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Where do I belong?

Hi ladies! I used to be involved on this months ago but needed some time away.

Background- I am 27. Went through 6 iui' shot pregnant on the 3rd but it ended in ectopic. After the 6th Iui I decided to take the summer off and wanted to do IVF in the fall. Well the money needed for IVF we don't have and it's completely OOP.


Present time- I'm ok with not doing any fertility treatments and I'm ok if me being a mom isn't in my cards. Would I love to have a family of course! Am I ok only having it just be me and my husband and trips and wine all the time yes.


So my question is- where do I belong if I'm not doing any treatments, I'm dealing with infertility and I'm ok with if I never become a mom? I need a place where your sick of going through treatments, you're upset every month and you're just over it and want to live your life.


Wow. Sorry about my extremely long post. Holy rant.
Married 8/6/2011 Me (26) DH (33) SA normal,HSG clear TTC since August 2011 7/2012 50mg Clomid+Trigger+IUI+progesterone =BFN 8/2012 100mg Clomid+estrogen+Trigger+IUI+progestrone=BFN 10/2012 100mg clomid+Gonal+Lupron+Trigger+Progestrone+IUI=BFP but ectopic.

Re: Where do I belong?

  • ErinSaysErinSays
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    edited October 2013
    There is a Child Free: Not By Choice board for ladies who are done with treatments, and they seem very welcoming.

    Edit for link: http://forums.thebump.com/categories/child-free-not-by-choice
    Me (34) & DH (45) - NTNP since June 2011
    RE: 12/1/12 - Me: PCOS; DH: Low T
    2/13: DH's T went from 190 to 777!
    Cycle 1 1/25/13: Clomid 100mg + Trigger + TI + Progesterone = Ectopic pregnancy
    3/7/13: MTX injections put me on the bench.
    Cycle 2 6/7/13: Clomid 100mg CD3-7 = No response
    Cycle 2.1 Clomid 150mg CD 19-23 + Trigger + TI + Progesterone = BFN
    Cycle 3 7/21/13: Clomid 150mg + Trigger + IUI #1 + Progesterone = BFN
    Cycle 4 8/25/13: Bravelle 75-112iu + Trigger + IUI #2 + Progesterone = BFN
    Cycle 5 9/23/13: Bravelle 75-225iu + Trigger + IUI #3 + Progesterone = BFFN
    Onto IVF - starting injects on Christmas Day

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  • Thank you!
    Married 8/6/2011 Me (26) DH (33) SA normal,HSG clear TTC since August 2011 7/2012 50mg Clomid+Trigger+IUI+progesterone =BFN 8/2012 100mg Clomid+estrogen+Trigger+IUI+progestrone=BFN 10/2012 100mg clomid+Gonal+Lupron+Trigger+Progestrone+IUI=BFP but ectopic.
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  • There's a board called "Child Free: And Not By Choice"...maybe there? I'm not sure, I haven't visited...but it's worth checking out. Are you still trying, even without treatment? If so, I don't see why you couldn't stick around here...just make sure you put a warning in your title if you mention a pregnancy. Just as a heads up for those having a difficult day :-)

    I'm sorry to hear you had a rough journey but I wish you lots of luck. 
    {Me:27, Dx:PCOS, LPD, & rob(14;15)}
    {DH:31 all clear, "super sperm"}
    Ecstatically married July 30, 2011--TTC since Jan 2013:::Baby #1 due 9/11, Conceived on cycle #5 of Femara + Hcg + IUI
    ~Love and Light to everyone~ 
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    My furbabies--Mr. Bubbles and Miss Kitty <3
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  • Thanks @brittneyandadam! We are kind of trying. I'm not tempting or using OPK's just HIO when we feel like it but obviously not preventing.
    Married 8/6/2011 Me (26) DH (33) SA normal,HSG clear TTC since August 2011 7/2012 50mg Clomid+Trigger+IUI+progesterone =BFN 8/2012 100mg Clomid+estrogen+Trigger+IUI+progestrone=BFN 10/2012 100mg clomid+Gonal+Lupron+Trigger+Progestrone+IUI=BFP but ectopic.
  • Would any one care if I also posted here? ☺️
    Married 8/6/2011 Me (26) DH (33) SA normal,HSG clear TTC since August 2011 7/2012 50mg Clomid+Trigger+IUI+progesterone =BFN 8/2012 100mg Clomid+estrogen+Trigger+IUI+progestrone=BFN 10/2012 100mg clomid+Gonal+Lupron+Trigger+Progestrone+IUI=BFP but ectopic.
  • Would any one care if I also posted here? ☺️

    I don't see why not :)  Plenty of ladies who are benched long-term post here, and it's not like you have to be active with treatments to post.  The Child Free is also good, although I know the posts on there aren't quite as frequent.


    Me 33, DH 37 -- TTC since Jan'12 -- Low AMH (0.78) & endo, SA w/ low motility
    IUI's 1-3 = BFN, IVF converted to IUI 4/13 = BFN
    IVF 1.2: 8R 6M 4F -- 2 blastocysts frozen, FET 8/15 = BFP!!
    Beta #s = 445;1,098; 9,545  -- EDD 5/2 -- Team Pink!
    Camila Josephine arrived 4/30 :)
  • I'm sorry to hear of your troubles.. you're welcome to stick around here and commiserate with us!


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    Alexander - 8/9/14
  • You gals are awesome! :)
    Married 8/6/2011 Me (26) DH (33) SA normal,HSG clear TTC since August 2011 7/2012 50mg Clomid+Trigger+IUI+progesterone =BFN 8/2012 100mg Clomid+estrogen+Trigger+IUI+progestrone=BFN 10/2012 100mg clomid+Gonal+Lupron+Trigger+Progestrone+IUI=BFP but ectopic.
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