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High risk moms who are Team Green, come in...

lindsleeklindsleek member
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Do you ever get tempted with all the gazillion ultrasounds to just say "fine, tell me what it is". It's like dangling candy in front of a baby. I had a BPP u/s this morning and my husband and I were joking before the tech came in that we should just find out the sex. I have to admit that I was only half joking. Part of me just wants something good to celebrate! But then I think we have come this far, why not wait another couple weeks?
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Re: High risk moms who are Team Green, come in...

  • Roses87Roses87 member
    This is me exactly. I have a US next week. I told my dh maybe we should just find out and keep it to ourselves because if I deliver early it would be very stressful in the delivery room and I probably wouldn't be able to enjoy the surprise as much. He kinda shrugged my comment off though. I was having a bad day and I was emotional. I do think I would regret finding out if I made it full term and it was a relaxed environment.
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  • smscartozzismscartozzi member
    I totally felt the same way but am so glad we waited...we made bets on it going into surgery and DH now owes me a week of back rubs before bed in a few weeks!!

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  • lindsleeklindsleek member
    @sms- I give you credit! Team green with twins, man that would have pushed me over the edge... I would have had to find out!
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  • lindsleeklindsleek member
    @ roses - I know what you mean... I know I would totally regret it if I found out now after all this time!
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  • a2003tigera2003tiger member
    I've had two team green high risk pregnancies. I usually fear that the tech will slip up and show me the goods, more than I'm tempted to ask. It's totally worth that moment in the end! I wouldn't never do it any other way. I get tears eyed just thinking about it now. :)
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  • takmjstakmjs member
    I'm not pregnant now (TTC), but I was team green for my only pregnancy so far. I had ultrasounds VERY often (weekly or twice a week sometimes), and no one ever slipped up in telling me. They did say at the 20-week scan to look the other way b/c they were going to look in that area, and then they told me "never mind, baby's not cooperating, so even if you wanted to know, baby's at an angle that we can't see that area." It was like that the entire pregnancy, so I don't know if the doctors or techs or anyone ever knew.

    Once we delivered at 30 weeks and they did my emergency c-section, they pulled her out and whisked her to the other room right away. They didn't tell us the gender, and we had to ask them "is it a boy or girl?" The doctor that pulled her out didn't know and didn't pay attention, because she assumed we already knew, so they had to go look in the other room to see if it was boy or girl.

    I'm not sure what I'll do for my next pregnancy. Part of me really wants to know, because I didn't feel as bonded as I thought I should until she came home from the NICU 7 weeks later. It was like it wasn't all real until she actually came home, and I wonder if I would've had more of a bond if I knew the gender and called it by a name rather than saying "baby" all the time. I don't know. Part of me wants to know and try to keep it a secret from everyone else.
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  • takmjstakmjs member
    I forgot to mention that for 5+ weeks, I was in the hospital for bed rest, and even with all of those tests and ultrasounds, they never slipped up and told me. Each tech seemed to have their own story about why they usually say "he" or "she"--because of their own kids or nieces/nephews.

    All of the older people I work with, when I told them I didn't know the gender, would say "that's so great! It's the only surprise we have left any more, and it's such a big surprise!"
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  • lindsleeklindsleek member
    @takmjs - that is cool after all that and you still didn't find out. I guess I am not so worried someone will slip it is more me that wants to say "I give up". With my daughter we were Team Green but we only had one u/s the whole pg (I was not high risk) and so only one chance to find out the sex. Now with all these chances I get tempted because we have so many u/s. Will you be high risk with your next pg?
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  • obxlaurakobxlaurak member
    Interesting post!  I never really thought about this before.

    Husband and I go back and forth between not finding out, finding out and not telling anyone, or finding out and doing the whole gender reveal party thing.  I feel like I'll want to know but at the same time, not knowing sounds so fun too!

    I'm not pregnant yet so I suppose we have time to figure it out, hehe.
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  • rascus15rascus15 member
    My husband doesn't want to find out and I do.  I am 15 weeks and have had several u/s already and will have several more. I have 8 fibroids that are making me high risk.  The tech mentioned finding out the gender last ultrasound and we told her we are divided about it.  I told her I  am starting to think I agree with Hubby because this could be our one and only baby.  She told us she was glad because it takes the pressure off of her.  She said due to my fibroids we may not get to really see baby until he/she is born.  Debate solved, I guess we are waiting :)

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  • lindsleeklindsleek member
    @rascus15 - believe me, you will never regret not finding out. It is the best surprise on earth. It just takes a lot of self control when you are high risk and having multiple u/s you otherwise wouldn't have.
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  • tumbleflufftumblefluff member

    With DS I was high risk and had ~20 US.  I didn't want to find out but DH did.  We agreed to be Team Green and I wasn't tempted during any of the US.  I loved the surprise and with our next pregnancy plan to do the same.  DH said he was happy we waited to find out and said he wanted to be Team Green again!

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