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Serious question

reinedecajunreinedecajun member
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I might just be lonely/hormonal today but I have a situation. Now that im working full time everything financially is more or less back to normal or will be in a matter of weeks. Big F is at the trucking school because it was taking him to long to find a job and financially we needed one of us to work and at the time that was the solution. The trucking company will have him sign a 8 month contract in about 2 weeks when he finishes the classes and he'll be locked in with them until June.

So here's my dilemma, were both miserable with him being gone. Lil Frankie has been acting out since the day he left and it's not making things any easier. My job will have me home by 6:30 ish every night leaving my older kids home alone for a few hours everyday. Not really a big deal but whatever. So if you were in my position would you suggest that your husband come back home and let him find something else workwise since we have that second income now? Or do I just suck it up and encourage him to continue with this trucking venture? 

I will say with the trucking job the chances of moving back home are more of a reality than with other employment so there is that also. Ugh im so conflicted, i miss him :(

 I'm sorry if this makes zero sense.
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  • reinedecajunreinedecajun member
    See I dont even want to bring it up to him because I know he'll be conflicted also. More than likely we'll just push through it. Im just having a seriously miserable day. I even had to talk to my ex mil for like ever this afternoon. That helped zero! 
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    No I would not have him come home; he is going to have a job.  In my opinion having a job> not having a job.  What if he comes home and he can't get a job anywhere again?  That would probably be more stressful than having him gone for a few weeks.  I say tough it out for now, as much as it sucks.
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    cwm11985 said:
    No I would not have him come home; he is going to have a job.  In my opinion having a job> not having a job.  What if he comes home and he can't get a job anywhere again?  That would probably be more stressful than having him gone for a few weeks.  I say tough it out for now, as much as it sucks.
    I agree. Stay strong woman. 8 months is a long time, but it's not forever.  You can do it and the extra money will be worth it in the long run.


    I am, I think im just having a really bad day. I know we can do this we've done worse with deployments. It's just hard to see frankie missing him. June will be here before we know it :)  Thanks yall
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    mom2JBMS said:
    I would be on the phone begging him to come home. I am just being honest. Being home alone with 4 kids is just not fun. If financially you guys could swing it I would really consider it before he signs the contract. He could always search for other situations driving truck where they come home in the evenings. I know this goes against what everyone else thinks. I know you have bills to pay but I also know how lonely life can be. Just because it is an 8 month contract does not mean he will be home after that. I hope you guys work out whatever is best for your family.
    Did you read my mind? lol  After talking to him tonight he seems really optomistic (sp) so I kept my mouth shut. It's killing me not to say something but I know in the long run it's my emotions talking more than anything. This is just so friggin hard.
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  • reinedecajunreinedecajun member
    I just got the chance to comment, but I think you should stick it out.  I know it sucks, being away from them is hard, and I only ever dealt with it pre-kids, so I can't imagine what you're going through.  Think about how slow it feels, but then when it's over you can't help but think, "Man that was nothing!"  The reason I think you should stick it out is not financially related.  I think that stuff would work itself out based on what you've said, however, all you ever talk about is getting yourself home.  That is the end goal--home, with the whole family.  8 months is worth that, right?  Stay strong, you can do it!





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  • lkamenkolkamenko member
    That is a hard situation. I think you should hear your DH opinion. Can you talk to him and discuss the options? It must be hard for all if you on so many levels. I am sure you can do it but be sure you are in the same boat with him on the decision. We had a period in our life when I stayed in Seattle with kids and my dh went to Florida. Frankly it was harder on him then on me. Good luck with your decision.
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