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Oh MIL

hokiemama06hokiemama06 member
in July 2012 Moms

Let me just start out by saying that I have a great MIL, and usually can't complain.  However, my MIL has this thing about recipes - if you make something and she likes it, she asks for the recipe.  It kind bugs me because she never makes them, just asks for it, but whatever.  I will give her a copy if she asks, although I don't usually share my tweaks - I feel like it's my hard work, so I should be able to keep it, right?  She can make her own tweaks if she wants.

My ILs went out to visit BIL a few weeks ago and DH and I couldn't go, so I sent a batch of cookies (which I always do).  BIL & FIL apparently raved about the cookies.  Great - glad you liked them!  So the last time she watched DS, she went into my cookbooks and copied that recipe (with my notes), along with a few others that I had made for them that she never asked for.  Annoying, and kinda makes me uncomfortable, but whatever.

Yesterday, she tells me she's planning on making the cookies and freezing them, so when BIL comes to town, she'll have some for him.  Seriously? Why not make something that's your recipe - not something you stole from my kitchen.  *eyeroll*

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  • BubbaJugBubbaJug member
    Obnoxious. 

    I would also be extremely uncomfortable with the fact that she took it upon herself to go through your stuff. Weird.
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    roo1582 said:
    I would be annoyed she's going through my stuff too.  MIL asks for some of my recipes too, but I rarely give them to her.  I feel like there's only some much that I make that DH and others REALLY LOVE, that I don't want to hand them out to her.  I feel like they're my signature dishes, not hers.  I make an awesome guac, and I don't want her using the recipe like its hers. 

    Yeah, I feel like this is where I'm at.  I don't want her to use the recipe that I've tweaked and made my own like it's hers.  I just think it's really weird that she went through my stuff when, if asked, I'd have given her the original version of the recipe. 
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  • nesenotesnesenotes member
    Well thats rude. Isnt it funny how we can get crazy about "our" recipes lol. This stuff happens with my ILs often. But mostly with H's grandma. And they have had fights between themselves about who makes potato salad better. She cried once over it at a party. Good grief.
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  • Pandril19Pandril19 member
    edited October 2013

    I'm with @hijinx with this.   Not saying you're wrong to be irritated, just that I think life is easier when you don't let these things bother you.

    Cooking is defintely a labor of love in my family.  Sharing the recipe, tweaks (if we can remember them), and cooking someone else's discovery/creation is only a continuation of that love for us.

     Funny aside - I've made my brother's birthday dessert (French Silk pie) since I was old enough to do so.  It's a recipe from our family cookbook (which we update periodically and distribute to family members and some friends).   For years, my brother and mom have said that they've made it, but mine is better.   For years I've told them that I have no idea why because I just follow the recipe.   2 years ago I pulled the recipe out and realized that I don't follow it at all.   So I added my notes to the family file.    But man I felt bad for accidentally lying for all those years.

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  • bumpuser1509193bumpuser1509193 member
    Brian's family does that too! So annoying! And I can't just tell them the website either, I have to SHOW them exactly where it is. I never do, MIL is the worst cook, I hate for my yummy creations to be butchered in her kitchen.
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  • hokiemama06hokiemama06 member

    I don't know that I'm possessive, per say about my recipes - I'm happy to share the original that I've worked from.  I guess my view is that when you personalize it, that it becomes yours.  It's definitely a compliment that people would like the recipe, but it's still my recipe, and my work. 

    IDK, I think some of it is from family upbringing.  I come from a long line of lousy cooks and had to teach myself, so when something is good, I tend to guard it closely since I feel like I worked really hard for it.  Whereas DH's family are all wonderful cooks with lots of family recipes that everyone makes, so it's NBD to them.

    FTR, I'm not worked up about it, it's really just a roll my eyes and shake my head kind of thing.  DH felt that it was tacky and wanted to say something to her about it, but I said not to, that it's not worth picking nits over.

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