I'm not in the 2ww yet (only CD9), but I've obvi been reading everyone's updates in the Tuesday post. I've noticed a common theme of being over this 2IF crap and considering being done. This is exactly where I am at, and am actually fairly certain this will be our last medicated IUI cycle. In 2.5yrs when MH finishes residency and we can actually afford IVF, if we still feel the desire to expand our family we'll go down that road. My DDs will be 8 and 6 at that point

I'm just so bitter that the last 2 years have been spent focusing on this when I could/should have been focusing on the kids I already have, kwim? I don't know how well I'll say this, but I'm almost as mad now that 2IF has turned me into this bitter/crabby/jealous person that I wasn't before, as I am mad that I don't have a baby. Like, if I'm not going to have a baby I wish I could go back and not have spent all this time trying so I would be the happier person I was. I know I'm mostly venting, so please feel free to hash out your feelings, too!
Two DDs 10/08 and 08/10, no primary IF
TTC #3 since 10/2011 - dx unexplained/weak ovulation
3 BFN clomid + TI cycles, 5 BFN clomid/gonal f IUIs, 1 mmc IUI
2/19/2014 IVF #1 Unexpected low E2 (oversuppressed) -> increased to max doses = 3 or 4 follicles, converting to IUI
BFFP Saw 1 beautiful heartbeat at 6w6d, follow up u/s at 9w showed mmc. Eff this.
NTNP 5/2014-9/2014, OPKs and TI 10/2014 - 1/2015.
RPL testing all normal, AFC, AMH, and FSH all normal.
IVF 1.2 1/22/2014 natural cycle start, AFC 28, 300 gonal f/150menopur.
ER 2/3/15 14R 8M 3F w/ICSI Day 5 transfer on 2/8/15 of one "Grade A+" blast and have TWO frosties!
Re: "Over it?"
Spontaneous pregnancy #1
DD1 July 31, 2011
Trying for #2 since Oct 11
Spontaneous pregnancy #2= Ectopic #2= lost left tube
Spontaneous pregnancy #3= DD2 January 29, 2016
Spontaneous pregnancy #4= Ectopic #3
Spontaneous pregnancy #5= Baby #3 is a BOY!!!
xoxo
I was actually thinking about this about 3 weeks ago when we transferred to a new RE. I was embarrassed by my actions (yes, I'm pretty hard on myself) and have made changes to make things better for everyone. This weekend was a set back for me because it was my DD's 3rd birthday and I wanted everything to be perfect. Of course, having a bunch of 3 year olds running around will never equal "perfect."
I completely understand your POV. This time with my family is precious and each day to be treasured. And that is perfect.
Don't hump it, Love it!
Happily married since Feb 2010, Sweet DD born Oct 2010, 39 years old, blocked tube, low . 09 AMH and high 21 FSH
It's not him, it's me!
September 2013 failed IUI - left blocked tube
November 2013 IVF - premature ovulation converted to IUI
December 2013 "We were <are> on a break!!!" ~ Friends homage
November 2013 protocol: Menopur, Gonal-f RFF Pen 900, Ganirelix 250mcg, baby Asprin, Gonal-f RFF Pen 300, Z Pak, Novarel, Progestrone in Sesame Oil
DS born Jan 2010
TTC#2 since Nov 2010 with breaks for DH cancer tx (remission!)
Tube with hydro removed Feb 2013
BFP 11/11/13 IUI#2 clomid+trigger+prometrium
Beta #1 14dpIUI=106; Beta #2 16dpIUI=287; Beta #3 20dpIUI=1158
5w6d 1 hb 109 and 2nd smaller sac; 7w0d 1 hb 125 and confirmed vanishing twin
TTC #3
M/C 10.26.13 @ 6w2d
DS born Jan 2010
TTC#2 since Nov 2010 with breaks for DH cancer tx (remission!)
Tube with hydro removed Feb 2013
BFP 11/11/13 IUI#2 clomid+trigger+prometrium
Beta #1 14dpIUI=106; Beta #2 16dpIUI=287; Beta #3 20dpIUI=1158
5w6d 1 hb 109 and 2nd smaller sac; 7w0d 1 hb 125 and confirmed vanishing twin
Last cycle I was feeling this way and extremely frustrated. Now as we are awaiting DH's SA results, I am still doing my best I can to "make a baby". I am sure once we get the results, it will effect how I feel. If he does have something wrong, I will try to figure out how to fix it so we can make a baby and if he doesn't, then I guess I will just be even more frustrated.
I do want a baby for myself, but as PPs said, more than anything I want to give DD a sibling that she has been talking about for 2 years now. And I want to give a child to my husband, as he doesn't have a biological child of his own. If DD wasn't so obsessed with a sibling and DH didn't want a child, it wouldn't be as big of a deal. But it is. I feel like I'm letting them down.
BFP #1 ended in MMC. Discovered Oct 2005 @10w5d, baby stopped growing around 6w. D&C.
BFP#2 Nov 2005. Baby's heart stopped @ 8w3d. D&C Jan 2006. Trisomy 18
BFP#3 Nov 2006. My "miracle baby" DD born 7/25/07
BFP #4 11/6/12. EDD 7/16/13~my birthday! No sac found @ 5w1d, betas not increasing. Natural m/c started 11/20/12.
BFP#5 11/9/13. EDD 7/21/14 Our beautiful rainbow born on his due date!!
BFP #1 12.24.07 - DD born @ 39w1d on 08.26.08

BFP #2 08.04.11 - DD born still @ 37w3d on 03.25.12
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TTC #3 since May 2012
BFP #3 12.29.12 - CP @ 4w2d on 01.02.13
BFP #4 10.17.13 - CP @ 4w2d on 10.23.13
BFP #5 04.06.14 - MMC 05.07.14
No longer trying to conceive.
I agree with this!!! Everyone recommends getting a hobby, go on a trip, spend time with your SO all of which is hard with a LO. I feel like it would be easier to walk away if I could pick up a hobby or go on a fancy trip. Plus I really want DS to have a sibling. The worst is when we are out and he just stares at other kids.