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Fear (long-ish)

VegasGal1978VegasGal1978 member
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All of a sudden, I have this fear about delivery. I am comfortable with a vaginal delivery. We don't have an elaborate birth plan. With regards to meds, we are in the "lets see how it goes" camp. It's not a fear of pain for me, though I am not going to try to be super woman. My fear is specifically related to a possible c-section. I lost my dad in August. His cause of death was cardiac arrest as a result of sepsis obtained during a series of vascular surgeries he had in his lower abdomen. Suddenly I am fearful that his fate could become mine. The rational side of me knows that millions of women give birth via c-section with no issues, but I can't shake the thought that infection is a possibility with any surgical procedure. This fear is magnified by the fact that I seem to be growing a large baby. At 35 weeks, LO was measuring 7lb 9oz. Now, I know these measurements can be way off, but I also know that my LO has measured large at every growth scan (I have had three, and another coming a week from tomorrow). This makes me feel like a c is more likely in the cards. I refuse to google "sepsis resulting from c-section" because the Dr. Google is not always your friend. I will have a discussion with my OB at my 37 week visit tomorrow. I don't know if there is a question here. I think I am just clearing my mind. I am happy to hear any feedback or words of wisdom you ladies have. Thanks and sorry so long.
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  • GlitteraatiGlitteraati member
    I am so very sorry to hear about your father. You have all rights to be concerned and I highly recommend speaking to your OB about all of them.  Be reassured that they are always going to do what's in yours and LO's best interest.  Wishing you a very healthy delivery & LO! Hugs and please keep us posted if you do speak to your OB. 
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  • gwennehgwenneh member
    I am very, very sorry to hear about the loss of your dad. Even more so, since I am courting the same exact fear for nearly the same reason -- I am giving birth at the hospital where my mother in law developed sepsis and died in 2010, a situation I feel was completely and utterly preventable. This is why I have fought tooth and nail for a VBAC this time -- I refuse to be cut open at this hospital. Never mind it's a completely different surgical team, a completely different situation -- I refuse.

    On the subject of growth scans, I know it's been said many many times but they're just not accurate. They told me 9 lb. for DS, who popped out 7 lb. in the end. And even for large babies, the ACOG guidelines state there's no indication for a C-section for suspected macrosomia. I'm clinging to that line like a lifeboat right now.

    You don't need to Google "sepsis from C-section" because I've done it for you. I'll be terrified for both of us. Chances are we'll probably both be fine no matter how we give birth, but I'm just saying -- I'm right here with you.
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  • kabrissettekabrissette member
    I can relate to thinking about a c-section more and more recently - we also found out our LO is measuring at 7lbs 3oz at 35 weeks. My doctor is insisting that doesn't make me more likely to need a c-section though as it currently stands... she also doesn't have any plans to induce me. I'm having one more growth scan at 38 weeks to see where we're at.

    I will admit though that hearing how big he is has made me think about c-sections and the possibility of complications, etc. I am really just trying not to focus on the "what ifs" and realize that, like you said, tons of c-sections are done every day and the large majority of Moms are fine. Maybe it would be reassuring to talk about your concerns of infection etc with your doctor in advance? They may be able to give you some numbers on how low the # of severe complications are, it could help you to feel better.

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  • SharonB222SharonB222 member

    I try to remind myself that likely it will be fine (and if not, I'll deal).  I had a number of tough years and do feel that tragedy in a lifetime is inevitable, but recognize that there are many more years and events that are well and good.

    I'm glad I didn't know my DD was large (and compound presentation) or I would have worried - largest baby on my side of the family, came early - labor was fast, pushing was average time for me (otherwise might have been as short as labor).  So now with a larger DS in gestation... I hope it goes similarly: that he and my body decide on the mutually right time... time will tell...

    I'm sorry your father passed away.

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  • mskatiepmskatiep member
    I am so sorry about your father! When you discuss this with your doctor ask if your hospital uses Sage chlorhexidine wipes before surgery. They have been shown to significantly reduce infection after surgery. I hope that helps ease your mind a little. I have similar fears. Good luck momma!


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  • VegasGal1978VegasGal1978 member
    Thank you all for your thoughts. It is reassuring to knowi that i am not alone in my fears. I will most definitely be discussing this with my OB tomorrow, along with asking about the sage chlorhexidine wipes. Also taking the advice not to focus on the what ifs and try to take this wonderful time moment by moment, focusing on the good.
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  • michroccmichrocc member
    I'm very sorry for your loss, and given the circumstances and how recent it was, I don't think a single person could fault you for worrying. That said, I agree with the girls. A larger baby doesn't always mean c-section. I'm hopeful that you'll be able to have the vaginal birth you want. 

    Have you spoken to your OB about these worries? I think that would be a great step in easing some of your fears.
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