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Wwj12d? Pregnancy related.

lilahbean13lilahbean13 member
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No I'm not pregnant ...I think I started today so pooey

So after feeling the pain of so many of your losses and going through this with you I'm terrified. When we finally do get pregnant I don't want to tell family until 12 weeks. Like no one at all. The problem is that my husband has a big mouth and can't keep exciting news to himself so I know when we get pregnant he will tell, he can't help it! He already said that he wouldn't be able to keep it to himself just out if excitement.
So what do I do? Get pregnant and keep it a secret from everyone in my life for 3 months or just let everyone know and hope for the best??
I know this sounds like a stupid question I'm sorry!
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  • Barefoot84Barefoot84 member
    You'd hide it from your H? Have you forgotten your first trimester, or were you very lucky? I don't think I could hide it from my husband even if I REALLY wanted to. There's just so much puking you can do without someone  noticing.
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    Having suffered a loss, I will tell you its nice to have the support from those you love when it happens. Some people may feel different. I wanted to wallow but I had so many loved ones calling and making sure I was ok that it helped me heal. So any time im pregnant I tell my family right away because they are my support system. But its different for everyone.
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  • SallySunriseSallySunrise member
    The answers above perfectly demonstrate what I was going to say... You do what feels right to YOU. The truth is that you might miscarry. Every BFP has that chance. The question is if that happened to you, would you rather grieve privately with your H, or with your family and friends? Neither answer is wrong.
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  • ashleynakaashleynaka member
    I say just go along with his excitement and know that at least you have everyone on your side should something unfortunate happen.

    BTW...I am totally scared too with all that has been going on lately.
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  • lkamenkolkamenko member
    I told only my DH and my mother right away. I told my inlaws when it was 18 weeks. I don't think you should keep it from your DH. He should be able to keep his mouth shut if you explain him your reasons not to tell until 12 weeks. 
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  • lilahbean13lilahbean13 member
    Yea I could hide it from him..I didn't throw up once last time however next time I may not be as lucky!
    I think if we kept it a secret and then suffered a loss we would def tell close family. It's not that. It's the excitement from everyone about the pregnancy and all that would make the loss harder think.
    Either way it's just something they goes along with being pregnant there is always a risk. I can't even lie to my husband about what I ate for lunch so I don't know if I could keep it from him.
    I guess when the time comes I'll go with what feels right. I'm just bored waiting around until the bfp so my wheels are turning.
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  • lilahbean13lilahbean13 member
    I realize I contradicted myself about telling my husband in my last response. I could conceal the pregnancy symptoms however I can't hide anything from him cause I have a big fat mouth when it comes to him
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  • SallySunriseSallySunrise member
    IMO, no one else's excitement could or would have made my losses harder. It sucks, plain and simple, no matter who was excited about it.
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  • StokedWifeyStokedWifey member
    edited October 2013
    Having suffered a loss, I will tell you its nice to have the support from those you love when it happens. Some people may feel different. I wanted to wallow but I had so many loved ones calling and making sure I was ok that it helped me heal. So any time im pregnant I tell my family right away because they are my support system. But its different for everyone.
    I haven't experienced a loss, but because of family history, I have always been afraid of it.  We told our parents, siblings and my best friend (B's godmother) after the first ultrasound at 7w6d.  I knew that if something happened, I would want support and it would have sucked to say "Hey, I was pregnant, but there was a problem" and put them on that roller coaster so quickly.  We'll do the same with #2.
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