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July 2013 Moms
Carrie3102
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HELP.... LORD GIVE ME STRENGTH
Carrie3102
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They won't leave they've been here 24 straight hours I cannot take it. My house is trashed they are painting crafts in my kitchen DH has been out in the cold cutting all these gd crafts and still feels like shit but doesn't know how to tell mommy no.
I have laundry, dishes and other shit to do but instead I get to spend the day keeping my kid out if fucking paint.
So much more to tell but I'll end up crying so I'll tell that story after they leave.
I have laundry, dishes and other shit to do but instead I get to spend the day keeping my kid out if fucking paint.
So much more to tell but I'll end up crying so I'll tell that story after they leave.
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Re: HELP.... LORD GIVE ME STRENGTH
LFAF Summer 2016 Awards:
That's next level ridic..they need to leave!
Baby girl #1 7/11/13
Baby girl #2 4/30/15
Baby Boy Due 2/16/19!
Baby girl #1 7/11/13
Baby girl #2 4/30/15
Baby Boy Due 2/16/19!
Meanwhile DD just bit DS. I turned for one minute to try to get tummy time toys and blanket together. So she got her butt popped and put in time out. Yay for today!
And the b ruined Christmas for me. Two weeks ago when we were there and she showed us what all she'd bought for DD, a baby doll so there went that idea. Really upset me since I was going to get her a cabbage patch and give her an heirloom cradle... so I'm not now. In all fairness I didn't tell her so I will just wait until next year on the baby doll.
Told MIL I was going to make her some princess dresses and a box to keep her dress up clothes in and some costume jewelry. I told her so she wouldn't buy it. What are are the first words out of her mouth when she got here.... "hey I got Josephine a bunch of princess dresses and a chest to put it in. IH and crowns and bracelets and necklaces just couldn't help myself!!!" I had to leave the room I was so upset I wanted what we got her to be special.
I'm just not into the over materialization of Christmas. We don't have a lot of space and I don't want spoiled children who don't appreciate gifts. We're the parents and should not be getting one upped by the grandparents.
If it were me in your situation I would tell her that the dress up was a special gift that you really wanted to be from you and DH. If you had a heart to heart any reasonable person would understand and back off.
As for her coming back to continue her shenanigans..DH needs to say something. She can't just barge into your routine like that. If all else fails I'm with @maryannespier....shank that biotch.
Baby girl #1 7/11/13
Baby girl #2 4/30/15
Baby Boy Due 2/16/19!
How's your H doing?
@valstulas H is alright, they finally got him some antibiotics, and he improved from there. Now his thumb hurts from working outside all weekend and stoving it on something, had to take another day off to go to the doctor... if it's life threatening I can't get him to move, if it's trivial and he'll for sure live, then it's wahhh wah wah and keep me up all night. He's worse than an infant sometimes.
@emmanemm
I know right?! When i discussed it with him he was all,... she wants to spoil her, blah blah blah, and I'm all, yeah I'm not into mountains of gifts and nothing being special, but then he tried (as usual btw) to make me feel like an asshole for being upset about it, and for a change, I didn't let him, I told him she overstepped, and now I wasn't doing that at all because she ruined it for me. We're still not really speaking.
But then I feel like I should still make it, It's not DD's fault her mimi is an asshat. I'm thinking for her birthday, I'll make her a couple dresses and get DH to help me with a box, and then go get her some costume jewlery and give it to her at her party. Of course that's when MIL will decide to give it to her too. Ugh. I just like making things special and not just about having mountains of gifts.
I'm just having a tough time with this, I don't know if I'm overreacting or not because honestly nearly everything MIL does pisses me off, has since our wedding, that's a long story, then it got really bad in January right before we got pregnant with DD, and has just continued down hill from there.
Sad part, I actually used to like the woman. In DH's mind I will always come second. He has bursts where I think, he's getting it I'm his first priority not his mother... then stuff like this happens, and when I try to share my feelings with him, he tries to make me feel like shit or takes her side. so whatev.
He did ask after the argument "do you want me to talk to her about it?" I said no, because I knew he'd make it something about my parents not being able to do so much or me being butthurt rather than just saying, mom, it's almost christmas you didn't need to show up to the house with 2 new sets of pjs and 3 new outfits for each kid. She gives them something EVERY time we see them. It's annoying.
I understand what you're saying about not liking her and being unsure if you're overreacting. But honestly, Carrie, I don't think you are. I think it was extremely inconsiderate of your mil to buy that knowing you wanted to give it to your dd. It just reminds me of a friends mil who was always trying to one up her when it came to her kids. The grandmother wanted to be number one in her granddaughters eyes, but that's not fair. Mom and dad should come first.
Sorry you are dealing with this, it sounds so frustrating! Hugs, hang in there! Fx your husband realizes his mom was wrong!
@emmanemm thanks. I sometimes need reassurance that my dislike for MIL isn't clouding my judgement.
Good luck and Godspeed.