September 2013 Moms
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Positive parent/in-law stories
HBirdie
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I love a good "My MIL is crazycakes" story as much as the next person, but I decided I wanted to share a happy parent story today.
My mom is awesome and we're close, but she drove me crazy during pregnancy. I was worried about how she'd be when the baby came, but I have been SO pleasantly surprised. She is amazing. She was there during labor and then my c-section, and she was so supportive and wonderful. There's really something about having your mama close in times like that. 
Then she stayed with me for four or five days once DH had to go back to work, and that was awesome- she cleaned up after me, cooked, snuggled Caleb to give me time to sleep or eat or whatever, and kept me company. I really miss having her here.
Then she stayed with me for four or five days once DH had to go back to work, and that was awesome- she cleaned up after me, cooked, snuggled Caleb to give me time to sleep or eat or whatever, and kept me company. I really miss having her here.Overall I'm so lucky to have her. She never gives me annoying or unwanted advice, and she never makes me feel inadequate. She's constantly affirming me as a good mom, even when I feel like I've screwed up or don't know what I'm doing. She's so encouraging and sweet, and she's been really affectionate and proud of me and that means a lot (we aren't a very lovey dovey family, in general). It's not that I didn't think she'd be proud of me, more just that we don't express that very well in our family. I'm really enjoying how good she's making me feel about being a parent, and how she's totally there for me in a non-judgemental way when I have a question or concern. And of course I love seeing her with Caleb- she's so crazy about him and it's wonderful. My dad is, too, and I love spending time with them these days.
How have you grown closer to your parents or in-laws since your baby came? I'd love to hear other people's stories.
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Re: Positive parent/in-law stories
J+E ~ 08/25/2007 DD#1 ~ 05/11/2010 DD#2 ~ 09/25/2013 DD#3 ~ 06/09/2016 Baby #4 Due ~ 01/16/2023
My ILs live one mile from our house, but they are so respectful of our space. They always ask if it's a good time to come over or if we can come over and visit. They are going to take care of LO once I go back to work in January and I'm so thankful I don't have to take him to a daycare and that he can be with people who have a personal connection and strong love for him
She's awesome and I couldn't have done this without her.
-My step-daughter is 12 years old.
-BFP #1 on 9/2/12, D&C 10/18/12 no heartbeat on US @ 10 weeks.
-BFP #2 on 1/7/13, R was born on 9/22/13 via C-Section
My da loves my girls so much. He makes them so happy and gets down to play with them, teases them, spanks the floor (or table, or sidewalk) when the girls trip and fall... He's awesome!
My mom has been so much help... She knows how it feels to have a bunch of little ones (I turned 5 just 2 months before she had her 4th baby). She is crazy good at showing me tricks to get the girls to behave, participate, try things, do chores etc. she has been at the end of every delivery taking pictures for us. When they were working on my dd1 trying to get her to breathe and I couldn't see or do anything, she brought me the camera so I could see my baby.
ILs are great too. They live 8 hours away, and I hate that we only see them 1 or 2 times a year.
Mil has her moments when I'm not quite sure how she wants a comment to be taken (joking or snarky, but not towards me, just in general). Mil had a mil who was tough, and she vowed to never be that type of mil. She does pretty good!
Fil spoils the girls rotten. He's always got treats for them or buys snacks he knows they'll love. I wa worried that he's let them get away with murder, but as they are getting older he's put his foot down on a few (very few) things with them (like making them share or not go into the front yard). So that's good.
Overall, my kids have 4 super grandparents!