSG- showed graying in one spot/Saline Sono- showed 5mm polyp
DH SA - abnormal - 36%motility on both SA's (count and morph ok on SA1, a little off SA2)
1/10/14 - Hysteroscopy to remove 5mm polyp
1/12/14- Medicated Cycle 1: 50mg Clomid + Ovidrel + TI = BFN
2/15/14 - Medicated Cycle 2: 100mg Clomid + Ovidrel + TI = BFN
3/18/14 - IUI Cycle 1: 150mg Clomid + Ovidrel + IUI = BFN
Upped Levothyroxine to 50mg - tested at 2.62
4/17/14 - IUI Cycle 2: 150mg Clomid + Ovidrel + IUI = BFN
Break!
6/21/14: IUI Cycle 3: 150mg Clomid + Ovidrel + IUI
*All are welcome*