Now that I have DS I'm trying to navigate the fairness aspect of a blended family. Its not related to gifts.
Im a huge Christmas nut and Im deciding whether to do elf on a shelf and I found some stuff to make a letter FROM Santa for LO. I want to do stuff like this but I didn't do it for SDs. Its purely coincidental, they aren't here the whole month of DEC for EoaS and I got the idea for Santa letters just recently from an email from the county (you pay a fee and they will send you one so I thought I could make my own).
I guess its stupid because we have done special things with them at Christmas. I just don't want them to look back and feel like I did more for DS.
I also text them occasionally to talk to them or send them a pic of DS (send a pic maybe once a month not frequently or anything). they said they wanted me to send them pix but I get no response. I worry that they have negative feelings about it. Or they could just be acting like teens.
I just don't know if I'm doing this right and I'm insecure about maintaining this balance. I never want them to feel like "less" than DS in our eyes and I worry about this a lot.