So I think weight gain is difficult for most women to take in stride - even when pregnant - but I think I'm having an even harder time because within the last two years I lost about 50 lbs and had maintained it for the seven months prior to us getting pregnant. I'm 5'4" and weighed 143 prepreg. At my last appointment (18 wks) I was at 155 and was fine with it. Today I stepped on the scale and somehow added TEN POUNDS in four weeks?! I have changed nothing - still working out, eating healthful meals, not eating fast food, drinking almost solely water, etc. I'm thrilled that baby looks perfectly healthy and we're SO thankful for that - please know I know how petty it sounds to be upset about a number on a scale, but I'd be lying if I said I didn't tear up this morning at that number. I am scared to death about what my final weight gain will be, losing it all again, and just all around how this makes me feel about myself - pretty crappy to say the least. I drink juice every morning ... maybe I should cut it? I'm rambling, I know ... just not sure how to curb such extreme weight gain when I'm not sure what I'm doing to cause it. I told my OB this morning I was upset about it and she said not to worry, it could be water retention, etc. and that next month I might not gain anything. Just upset and you ladies generally make me feel better
Re: Upset about weight gain at 22 weeks
Just keep doing that. You have to realize that gaining weight is part of this process. If you focus on the number, and try to control it to an "acceptable to you" gain, that will likely not be healthy for you, mentally or physically.
Stay active, eat healthy, and try to enjoy your pregnancy.
It sounds like to me that you are eating healthy and haven't really changed much since BFP. I say you are probably retaining water. Remember that while we are pregnant we double our blood supply.. not sure how much weight that is.. but it must be some. I hope you feel better.
BFP #1 10/02/06, EDD 5/1/07 Natural Miscarriage 1 week after BFP
BFP #2 3/28/07, EDD 11/19/07 Natural Miscarriage 2 weeks after BFP
BFP #3 1/16/11, 1st U/S - 1/28/11 HR 132bpm, Missed Miscarriage- 2/28/11, D&C 3/8/11
March 2011, diagnosed with MTHFR gene mutation
"Dear Lord, I would have loved to have held my babies on my lap and tell them about You, but since I didn't get the chance, would You please hold them on Your lap and tell them about me?
BFP #4 6/26/13, EDD 3/8/14, Delivered @ 40w6d
Bethany Elizabeth born on 3/14/14 @ 6:48am weighing almost 8lbs 1oz and measuring 20 1/2 inches.
Thanks ladies - I just feel like all I've seen are posts from bumpies who have only gained a few ish pounds, so thinking I was doing something wrong unbeknownst to me.
@Lalaith50 the juice will be going - good idea to replace with fruit. I had just been feeling a little shakey when I wake up each morning so it was my first thought as something I could get into my system right away.
@WickedNE I get that weight gain is part of the program - and I expect it. I just didn't expect that much of a jump in four weeks, nor did I think it was normal. I know with GD you have a tendency to gain more weight, hence the specific diet, so just getting nervous that we could be adding that to the plate. FTM, no frame of reference, no idea how my body handles pregnancy.
@lvlichelle you're right - I shouldn't be this hard on myself. Thanks for reminding me of that Sometimes I just really need to get things off my chest to people who will be brutally honest - aka not my close friends, husband or mom. Weight's something I've battled my whole life, so I recognize I need to work on letting go. Baby is healthy, I am healthy and we are blessed.
11/1- IUI#1,12/1- IUI#2, 1/2- IUI#3 all BFFN
IVF#1. Long Lupron.ER 3/8 10R,4M,5F. ET 3/3-one 1AB, 2 frosties 5dp5dt-BFP!! Beta 3/25-794 Beta 3/27- 1794
First u/s 4/8 saw hb. 4/22 missed mc 8w3d. d&c 4/26
FET #1- bcp start 6/9. ET 7/12. 2 perfect blasts.5dpt-BFP!!
Sebastian 3-11-14
Simon 5-2-15
Baby #3 Due 9-29-16
You nailed it, @babycaps. I have been feeling like a terrible person/mother all morning for how I felt when I saw the number on the scale this morning. Like it makes me ungrateful, when in fact my husband and I thank God every day, numerous times a day, for this little blessing, and I tear up EVERY time I hear the heartbeat or see him/her on the u/s. You're right - it is a mental game. I found this article interesting: https://alphamom.com/pregnancy/when-you-hate-your-pregnant-body/
- I was overweight to begin with. I should gain less that you total during this pregnancy.
- I am STILL on zofran. I was really sick during 1st tri and still not doing great. I am barely starting to be able to eat a healthy, balanced diet. The last few months have been about survival for me, and it's always in the back of my head that I need to be doing more to be healthy.
- I have had two huge losses since I got my BFP (my MIL and my grandma). Dealing with the losses and the drama surrounding them has not helped my overall health.
But my doc is not concerned, so I'm trying not to be. I'm still in the 'normal' range, and the bub and I seem to be healthy. Weight gain and self image are hard, sometimes harder for some people. But just keep in mind that this is temporary, and you're doing a great job for you and your baby.
Married my love 6/11/11 | MMC 10/11/11 | Eliza Frances born 9/18/12 | Rhett Garland born 2/24/14
I didn't realize we are due the same day, too @babycaps!
@Rockopera I'm really sorry for your losses and I'm glad to hear you're finally starting to feel better. I know I can't/shouldn't compare and obviously don't know back stories - you're right.
Thank you so much, ladies. I know I'm irrational about this, it's just something I'll always have to work on. And that's a great idea, @VineyardMel. I haven't worried about weight when I'm at home (I put away the scale), so why look at it there? They'll tell me if it's an issue.
2nd FET 6/14/2013 - BPF!!! -
1st Beta: 1046!!!!! - 2nd Beta: 2754!!!!!
First u/s 7/11/2013 - TWINS!!! 120 and 124 heartbeats
Second u/s 7/29/2013 - wiggley babies! 178 and 184 heartbeats!
Third u/s 9/9/2013 - 157 and 161 heartbeats ... a BOY and a GIRL!!!! Cervix on the "shorter side" (3-3.3) - going to check again in 2 weeks.
Fourth u/s 9/23/2013 - Baby A = 157 Baby B = 150 heartbeat. Cervix now 2.3-2.6 ... being referred to a MFM
MFM Appointment 9/26/2013 = Both babies healthy, cervix now measuring at 4 - Playing tricks on me ... will follow up in 2 weeks.
Cervical check 10/7 with regular OB - 2.1cm --- going BACK to the MFM armed with ultrasound pictures from my OB of my cervix. *sigh*
MFM Appointment 10/8 - confirmed my cervix at 2.1cm - putting me on Progesterone for a week.
MFM Appointment 10/17 - Cervix unchanged! Keeping me on Progesterone - followup 10/29
">
Everett Alan James (3lbs8oz) and Eliana Lee (3lbs7oz) born 12/28/13 at 30w6d!
2nd FET 6/14/2013 - BPF!!! -
1st Beta: 1046!!!!! - 2nd Beta: 2754!!!!!
First u/s 7/11/2013 - TWINS!!! 120 and 124 heartbeats
Second u/s 7/29/2013 - wiggley babies! 178 and 184 heartbeats!
Third u/s 9/9/2013 - 157 and 161 heartbeats ... a BOY and a GIRL!!!! Cervix on the "shorter side" (3-3.3) - going to check again in 2 weeks.
Fourth u/s 9/23/2013 - Baby A = 157 Baby B = 150 heartbeat. Cervix now 2.3-2.6 ... being referred to a MFM
MFM Appointment 9/26/2013 = Both babies healthy, cervix now measuring at 4 - Playing tricks on me ... will follow up in 2 weeks.
Cervical check 10/7 with regular OB - 2.1cm --- going BACK to the MFM armed with ultrasound pictures from my OB of my cervix. *sigh*
MFM Appointment 10/8 - confirmed my cervix at 2.1cm - putting me on Progesterone for a week.
MFM Appointment 10/17 - Cervix unchanged! Keeping me on Progesterone - followup 10/29
">
Everett Alan James (3lbs8oz) and Eliana Lee (3lbs7oz) born 12/28/13 at 30w6d!
Good news is I can look at the number and say, ok, if I hadn't lost the weight before, this number would be 30 lbs more. I'm healthier for losing it and I can lose it again.
To make myself feel better I work out 2x a week with a prenatal personal trainer. Just something I needed to do for myself.
Is it possible to just not look at the scale at the doctor appointment?
My first pregnancy I started at a GREAT weight. I worked out regularly, and I tracked my weight daily. It didn't bother me, I was genuinely curious about it all.
This pregnancy was unexpected and I wasn't back to my happy weight, so I haven't looked at a scale the whole time. I know myself. I'd freak out about it.
All that to say, perhaps just let your dr office know that you don't want to know your weight unless they are concerned about it one way or another... or even beginning to be concerned.
By the way. I gained FIFTY pounds the first time. (I'm about 110lbs normally) but I always measured on track at my appts and I did lose MOST of it pretty quickly. I just needed to be more disciplined in you know - doing SOME exercises and eating better - I just chose not to. Oops.
Anyway - sorry you're having a rough time. I promise, it's for a good cause. Keep that baby growing healthy and strong!