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May 2013 Moms
Boo0512
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Anyone feeling like a newb? (Also an H vent)
Boo0512
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I'm not talking about bump newb I mean mom newb ugh.
Yes, I'm still a new mom but for awhile there I really felt like I had my ish together. During this damn sleep regression I've started to feel like a failure. The last few nights it has taken me 4.5 hours to put DD to sleep! She is so crabby/clingy during the day, she wakes up several times per night and is hard to put back down, I'm just really over this phase.
It really doesn't help that H is super type A-problem solver-engineer-everything is black and white guy. He always assumes that dd is crabby/won't sleep because of something I ate (I EBF) or she is sick or in pain. I've tried to explain to him that it's most likely developmental and there isn't much we can do.
He keeps telling me that I need to "figure something out" and I keep telling him that DD is a human being and she can't communicate, there is no "figuring out" a baby. He thinks I'm wrong. He makes me feel like a shitty mom.
Gaaaahh! I won't to punch him in the face. I need wine.
Yes, I'm still a new mom but for awhile there I really felt like I had my ish together. During this damn sleep regression I've started to feel like a failure. The last few nights it has taken me 4.5 hours to put DD to sleep! She is so crabby/clingy during the day, she wakes up several times per night and is hard to put back down, I'm just really over this phase.
It really doesn't help that H is super type A-problem solver-engineer-everything is black and white guy. He always assumes that dd is crabby/won't sleep because of something I ate (I EBF) or she is sick or in pain. I've tried to explain to him that it's most likely developmental and there isn't much we can do.
He keeps telling me that I need to "figure something out" and I keep telling him that DD is a human being and she can't communicate, there is no "figuring out" a baby. He thinks I'm wrong. He makes me feel like a shitty mom.
Gaaaahh! I won't to punch him in the face. I need wine.
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Re: Anyone feeling like a newb? (Also an H vent)
You're doing great, mama! Poo on your husband for making you feel any differently.
It's all sorts of fun at my house!
This is a phase and it is seriously going to be over in the blink of an eye. I know sometimes its hard to remember, but they are only going to be this little for such a short period, just try to enjoy your baby. You aren't doing anything wrong, just sounds like your baby wants her mamma, which is totally natural.
Can I come? DH has actually gotten to be pretty awesome lately, but there were times I fantasized about being a single mom. How f'ed up is that?
My little bug, Madeline. Born June 2, 2013.
I know this to shall pass....
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But seriously babies aren't easy. They like to keep you on your toes and just as much as you are learning to take care of them they are learning some much more and that's really frustrating. Tell your H to think about how far your little person has come from a year ago when she was the size of a raspberry. And maybe he should give her and you a break. Your DD learns more in a day so to speak then we do all year. I can't even imagine what it must be like to have your mind blown every other minute all day.
And if he still feels the urge to fix something might I suggest he fix you a martini and stfu.
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@nonniedee wtf is wrong with these guys? I couldn't even count how many times my H has said since dd was born, "I think we're going to have to take her in, this crying isn't normal." Really? Stfu.
Glad to hear I'm not alone!
If he would fix himself dinner and stfu I'd be even happier.
I think we all learned from last week's FFFC when a baby cries for no reason you spank them.
Just kidding! Hope its not too soon to joke about that one...
and @Boo0512 - my husband was big on the " this isn't normal"...."something is really wrong." We have had lots of talks about it and lots of me screaming..."stop saying that!" And he finally stopped! Yay!