I think I give off "don't touch me" vibes, because only one random person at my work has done this. She asked first, which was still awkward, because I didn't feel like I could say no.
I didn't feel any good vibes... I just felt slightly violated.
So far not too bothered when people rub my belly, mainly because it's been done by close friends and family. I did almost fall asleep during my anatomy scan though! LOL The room was dark, technician was talking softly, it was really early in the morning, I don't know a nap started to sound like a good idea LOL
I love it when DH rubs or touches my belly. It's sweet and kind of a bonding moment for us.
I haven't experienced anyone else touching my stomach yet, so I don't know how Ill feel. I just know I feel uncomfortable with the thought of touching OTHER women's bellies.
I like it, as long as its not a random person haha. But it makes me feel important or special or something weird I cant explain haha . Ive heard a lot of people don't like It which I don't understand
Married : ** 09/09/2011 ** BFP : 07-18-13 ** Baby #1 is a GIRL , Born 03/12/14 **
It only happened to me twice, both on the same day and didn't bother me at all. It was because it was at my best friend's son's 1st bday party and it was 2 of her family members (her mother and cousin) and I know them. So I didn't care at all. Then my friend actually poked me in my belly when I was leaving, that was funny. She was like "Oh honey, that's not fat. That's hard. That's baby!"
It doesn't bother me, at least not yet (maybe once I'm bigger and really get inundated I'll change my tune!). To me, I felt they were sharing their excitement for us, and that felt great.
However, if we were drawing a line in the sand, I do agree it's an inappropriate thing to do.
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I hate it!! I just think that it's still my body regardless of whether or not I have a tenant. If you wouldn't rub me like a genie lamp on a normal basis, the same rules still apply. I also hate when people talk to my belly. So f'n weird!!! You just have to stand there looking around while someone converses with your abdomen. There will be no response...knock it off!!!
When women do it, I feel the same way, they have been through this and want all the best. When men do it I am totally skeeved. My guy will hardly touch it for fear he is going to hurt the baby, so any guy, makes me want to karate chop their hand.
I enjoy flying solo in this mission! I love rubbing and scratching my belly its ok if mh does it but it usually tickles! But strangers umm no I don't want them in my bubble [-X
My ILs are the same. 6.5 years into our marriage, and I'm still trying to figure out how to say good bye. Hugging MIL is suuuuper awkward, but am I supposed to just wave? Shake hands? High five?
It's excruciating.
I believe this is specifically why the fist bump was invented.
ughh, DRFleener- has a man (other than your dh or father/brother other close relative) done that? yeah that would be fucking weird and I would stop them but it is soooooo sweet when my 10 year old rubs/pats my stomach.. I cannot wait to see him as a big brother (he's the youngest now)
I like my belly rubbed too!!! I feel beautiful when I'm pregnant even though I'm ginormous!!! It's almost like people are enjoying my pregnancy with me when they rub my belly. I'm a very touchy feely person to begin with though.
I really never had any random person touch my belly with DD and with this one no one has so far. I'm not excited about strangers or co-workers just randomly rubbing it, but if baby is kicking I usually ask family or friends (or co-workers who are friends) if they want to feel it. Is that weird? I love feeling babies kick and I don't mind at all if other people feel mine kick. I think it's an amazing thing and I love sharing the moment!
Married my love 6/11/11 | MMC 10/11/11 | Eliza Frances born 9/18/12 | Rhett Garland born 2/24/14
I love it!!! I guess trying for so long, and going through what we did to get to this point, it's just another reminder of how blessed we are!! Rub away people!!
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As long as it's not a stranger, I don't mind. In fact, I find it sweet when people acknowledge the baby, like with a little rub hello or good-bye. When I was six months pregnant with DD, I was on a train in Germany and had a chat with a nun. When it came to her stop she got up, put her hands on my belly and said a blessing before she left. It was the sweetest thing ever, and I really treasure that memory. (That's the only exception for a stranger rub, LOL.)
I actually ask my family and friends to rub ma belly, and they love it! They can't believe how hard it is. But I don't like it when my shirt gets pulled up for a better view. No more bare belly views, people!
I had a guy at work just sneak over when I was bent over at my friends desk and just sneak a rub. Seriously he snuck up, rubbed my belly and walked away like he didn't do it. It's not the first time he has rubbed my belly, but a sneak attack is kind of creepy.
My mom almost gave my baby the shake syndrome in the womb. She was wanting to feel him kick and thought shaking my belly would help. Please be kind to the belly!!!
I think it's adorable when my husband rubs my belly and talks to the boys! I haven't had too many other ppl touch my belly except a few coworkers which has been ok, but for some reason it kinda bothers me when my mom does it. I think it's probably because it's at random times like watching tv and She is just staring at me and rubbing my belly and it's creepy! Lol
I don't mind either, bit I'm also one who has never had a complete stranger invade my safety bubble. I have an 8th grade girl whom I have known for 2 years now who randomly walks past me in the hallway and rubs my tummy...I think I have a few more who would like to but aren't quite brave enough! None of my 6th graders are doing it yet, but they are new to me this year and don't know me as well.
I really thought it would bother me but now that my bump is more pronounced I don't really mind it too much. I am one of those awkward people to hug because for some reason I make it awkward I guess. Someone in my class rubbed my belly twice a week ago and the first time was weird bc it was a dude but then I met his wife and daughters so idk it just wasn't weird after that. I'm thinking it's only weird if I make it weird so I'm just going to let it happen.
I don't care too much about the rubbing; HOWEVER, people have started kissing my belly and that makes me feel totally uncomfortable. Granted, the people who have kissed my belly are my grandmother and best friend (and now my brother purposely trying to make me uncomfortable), but still -- Eww
@kelley72 my guys brother did it at like week 12 and there was nothing there. I was like hey, wait, what!! And sure we are all in the family but that was not cool!
I hate it when anyone but DH touches my stomach. My best friend is all about it, and it just feels invasive to me. I actually just had a conversation with her to let her know that I know she's well intended, but I hate it. I know people are excited about the baby, but they're not touching her. They're just touching me. The first time a stranger touches my belly, they may find themselves face to face with a woman screaming about unwanted touch.
Re: Confession: I like having my belly rubbed.
I think I give off "don't touch me" vibes, because only one random person at my work has done this. She asked first, which was still awkward, because I didn't feel like I could say no.
I didn't feel any good vibes... I just felt slightly violated.
I haven't experienced anyone else touching my stomach yet, so I don't know how Ill feel. I just know I feel uncomfortable with the thought of touching OTHER women's bellies.
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** BFP 2 : 01- 05-15 ** EDD 09-11-15 **
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BFP #3: baby girl born 3/5/2014
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Agreed, I've never had a stranger touch my abdomen and I love when friends/family do, to me it shows their joy over the baby!
Married my love 6/11/11 | MMC 10/11/11 | Eliza Frances born 9/18/12 | Rhett Garland born 2/24/14
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My mom almost gave my baby the shake syndrome in the womb. She was wanting to feel him kick and thought shaking my belly would help. Please be kind to the belly!!!
Married 9/8/07
BFP on 12/30/12, EDD 9/6/13, u/s at 8w no HB MMC 2/4/13
nothing there. I was like hey, wait, what!! And sure we are all in the family but that was not cool!