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Attachment Parenting
missmodeste
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Bed sharing with toddler question
missmodeste
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We've bed-shared with my DD since she was 6 months (she started in rock n play and moved to our bed after growing out of it). It's been fine for us until now - I'm ready for her to sleep in her own room for at least part of the night.
She's 16 months old and I either lay down with her or rock her for naps (she falls asleep super fast and I can leave her on the bed until she wakes up 1.5/2 hours later). She finally figured out how to get off the bed safely so I'm ready to move her to her room for night time.
She has a queen bed with rails (like ours) in her room. We took the crib down because she never used it and it took up so much room. Does it make sense going from our queen with rails to her queen with rails bed alone?
The problem is that she more often than not wakes up 30 minutes after she falls asleep and I leave. She goes down at 8:30 and by the second wake up (9:30) I usually just go to bed too. I'm ready for more me and DH time in the evenings.
Do I keep going back in to settle her in hopes she will eventually sleep in longer stretches in her room? My thinking was that it's not routine yet so she will get used to the room. Or is she too attached to me? Is my only option at this point to do a Ferber/CIO routine? Anyone have advice?
My first goal is to have a couple of hours of me time after she's asleep. And then obviously I'd like her to sleep the entire night in her room without me but since we've got teeth left I know what lies ahead.
She's 16 months old and I either lay down with her or rock her for naps (she falls asleep super fast and I can leave her on the bed until she wakes up 1.5/2 hours later). She finally figured out how to get off the bed safely so I'm ready to move her to her room for night time.
She has a queen bed with rails (like ours) in her room. We took the crib down because she never used it and it took up so much room. Does it make sense going from our queen with rails to her queen with rails bed alone?
The problem is that she more often than not wakes up 30 minutes after she falls asleep and I leave. She goes down at 8:30 and by the second wake up (9:30) I usually just go to bed too. I'm ready for more me and DH time in the evenings.
Do I keep going back in to settle her in hopes she will eventually sleep in longer stretches in her room? My thinking was that it's not routine yet so she will get used to the room. Or is she too attached to me? Is my only option at this point to do a Ferber/CIO routine? Anyone have advice?
My first goal is to have a couple of hours of me time after she's asleep. And then obviously I'd like her to sleep the entire night in her room without me but since we've got teeth left I know what lies ahead.
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Re: Bed sharing with toddler question
My advice would be to go to her as she needs you right now. If you are always right there when she calls for you, she will feel more comfortable in her room and in sleeping on her own, because she'll trust in your immediate response. I know it's no fun now, but she might transition more quickly than you think and without it being a negative thing or fighting any battles.
Hang in there, mama! Uninterrupted evenings are in your future.
ETA: I think the queen is fine, but is it very high off the floor?